Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Learning Contentment At Home


The reason the feminist agenda was able to flourish was the fact that so many homemakers were bored and dissatisfied at home. This is a quote from The Feminine Mystique ~

In my generation, many of us knew that we did not want to be like our mothers, even when we loved them. We could not help but see their disappointment. Did we understand, or only resent the sadness, the emptiness, that made them hold too fast to us, try to live our lives, run our fathers' lives, spend their days shopping or yearning for things that never seemed to satisfy them, no matter how much money they cost? Strangely, many mothers who loved their daughters ~ and mine was one ~ did not want their daughters to grow up like them either. They knew we needed something more.

I want you all to memorize a verse, please ~ Godliness with contentment is GREAT gain! {I Timothy 6:6}  You must make a conscious, daily effort to renew your mind with God's Truth and not your circumstances, especially when you have had many sleepless nights, your children are sick, your husband is depressed, you burned the chicken, you have a headache, etc.

Life is not easy. Going out and getting a 9:00 to 5:00 job isn't easy either. The grass is NOT greener on the other side. One of the young mothers I mentored told me she recently went out and got a part time job. She quit shortly afterwards. She decided the cost wasn't worth it.  She wanted to be home with her son.

What have we sacrificed to be away from our children for hours a day. At first glance, the 1950s was a decade of the family…But already the family was flashing warning signals. . . Homes and cars, refrigerators and washing machines, telephones and multiple televisions required higher incomes. . . The two-income family emerged. {Alice Kessler-Harris}

Do we really need all of the modern conveniences if it means we have to be away from our home and family? Can we try to learn contentment with fewer things and joyfully serving our husbands and children?  This is not a menial job. It is a high calling from God and the wonderful ministry He has given you. Practice contentment until it becomes natural.

Start a garden; try quilting, crocheting, or sewing; raise chickens if you have space; do some writing; putter in the kitchen; play with the children; work on crafting projects and quietly mind your own home. To attain a gentle and quiet spirit, we must not only seek to be transformed in our interior lives, but work on our exterior life in such a way that we cultivate a more peaceful existence. This should begin in the home.
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Loving been his wife · 572 weeks ago

//Homes and cars, refrigerators and washing machines, telephones and multiple televisions required higher incomes. . . The two-income family emerged. {Alice Kessler-Harris}//

Lori, I have read here more than once about all the modern things and just wondered which ones you think we should cut down on in order to live on one income?
Thank you in advance...
5 replies · active 572 weeks ago
Love this. My husband and I have sacrificed a lot in order to live on one income, and sometimes it is hard to see the things that other people can buy and do with their kids. Then I remember how hard it would be to take a job outside the home and deal with all of the new issues that come up- sick kids, child care on school breaks, seeing my family on weekends, not being able to volunteer in classrooms... both are full of sacrifices, but I'd rather sacrifice the money than my family.
1 reply · active 572 weeks ago
I can't imagine feeling like I was wasting my days and my "potential" by spending my days raising my children and taking care of my home. Maybe that's because I have such warm childhood memories of my own mom doing the same thing. HER mother (my grandma) worked, and it cause problems. She knew she could never do that to her kids. I'm glad she taught me to feel the same!
I always used to worry (before I was married) that I wouldn't get to stay home with my kids, but I remember my mom telling me that if I wanted to and my husband felt the same, it would be possible almost no matter what. Luckily that has held true! My husband doesn't make a lot of money but we have made it just fine. We pay a 10% tithe and I believe God has helped provide for us. We live frugally but are still able to have everything we need and a lot of what we want, too! Bottom line: I would/could never handle missing all the little moments during the day that I get to have with my children.
2 replies · active 572 weeks ago
How do you interpret the meaning of "oikourous", which is often translated as "keepers at home"?

Some of the things that I've read say that it's not merely about staying home, but about being the guardian and manager of the home.

Caring for our children is obviously a primary responsibility. I'm wondering, though, about some of the other activities you suggest. To me, some of those things are just hobbies or ways to keep busy, and not really part of being the guardian of the home. Do you see them as being part of the primary function, or just something to occupy women while they are engaged in their primary function if they have some spare time (for example, to keep busy while a baby naps)?
5 replies · active 471 weeks ago
Thank you for writing this. I appreciate and am encouraged by your post!
You've hit the issue squarely. Thank you again!
Blessings,
Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage
We all must learn to be content (and joyful) no matter where God has placed us. We need to stop looking over the fence as it always looks better from a distances. We need to not compare ourselves to other women but get on with living our lives to the very best as its our families and our husbands that count, not how someone else is living.

Life begins with God and ends God - be content no matter, my mother never expected to be in a nursing home, but she is learning a hard lesson of being content in a place she doesn’t want to be. I never expected my husband to be forced into retirement and me being the sole income earner - but wonderful things have emerged from this - my husband is now helping those who are being badly bullied in the workplace and that help is saving lives (from suicide) and making a differences. Whilst he does it voluntarily I accept this as what God wants him to do. I am doing my bit to help him as his help mate and I am content.

Be content in ALL things that life throws your way.
1 reply · active 572 weeks ago
Stopping by from UBP. Love this post. My local paper ran an article yesterday title: At Home Mothers on the Rise. It was based on Pew research saying the number of moms staying home has increased. But, I still think it's low (around 30%) Hopefully these small changes will make a difference.
2 replies · active 572 weeks ago
I needed to read this today! I often show so much discontent with what we have, where we live, and what I "have" to do as a homemaker. I need to be more content and demonstrate that contentment to my children. Many blessings to you, and I look forward to following your blog! - Ginny from www.joyfromgrace.com (visiting through Titus 2sDay)

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