Breastfeeding a baby for a year or more is the most healthy nourishment for a baby. I nursed all of my babies for at least a year. However, I have a problem with this new "breastfeeding shaming" that is going on. Women today believe they can show their breasts since they are breastfeeding their baby as if a bare breast is okay since they are breastfeeding.
God commands older women to teach young women to be chaste and discreet. He also commands that women be modest. We are to cover our bodies and keep them covered except for our husbands. Men like breasts. They like to look at them and feel them. It matters not if they are having sex with their wives, seeing them on television or watching a woman whose breast is exposed while she is nursing. Men are visual by nature. Why do you think pornography brings in billions every single year and it is mostly men who struggle with it?
For some reason, young women today believe that if they are nursing their baby in public and they expose their breast, it's okay. It's not okay. It's not being chaste, discreet and modest. We had this discussion in the chat room and I was shocked that some young women didn't understand this so this is the reason God commands older women to teach young women these things. If young women aren't being taught to be modest, discreet and chaste by older women, they aren't going to hear it anywhere else. I am hear to tell you that men don't distinguish a bare breast that is nursing a baby to breasts he may see in a magazine.
Exposing your breasts to men who are not your husband is immodest. I realize this is not the message being given by the media but it's a message being given by God. It matters not how other women in other countries breastfeed their babies openly and how it is becoming more and more acceptable in our society. Christians are called to a much higher standard than the world around us and we are called to walk the narrow road of obedience to the Lord as an example to this "faithless and perverse generation" {Matthew 17:17}.
Exposing your breasts to men who are not your husband is immodest. I realize this is not the message being given by the media but it's a message being given by God. It matters not how other women in other countries breastfeed their babies openly and how it is becoming more and more acceptable in our society. Christians are called to a much higher standard than the world around us and we are called to walk the narrow road of obedience to the Lord as an example to this "faithless and perverse generation" {Matthew 17:17}.
The majority of the women in the chat room believed it was fine to breastfeed in public as long as a woman is discreet and not showing her breasts which I agree with. Some babies don't like to be covered but there are still ways to be covered. However, one of the women made this comment that was profound and I was happy to see got many 'likes', "Sometimes obedience is a cross. I've now nursed six children and have had some that didn't mind covers and some that absolutely hated them. The issue here is not about our 'rights," but what is right. Didn't Paul say if eating meat causes his brother to stumble that he should never eat meat again? There are times in life that practicing love will mean a cross for us. It means I may have to move to an area where my baby can eat without a cover. I may miss a show, conversation, a meal, etc. but I am honoring God with my body and considering others before myself."
Young women, I am commanded by the God of the universe to teach you to be discreet while breastfeeding. We should not learn any of our ways from the society we live in but by God's Word and His will for us. He created men and knows how they are built. He commands women be chaste, discreet and modest for a reason; to protect our brothers in Christ and not to put stumbling blocks into their path. It is also a way to honor the Lord with our bodies and saving them only for our husbands. The most important reason for being discreet according to this verse in Titus is so women will not blaspheme the Word of God.
Older women teach the young women....To be discreet, chaste,
keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands,
that the word of God be not blasphemed.
keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands,
that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5
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thejoyfilledwife 62p · 512 weeks ago
Once, my family was at the park playing and my husband and I were talking to a lady. I had walked away for a second to move my little one to another spot on the playground and when I came back, the lady had whipped out her breast, started nursing her 2 year old, and was facing my husband talking to him. My poor husband was so shocked! Poor thing completed his sentence facing completely away from her and ended up walking away to play with the kids. We had that happen a second time with another woman while we were eating dinner at a restaurant with her and her husband. Sometimes I am utterly shocked by the poor judgment of others. Thank you for sharing your wisdom on this subject.
Courtney · 512 weeks ago
It is a sad state of affairs we as a country are in now.
Rebecca · 512 weeks ago
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Trisha · 512 weeks ago
Yes a lot of babies hate being covered up.
But protect your modesty!
I took the moments to nurse my child away from home as a moment alone with my son. If I have to leave the room it may be quieter so I can have my li'l conversations with him.
If I can't leave the room the cover made do and I tried to be in a corner.
Heck, sometimes I put the cover over my head as well so I could smile at my cute baby!
But yes, promote nursing wherever you are- but also protect yourself.
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Brian · 512 weeks ago
What I only recently realized is that we're not talking about women publicly feeding their babies, we're talking about women who use no discretion when doing so. That was 'the rest of the story' that I had been missing.
It is generally difficult for women to understand that men are visually stimulated, because it is so foreign to the way their minds work. So, those that think men and women are the same gender may honestly not understand what's at issue here. Thanks for putting out a blog full of practical wisdom from the Word of God!
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Raquel · 511 weeks ago
I breastfeed in public without an official cover, but I am still very discreet and modest in the way I do it. I used to use a cover, but my daughter does not do well with it at all. She's much fussier at the breast when I would use it, and she would get so warm inside (although it wasn't thick material whatsoever). We would draw so much attention to ourselves- not discreet at all. Instead, I usually have a little blanket or burp cloth, etc with me. I position the blanket underneath my daughter- specifically her head and along the side of my arm that I'm feeding on. I also pull my shirt up, so that it bunches at the top near her face, so no skin shows. The blanket doesn't cover her face- so she can still see me. It isn't too warm because it's not actually wrapped around her. And it keeps any of my torso covered, should she move or whatnot. (Instead of a blanket, you can also use a nursing tank top.)
Before I did anything, though, I talked with my husband. I asked him for his thoughts. I showed him what breastfeeding looks like with the cover and without the cover/with the blanket. He made the final decision on me breastfeeding in public. I believe that every woman should first go to her husband and get his thoughts on the topic. If my husband were uncomfortable with the way I was nursing my daughter, I would change it!
People hardly know I'm nursing unless they look real close or hear her gulping! (haha) Several people have been in a conversation with me for a few minutes when they suddenly say, "Oh! You're nursing! I thought you were just holding her." haha
We can be discreet and modest AND care for our wee babes.
Again, thank you for bringing up this topic.
~Raquel www.atthenewlyweds.blogspot.com
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