Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Hospitality Around the Dinner Table


Every summer, we vacation in Door County, Wisconsin. My parents have a cabin on Lake Michigan at the 'top of the thumb.' There is not a stoplight or fast food joint for 50 miles. There's very little traffic. It's quiet and peaceful; a wonderful rest for our bodies and souls. Most nights, we gather around my mom's big table for dinner. It is usually fresh-caught white fish, baked potatoes and a huge salad. Those are my favorite times. Sometimes, a cousin or two, friends or aunt will join us. {Both of my parents were raised just north of Chicago. My grandpa built the cabin next to my parents the year I was born. All of my relatives still use this cabin to vacation in every summer. I've been going up there since I was born, so we know ALL the relatives and it is GREAT!}

Once a week, we will go into town and eat at a restaurant. It is fun but it can't compare to eating in a home around a table. In a home, it's not nearly as noisy, you know exactly what is in the food, and someone you love prepared it for you {or if you're the mom, you probably prepared it}. The fellowship is richer and lasts longer. I believe the reason for this is because God commands that we be hospitable and this means to open our homes and feed others. It takes a lot more effort to fix a nourishing meal than to simply spend some money taking them out to a restaurant.

Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house, Your children like olive plants around your table {Psalm 128:3}. This table is the dinner table. The last meal Jesus had was a Passover, around a table, in an upper room of a home. Having meals around a table in a home is important to the Lord so it should be to us also! 

You can use this time to share what you learned that day, strengthen beliefs in the Lord, or just laugh and have a great time. Have a devotion at the end of the meal; you don't want it at the beginning or the food will get cold! Pray together. It is a time to come together as a family and celebrate the food the Lord has provided as well as the loving relationships that He has blessed you with.

For several years, I would fix a meal after church on Sundays and have any family in town and friends over. It was a very special time together. Now, we have everyone over for dinner for any celebration or when some of our out-of-town children are in town. This is my very favorite thing to do! It doesn't have to be fancy or gourmet food. None of my recipes are gourmet, time-consuming or difficult. They are all healthy since I believe food is for nourishing our bodies, not destroying them.

In today's society, there are many who rarely eat a home-cooked meal. They are too busy or never learned to cook so they eat every meal out in a noisy, impersonal restaurant. God's people should not be like this since women are called to be keepers at home and prepare nourishing food for their family.  It is also much more friendly on the budget and healthier for the body and the soul. Begin eating meals around your table and enjoy fellowship with those whom the Lord has blessed you with.

Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.
1 Peter 4:9

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That cabin sounds wonderful! It's so nice to get away and spend time with loved ones. We live in the upper Midwest and will sometimes travel and rent a cabin in the Black Hills, but it'd be special to have your own. I have a brother-in-law who is a computer software engineer and he travels all over the world for his job. When he is actually home with us over the holidays, he never fails to mention that homemade meals are so much better than anything he's ever had anywhere else! And he's been to France, Italy, England, Sweden, Japan, India and Australia to name a few. He and my sister will often travel because he gets so many free airline miles. They just went to Cancun and my sister ended up getting a horrible stomach bug from something she ate. While it's fun eating out, it's never the same as home-cooked meals. My husband farms and I love working in our garden and raising a lot of our own meat. And I use several of your recipes regularly! They're very good.
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When I was growing up, my mom had a garden and every summer we'd eat fresh vegetables from it including corn on the cob. Those were my favorite meals! There's nothing like fresh produce right from the ground. Up in Door County, we found an organic farmer to buy a lot of our food from and it is incredible! They have grass-fed meat that is the best my family has ever tasted. They can't wait to get back for the bacon! I love the fresh produce. Yum!
I've used the "Once a Month Cooking" method quite a bit. It is very fatiguing, but the work is then done, and you have the cooking out of the way and in the freezer so you can get other things done. Then you have plenty of already prepared food on hand. I highly recommend it.
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Yes, we all have to find out what works for each of us. I prefer to make meals fairly close to the time we'll eat them. Then they'll eat the leftovers for a few days afterwards!
We are on a tight budget, but save a lot of money by cooking most all our meals at home and most of those meals are based around what we grow in our garden.
1 reply · active 511 weeks ago
Agreed, Nicole, having one's own garden can save a lot of money!
We eat home cooked from scratch traditionally prepared meals and snacks almost all of the time! The only time we don't is when we eat at someone else's house or the very rare occasion in when we choose to go to a restaurant. Which is quite literally almost never! We just can't rationalize spending so much money on food that is bad for you too! It's more stressful to go to a restaurant too, because I worry about what we're being served although I try to just enjoy the meal for what it is sometimes I can't help but think of all the nasty ingredients!
It is much more enjoyable to be in a home setting as well!
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Eating out once in awhile is fun, except when it's too noisy, in my opinion. If I have to yell at someone to talk to them and strain to try to hear what they say, it's simply no fun for me and not worth the money.
Since our daughter was big enough to sit in her high chair, we have been eating at our table. It is a very big deal to us to have dinner together and we make sure it happens almost every night. Just last week we had dinner with friends at their house, they eat in front of the tv. My family sat at the table they never use except to collect junk. We may not always have things to talk about at dinner, but it's so nice knowing we always can. Three weeks and my family will be having dinner in the cabin. Cannot wait!
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You're a good mother, Crystal. Those special times around the dinner table as a family are priceless.
Thank you Lori for this post and all your teachings. I can't explain how much I appreciate them! Even though I'm friendly, welcoming, attentive and kind to my 'visitors' I inwardly 'freak out' when I have to feed them. I so wish I was confident and adept because your examples are dearly what I'd hope to have/be. It's never too late (we're grandparents) and I'll keep trying. Thanks for your example and encouragement.
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It gets easier with practice, Linda. Find good recipes that are fool-proof. This is a recipe I use for company and even large crowds and everyone loves it!
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2011/04/chicken...
Thank you for this good reminder post, Lori. One of my big weaknesses is hospitality. Firstly, I do find hosting extremely stressful, and I'm not naturally good at it. Secondly, it's been stressful having dinner guests ever since we had children, because we are always struggling with some sort of eating-related discipline issue at the table (manners, picky eating, neatness, etc.). I think I would say that meal times are one of our family's most stressful times. This is something we're working diligently on, but we still struggle - horribly. So hospitality is not one of my strong points! But thank you for the reminder to keep at it, and hopefully sometime we'll see fruit.
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I have the same problem if it's any comfort. :-) We have six and I homeschool with a very demanding classical curriculum. Sometimes we aren't done until three in the afternoon and my older child needs my help to tackle Latin and other things, and only one of my children really is able to handle composition without my help or continued involvement. It's not uncommon to find that by the midafternoon I am just exhausted and the last thing I want to think about is dinner. This is why I use the once-a-month cooking book by Mimi Wilson and Mary Beth Langerborg to make things up ahead of time. I don't always use the whole month plan, but I frequently use the two week method they outline in there. I have the first book they published with Focus on the Family and the more current edition that has some more expanded recipes. We've never missed a family dinner since and have been able to get the schoolwork done at the same time.

However, I don't have company over as much anymore, because I would be left with a lot of mess afterwards, and often it meant a ruined school day the next day or a drained Sunday of cleaning up after the Saturday evening soirée (because it can't sit for obvious reasons). When we have company with their children (which means we frequently have up to seventeen children in the house), we now do paper plates and plastic cutlery so it can be thrown away and there won't be a mountain of dishes to wash (I don't have a dishwasher). We also grill hot dogs and hamburgers, with potato salad and coleslaw. Also, to make it easier, if people offer to bring a dish, accept the offer of help gratefully.
This is something I had to learn to do, and it made entertaining much easier.
My husband and I have always agreed on the significance of meals at home around the table. Even when we were dating, our "dates" were often meals that we made ourselves at one of our apartments. We enjoyed eating food that we had chosen and prepared. Our girls are learning to cook simple meals now also. Thank you for posting your recipes! We have made several of them and especially enjoy the chicken parmesan with whole wheat pasta. Nutritious and delicious!

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