Thursday, August 15, 2013

The School Of Porn


Many men today, even Christian men, are attending the School Of Porn.  This school teaches men that a real body isn't good enough.  It teaches that one body isn't good enough.  It teaches them that their wife's {or future wife's} body isn't good enough.

Real women can't compete with these images.  These images cause men to view women as a commodity.  Pornography has been found to act like a drug that deadens a man's desire for real women.

Single men, the greatest thing you can do for a great romantic relationship down the road with your wife is to quickly check out of this school. This school sets you up for extraordinary disappointment.    Begin renewing your mind with God's Truth.  Be in His Word daily.  Give other guys your passwords to all your internet access and have them hold you accountable.  Walk in integrity and holiness.

Ken and I have personally seen the destruction that pornography can have on young couples.  Young men aren't interested in sex with their wives.  They find sex boring.  It is devastating on a marriage.  Teach your sons to flee all forms of sexual immorality when they are young and continually teach them God's Word so they will be able to put on the full armor of God daily to fight this beast.

Society teaches men that it is not their nature to be monogamous for life.  God tells them they can be.  Who do you believe? Do everything you can to prevent your sons from checking into the School Of Porn.  You will save them and many others much heartache.

Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. 
Instead, pursue righteous living, 
faithfulness, love, and peace. 
Enjoy the companionship of those 
who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
II Timothy 2:22

***A lot of the content of this post was from a sermon I listened to by Andy Stanley.

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i read somewhere that pornography changes or alters the chemicals in the brain. So do other types of sinful behavior. There's a significant increase in mental illnesses along with the accessibility to porn and drugs, etc.
Great post Lori. I have heard that pornography is just as addicting as drugs. It's so scary, especially raising a son in today's world. He's almost six so no problems yet of course. ;) But the future scares me. I'm thankful he has such a strong wonderful daddy to teach him and be his example.
You are so right about this!

PS -- I want to encourage you in your new bravery to extend your teaching ministry towards men. I know you used to apply the common misinterpretation that women can only share their insights with children and other women, so I consider this post, with paragraphs specifically directed to 'single men' quite a degree of progress. Men and women need to be free openly learn from one another, and this is a great start.
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Lori is in the right when she doesn't want to teach man. The Bible has this to say about women teaching:

"But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man...." (1 Timothy 2:12)

That doesn't mean that she can't state her views to a man, only that she shouldn't teach them in the pastor-ical sense. Women shouldn't hold teaching roles over men, it's just not Biblical.
Lori regularly writes about all spiritual issues that relate to the Christian family. She writes with a specific and important purpose on her blog, to train young Christian women and wives as to how to best follow God's ways as outlined clearly in the scriptures. I do not think she wants her ministry to stray too far from her main purpose, and today's post fits right in with it as she admonishes mothers to train their young men in this important area of discipline and holiness.
That is so sad that young husbands aren't interested in having sex with their wives. It's interesting to hear that porn has had that effect in the marriages you've seen; I can't imagine preferring pictures/videos over the real thing! I do completely agree that watching porn can lead to a totally warped view of sex and intimacy, especially when it is the first exposure young people have to sex. My personal view is that sex education is the answer. Most teenagers watching porn have no idea that most of the things they see are wildly inaccurate representations of sex. There is very little variety in porn, so teenagers come to think that everyone should look a certain way and do certain things during sex. That's a major problem.

I'm not completely anti-porn though. Personally, I compare porn to alcohol. I don't think most teenagers are mature enough to drink alcohol. And even among mature adults, it can ruin someone's life if they become addicted to it. But coming from my non-Christian perspective, I don't see it as "sin" and I don't believe it necessarily leads to an unhealthy marriage or sex life, if both partners have the same view. (Obviously if one person believes it is evil and the other doesn't, that could be devastating for sure.) I'd love to read more studies about the effects though! There was an article at "To Love Honor and Vacuum" about porn not too long ago that mentioned some findings of different studies, but she didn't link to them, sadly. And I'm one of those skeptical women who would prefer to read them for myself I guess :)
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I saw Dr. Jill Manning do a presentation about porn at a women's conference. The studies and statistics say everything. Google Dr. Jill Manning and you can watch it on YouTube or read about a lot of her research. Really interesting! She has even testified before the US Senate about this. Look into it!
Will do! Thanks for the reference.
Here is one article, Courtney ~
http://www.businessinsider.com/porn-ruining-sex-l...

Just google "dangers of porn" and you will find many articles on the devastation of pornography. All one has to look at is all the families and marriages that are devastated by it to know that something is terribly evil about it. Besides, it dehumanizes women and makes them into objects. There is nothing good about it except maybe for a few pleasurable moments. Short term gain for long term pain...
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