Friday, April 25, 2014

Protecting Children From Sexual Abuse


Fathers and Mothers, you must be very diligent in protecting your children from sexual abuse in our society today. With sexual immorality and pornography rampant, you cannot just sit by doing nothing. Neighbors are sexually abusing little girls and boys in the bushes at the park. They do it when your children come to their home to play. It is happening. I hear about it way too often.

You must talk to your children at a very young age so they will be well educated in what is proper behavior. Get Debi Pearl's books Samuel Learns To Yell And Tell and Sara Sue Learns To Yell And Tell and read them to your child consistently even when they are very young. They need to be aware of the dangers around them so they can be prepared.

The statistics of young children being abused is alarming. Normally, the safest place for children to be is in a home with a mother and father who faithfully attend church, read the bible as a family, and pray.

Also, teach your sons the dangers of pornography. Tell them if they ever see even an image of a naked lady to flee. Explain to them that looking at that garbage will have the potential to destroy any future sexual relationship they may one day have with their wife. I wrote a post Take Porn By The Horn awhile ago and if you have sons, I would encourage you to have them read it.

We live in a very dark and decaying society. Arm your children with Truth, especially God's Truth, be careful who you allow your children to hang around with, and the pray for God's hedge of protection around them.

And whosoever shall offend one of these 

little ones that believe in me, 
it is better for him that a millstone were hanged 
about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.
Mark 9:32

***You are complete in Him! His divine power 
has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness.


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Educating young children about the dangers of sexual abuse is really important. I applaud you for raising the issue. Children, especially those who are raised to be obedient to authority, need to know that there are times that they can and must say no, and tell someone what is happening.

The only thing I question is the idea that isolating children within the home keeps them safe. Someone very close to me was the long-await daughter after several sons, and the parents were very protective of her. No daycare or outside babysitter would be trusted with their precious little girl. Instead, the grandparents babysat when necessary. Well, when the little girl was only 8, she disclosed to a friend that the grandfather had been molesting her since she was 5. The irony is that she would have been safer in a licensed daycare, where there are background checks, constant eyes and supervision. The other irony is that while this little girl was very close to her family, she only felt comfortable disclosing the abuse to a friend who was not connected to the grandfather.
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This is such a sad story. Unfortunately, while there are many precautions we can (and should) take to prevent these situations, we will not always be able to prevent abuse from happening. I'm sorry your friend's daughter had to go through this.
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Marianne D. · 570 weeks ago

Normally I will not post if I disagree with what you say….but this one just cut to my heart….you said: "The safest place for children to be is in a home with a biological mother and father ". Well, I am a mother to an adopted child and no she is not my biological child….I am sure you did not mean this for adoptive parents but that is what it means..
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Thank you for pointing this out to me, Marianne. I took out the word "biological" since I know there are many fabulous adoptive and step parents out there.
So important to teach our children to be aware of potential dangers! Clara Hinton at Finding a Healing Place http://www.findingahealingplace.com/ takes it even further and is working hard to educate everyone, especially parents on spotting red flags. I have learned a lot from her, and I'm hoping more and more people will be able to spot possible predators and keep our children safe.
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I was going to mention her blog as well. I was very naive on this subject, until I read and follow her story/blog. I have learned so much and we now have a few family rules in place to help protect our children (like no sleepovers, making sure no adult takes our children to the bathroom at church alone, not having a guy present in the house if we have a sitter for a date night and a few others). Girls can be pedophiles, but since over 90% are men you are protecting them by making sure they are not alone with them ever. We saw several major red flags with someone in our family that I never would have noticed without get blog. Highly recommend all parents to educate themselves on this topic!
As the wife of a police officer, I'm really passionate about this issue. My husband and I have learned through his job that you really cannot trust anyone. Yes, our kids are probably a little too sheltered. But while they are little, I don't care....I would rather KNOW that they are safe and no one is doing anything to them. Another thing that could be pointed out is that things happen between kids sometimes. So even if my kids have friends over, we keep a constant eye on them. Sleepovers are a definite NO in our family as well. I think most parents are just so trusting and don't realize how common things like this happen!
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Happy Wife · 570 weeks ago

This is a post that hits close to home. :( I wish it didn't. It came out that a family member had been molesting his daughters. Everyone was shocked to the point that I didn't want to believe it at first. I thought the girls were making it up. He appeared to be a fine, upstanding Christan who loved his family. A hard worker, the last person to think would do something like this. His wife had taught their kids about speaking out about "bad touches" but when it was their father who was telling them to not tell, they listened to him.;( They had also been trained to obey their father immediately, so when it came down to it, they obeed what he told them to do.

After this came out and he went to jail I studied more about sexual abuse and found that most abusers dont' look like we think such mosters would looke like. If I remember correctly something like 90% are very religious and most have jobs are married and have gone to college.

It is s8uch a scary thing because you can never kknow. How do you guard your children against the threat of their parent hurting them? I don't know the answrs to this. I would never think my husband would do anything like this. and I can't go around being suspicios of everyon I know. I try to teach my children that there are things even mommy and daddy should not ask them to do but I don't want to go into details because then what aobut their innocence?

Do the books you recocmend address the issue of parents?
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That is so sad! I agree about not wanting to take away their innocence. We have the same issue. Just to add another rule. .. an open door rule. We also now have the same sex parent bathe the same sex child. Some of our family has been offended by our choices and lack of trust, especially towards men. But then I think I would rather risk offending someone than rising my child getting hurt. It makes me sick to my stomach to think of your story and this poor innocent girls. :(
Lori, at what age do you suggest talking to sons about pornography? My sons are only 3 and 5, and already they're confronted with images of half-naked women in the grocery store check-out. I am a homeschooling mother who intends to vigilantly protect them from pornography, but I know it's not completely avoidable. Tips? Thank you!
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I haven't read it but my husband recommend this book. http://www.christianbook.com/apps/product?item_no... He takes this topic very seriously, so he is in charge of training/preparing our 3 boys so far on this topic.
I would think right before they hit puberty would be a good time. You don't want to take away their innocence too early. When you see half-naked women on magazines, tell them these women are acting very inappropriately {or use the word "naughty" for young children} and teach them to bounce their eyes. Teach them that God wants us to dwell on the lovely and pure from an early age. "So be careful little eyes what you see..."
Thank you!
Warn children about looking at naked females AND males-- of ANY AGE. I read "Love Won Out" and that's how that wife got started into her lesbian lifestyle. Sadly, her husband has left her and their sons to return to his gay lifestyle.

Also listen to "Family Life Today's" 2013? series on child abduction and sex slavery. Middle school-age to college-age are this trade's target. I was shocked at what I did not know about this horror happening all over the world, right under our noses in America, too.

Prayers,
Kelley~
The sad facts are that around 2/3rd of all sexual assaults (in the USA) are committed by a person known to the victim. Whilst your home may be safe, many are not - in fact sometimes friends are safer. It comes down to being careful and looking out for signs but not locking up your children as that just makes them prisoners.
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Good point, Jo. We often hear about the danger of strangers abducting and sexually abusing children, and it does happen. However, children are most likely to be sexually abused by someone they know, often a parent.
Call the authorities.
I know you don`t really know me, but I love your blog! Besides that I am searching for people to pray for my younger sister Sarah Liberty Curtis, who went missing last Thursday, she is only 15 years old, and comes from a broken home. I am trying to Gods people invoked to move God to help her. She does not come from a Christian home! She lives in Clinton ville Ohio, and maybe you would be so kind to get people to pray for her, safety, return, and help and protection. I will send a picture soon. My prayer is no matter what state someone is that sees her picture that if it got on the media they would recognize her or just pray for her. I will gi
ve my number wants I get the picture sent out. Just hoping all Christian would pray for her, even if they don`t know her.
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felicia Parak · 569 weeks ago

sorry about my miss spelled words...

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