Thursday, June 25, 2015

Love the Role God Has Given You!


Do you realize that all of God's commands given to young women center around the home? He doesn't command older women to teach young women to be involved in their church, attend Bible studies or even to read the Word daily and pray. His commands are for the good of the family; love your husband and children, be chaste, good, and keepers at home.

Husbands are commanded to work hard and provide for what? The family! Everything revolves around the family for this is where God does His greatest work. We can see the devastation everywhere that has happened as women have left their homes to pursue things outside of the home. 

God's desire is to raise up a family for Him and for His glory. This should also be our primary goal. How do we do this? By being godly, submissive help meets to our husbands and raising our children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. This doesn't just take "quality" time, it takes all of your time!

There are only so many hours in a day and those hours should be spent raising a family for the Lord, if you have one. Women are told that they may win disobedient husbands by their godly behavior. Children will rise up and bless a godly mother. It ALL revolves around the home and family!

It takes years to raise godly offspring. It takes time to keep a home neat and tidy. It takes knowledge and time to shop for the healthiest food you can afford and fix it and to spend your money wisely. It takes hours of study and research to find different ways to heal your family naturally and keep their immune systems strong. It takes a conscious effort to love on your husband and help him to enjoy the wife of his youth. None of these things should be taken for granted and all of them should be the focus of your life for these directives are from the Lord.

When others mock you for your decision to stay home full-time and maybe you have even given up a lucrative job, think of these wise words from my husband ~

Remember that when you are walking with the Lord and doing His will, it makes no difference what foolishness others think or say. If you want to win them, do it with joy and laughter. Show them that you love life and love the role God has given you. What they need to see is your joy in the Lord as you serve Him faithfully, not your upset over their desire for worldly ways. We can win very few if we ourselves do not shine Jesus to a dark and dying world. It's not emotional abuse when they disagree strongly with you; they were just sure they knew what was best for you and they are dead wrong. Show them by your attitude and love how wrong they really are and by the fruit of your ministry. 

Do not be grieved,
 for the joy of the LORD is your strength.
Nehemiah 8:10

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Thanks for this encouraging and uplifting post. I love this post and I am going to print it out! I don't have a problem with people getting me to go work. However, the church we attend thinks you can be involved more if you are home. I often get called to help in children's classes, bring food to once a month fellowship even if we don't stay, plus cleaning the church ect.

Has the church gone to far to expect women to be involved more in serving at church, because they are home? I guess I am too kind heart it and volunteer. I guess I am looking for more advice how to respond kindly in this area, to say No and not fill guilty about it.

Thanks so much for your dedication to this blog. It is needed for us younger women in this day and age.
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If you have children at home and are busy with them, housekeeping and taking good care of your children, no, you don't need to help in church since your home and family are your ministry. The older women in the church should be serving and volunteering in the church since they are the ones with time on their hands.
Thanks! I need to remember to look at my home and family as ministry all the time. I know the leadership is always saying how everyone needs to serve in a ministry at church. My husband and I did at first but now it is burning us out. We also are looking at if it takes away from our family it is not Biblical. Than we thought maybe it needs to be a balancing act.

Thanks for reminding me, that I do have a ministry. I love my ministry at home! I wouldn't trade it for anything.
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Sarah Hoptry · 509 weeks ago

What do you mean in the fourth paragraph about disobedient husbands......?
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1 Peter 3:1 says that a wife can win a husband who is disobedient to the Word, without a word; but their chaste and godly behavior. Such a husband may be an unbelieving husband, or may be a husband who knows the Word of God and chooses not to obey it. In either case, the prescription for a godly wife is to try and win him with her joyful love and service towards him and the family that he might see the Jesus who lives inside of her and he might too embrace Jesus as Lord and become obedient to His Word.
I was just reminded about the law of firsts when studying Scripture. The first of the three institutions God created was the home, then government/ social laws & structure, then the Church. Also, God shows His heart for the home even promising when His people are right with Him, He will 'turn the hearts of the fathers to their children...." It is sort of assumed in those verses that the mothers' hearts are already with their children, and in the NT it talks about people 'without natural affection.' The comment was made recently in my hearing that the upheaval caused by more modernly widespread ungodly philosophies regarding the home and family, has produced unnatural affections and desires in women, yet they are a rerun of all the lies of Satan throughout history, just repackaged for a new audience. What do you think about that view?
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It sounds right on target to me!
If your husband wants you too, yes, He does. You need to continue to pray and ask the Lord to convict and change your husband! Just the money you would save from private Christian schooling would be plenty for you to be able to save home and then trusting in the Lord's provision since He does want women at home.
It is hard being a homemaker in this day and age...I started working when I was 17 until I was 24 then I got married and stopped. I made the mistake of working again when my husband got fired from his job and was unemployed for almost a year...I stopped when he got a new job.

He has said a few times that I should work, but I already am a homemaker. Others always put pressure on me, such as the doctors I consult for my health, family members and nosy strangers. I am tired of all these comments.
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Get used to it. I doubt it's going to get any better. As believers who want to obey God and walk in His ways, we will always get mocked and frowned upon for how we live our lives. However, remember that it is the Lord we want to please and no one else.
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HappyHomemaker · 509 weeks ago

I remember one year, Christmas fell on a Sunday and the church I attended decided to have services that morning. I was talking to a lady and mentioned that I would not be there that morning because I would be at home with my husband and child. I was told that I shouldn't do that. I responded that I thought Christmas should be spent with family and enjoying the time we got together and I was then told that I was supposed to put God first, and since I wasn't coming to church that morning I wasn't doing that. It's hard when you are first learning your role as a wife and mother, especially when much of the criticism comes from within the church. Where I live, people believe you can't be a Christian if you don't attend church (I don't), but I finally decided that until God shows me otherwise (in scripture, not through the talk of others) my place is at home with my husband on Sundays.
I like how Ken talks about others seeing our joy. But what about intense grief caused by great loss? I can't just paste a smile on my face and not be honest. I am truly going through grief right now and every one in my life knows this. I am on medication right now and sometimes I feel like I am losing my mind. I think I am too concerned with how others view me as a Christian. I already have a problem with stuffing my feelings and then it comes out in other wrong ways. I feel like my Pastor and others at my church do not care. How can I get my joy back?

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