The Reason We Refuse To Submit

Fear is the chief motivator behind most women's struggles with submission and trust. Consider Sarah, the wife of Abraham. He told her to lie to the Egyptians and tell them she was his sister so she obeyed him. God protected her and struck Pharoah's house with a plague.

Whenever I teach about submission, I always get a lot of "what ifs" to disqualify women submitting to their husband. The "what if" game is always, always based on fear. "Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear." {I Peter 3:6}

We, as women, think our husbands are incapable of leading. Our husbands hear this message from us loudly and often. We have a tendency to speculate and meditate endlessly on what might happen if we don't get our way. We somehow think we know much better than our husbands or even God.

We won't really know what God has in mind, if we never let things get beyond our ability to control. If you don't allow your husband to step off that cliff once in a while, you will be doomed to go through the same problem over and over. God many times uses failure in our lives to teach us and get us to where He wants us to be.

Sarah sometimes exercised great faith, and at other times she stumbled in fear. She followed her husband through all of his failures and his successes. In everything, her faithful God watched over her, protected her and walked with her through the long journey of her life with her husband, Abraham. Will He do no less with us?

How many blessings are we missing out on because we are afraid to truly submit to and allow our husbands to lead? How come we don't let him have the final word? How come we fight God's command to us on this and hold onto our rights so vehemently? Let's not do this anymore, okay? Let's obey God and allow our husbands to lead us in the way they see fit and trust our heavenly Father with the outcome. Can we all shake on this?