This grandma says, "Bravo!
And if I may say something about waiting for children; my experience is that,
in hindsight, one should be open to children always because there may never be
a 'later.' One of you may become ill, or you may not have a long
fertility window in your physical make-up, or a million other reasons. Getting
pregnant is more difficult with each passing year. That is best done on God's
schedule. And don't ever let money worries stop you from having children.
There is an old saying 'with every baby God sends a loaf of bread.'"
This was a comment on Danielle’s post, "Are We Accepting Society's
Norm?" which is a great post, by the way. I love this
grandma’s comment! If we would not have waited, we probably would have another
child since soon after I had Cassi, I became very ill and could not have any
more children. Our children are, BY FAR, our greatest joy in life! Ryan, my
oldest son, and his wife, Erin, just had their third baby. The baby was
sleeping on my chest the other day; there is nothing more precious than the
smell and feel of a newborn baby! It was touching watching Erin holding her
baby and not being able to take her eyes off of her; it never gets old! Then
baking cookies with my other two grandchildren was a joy beyond comparison as
the two year old kept saying to me, "You're
so funny!" I admit that
this is NOT something said often about me!
For all of you women who can’t have children, I know you mourn deeply.
God is with you in your pain and we can trust Him in His providence over our
lives. One of the many tragedies about abortion is that for all of the
infertile couples, those aborted babies would have been happily adopted
by these couples. Instead of being adopted into good homes, they are brutally
murdered and women who desire a baby grieve.
For all of you who can have children, stop listening to what society and
even your family say is best for you. Listen to what God says are blessings
from Him! He created marriage for families. He wants godly couples to raise
godly offspring. Every single baby is formed in the womb by Him.
Many worry about the expense. If you nurse your baby for a long time, use cloth diapers and don’t buy them all the latest gadgets, they are not expensive to raise. This is an area where we MUST trust God for He is our Creator and Sustainer. Even homeschooling can be inexpensive. Use the library to check out good books for your children to read and have them read a lot and do math. All other subjects will come easy to them if they are good readers and know math. Live simply and train them to be content with what they have. What they want most is a home with a mother and father who love them and each other.
On a news program, they showed a video of a little boy going off for his
first day of kindergarten. Someone asked him if he’d miss his mom and he said, “No.” However, after thinking about it for a
few seconds, he began bawling his eyes out. I don’t think children should be
separated from their mother for hours every day. Yes, my children went to
public school when they were young but as I have grown older, I don’t see the
wisdom in this. On this same program, they were also discussing the stress
children are under in the fall when they have to go back to school with the
bullying and competition that takes place in every single school.
Now that schools have departed so far from our values and teach things
contrary to them, it makes no sense to send our children to public school all
day, all week long for many years. God gave these children to us to raise in
the nurture and the admonition of Him, not strangers whom many know not Him.
When I asked the women in the chat room why they homeschool, Melissa
from Far Above Rubies responded, "We do
homeschool, and I have lately had in my heart another reason why. It goes back
to how Jesus was tempted. Satan said {and I paraphrase}, 'Throw yourself
down from here...He will save you.' Jesus replied, 'Thou shalt
not test the Lord thy God.' I have heard the Lord saying to me that
one reason He wants us to homeschool is because we may believe He can save us
from a corrupt world, and He sure can but that we are not to test Him with the
hearts and souls of our children. We know the commands of God about teaching
and training our children are to PARENTS, not to anyone else. And it would be
testing Him to 'throw them down' to wolves in any environment.
That is our conviction, and a very deep word to me from the Lord that I have
not shared with anyone before."
Here are
some wise words to ponder. Instead of listening to what the world is telling
you, listen to the Savior of your soul. If God sends you the blessings of
children, trust Him to help you to provide for them and raise them up to become
God-fearing adults.
But my God shall supply all your need according
to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19
