Have you ever tasted the Lord's ways or are you in rebellion to them? They may sound detestable to you, but they are the best, since our Creator gave us instructions for living. Yes, I know not everyone thinks they can live God's ideal, but never forget that with God nothing is impossible!
One woman stumbled upon my blog and left this comment on a keeper at home post ~ "I've been on both sides and this
is true. I was in the army when I had my first child; having to pull a twenty four hour shift
while breastfeeding a newborn lead me into depression really fast. I ended up
begging to get out ASAP. It took four months but they finally let me out. I was
up for promotion also, but let it go to become a homemaker. We've tried having my
husband staying home with her, daycare, my mom watching her and it all still
left me feeling empty and guilty. I post about this on my Facebook page and get
a lot of backlash for it, but its okay. That's to be expected when you're
speaking truth. But there is NO way I'd trade being home and teaching my kids
about God to ever working outside of my home again. It feels amazing to taste
and see that the Lord is good and to walk in his perfect will for my life."
Our Senate just passed a bill that would require women to register for the draft. We might sum this up as the end result of feminism. They want to be "equal" to men in every way and all women have to suffer because of this unattainable goal. I seriously doubt many women want to fight in wars. It's not in our makeup. We are the weaker sex and don't have the drive in our bellies to protect, like the Lord made men to be protectors. Most women would hate seeing the horrible events in war. It's hard enough on the men. Why would women want to see this? If a robber came into a family's home, it would be the father who would go do anything he could to protect the family. The mother would be huddled in a closet with her children. This is how it would happen with the majority of intact families today, but feminists don't like this.
Another thing, women are more depressed than ever before and it is only getting worse. Of course, many things contribute to this but I believe a large part of it is women are just not emotionally created to handle the stress of working outside of the home like men are. Women were created by our Creator to be keepers at home. Even women who are married without children have written to me and would love to simply come home, but either their husbands don't want them to or they fear the reaction of coming home and "doing nothing." It takes plenty of work and time to run a home and take care of a husband. There are also many other ministries they can become involved with, such as helping the poor, the sick and the elderly.
Finally, concerning this woman's comment, babies need their mothers. Breast milk is the best food for babies with the most nutrition. It is only the mother who can provide this. Mothers have a better chance of having a healthy milk supply, if they are home and not stressed out from a career and it is ideal to nurse at least a year. They also have the time to make nutritious food for themselves. In order to have healthy milk, they must eat healthy.
Contrary to what many have said about what I write {medieval, 1950s, sexist, etc.}, it is the best way for women to live; exactly the way God created them to live! If your family needs to earn income somehow {divorced, widowed, single}, pray and ask the Lord to make a way for you to earn income from home. He owns everything and nothing is too hard for Him.
With men this is impossible;
but with God all things are possible.
Matthew 19:26
Our Senate just passed a bill that would require women to register for the draft. We might sum this up as the end result of feminism. They want to be "equal" to men in every way and all women have to suffer because of this unattainable goal. I seriously doubt many women want to fight in wars. It's not in our makeup. We are the weaker sex and don't have the drive in our bellies to protect, like the Lord made men to be protectors. Most women would hate seeing the horrible events in war. It's hard enough on the men. Why would women want to see this? If a robber came into a family's home, it would be the father who would go do anything he could to protect the family. The mother would be huddled in a closet with her children. This is how it would happen with the majority of intact families today, but feminists don't like this.
Another thing, women are more depressed than ever before and it is only getting worse. Of course, many things contribute to this but I believe a large part of it is women are just not emotionally created to handle the stress of working outside of the home like men are. Women were created by our Creator to be keepers at home. Even women who are married without children have written to me and would love to simply come home, but either their husbands don't want them to or they fear the reaction of coming home and "doing nothing." It takes plenty of work and time to run a home and take care of a husband. There are also many other ministries they can become involved with, such as helping the poor, the sick and the elderly.
Finally, concerning this woman's comment, babies need their mothers. Breast milk is the best food for babies with the most nutrition. It is only the mother who can provide this. Mothers have a better chance of having a healthy milk supply, if they are home and not stressed out from a career and it is ideal to nurse at least a year. They also have the time to make nutritious food for themselves. In order to have healthy milk, they must eat healthy.
Contrary to what many have said about what I write {medieval, 1950s, sexist, etc.}, it is the best way for women to live; exactly the way God created them to live! If your family needs to earn income somehow {divorced, widowed, single}, pray and ask the Lord to make a way for you to earn income from home. He owns everything and nothing is too hard for Him.
With men this is impossible;
but with God all things are possible.
Matthew 19:26
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Helen · 457 weeks ago
Lovely post and of course, re your comment about income, he owns the cattle on a thousand hills, and the wealth in every land. Nothing is too difficult for our God!
Blessings to you
Helen UK
Lori Alexander 122p · 457 weeks ago
girlwithadragonflytattoo 36p · 457 weeks ago
It's ironic you've gotten so much flack about housework recently with that post going viral... I just published a post literally on housework and how us as women view it with our attitudes. It's based on Proverbs 31 again, verse 19, and it was SO BEAUTIFUL to learn about the women in the Old Testament who did this menial work and did it ultimately for God. It says the women who were "wise-hearted" were "moved" to spin (make cloth materials and threads).
Then I found the same kind of thing in the New Testament about Tabitha, a woman who made clothing for the poor and widowed. She used her time and talents in serving God, and was the one adult woman who was raised from the dead. Anyway, it was fascinating to research and write it, hope you or your readers enjoy it and it blesses you!
https://girlwithadragonflytattoo.com/2016/06/25/t...
Lori Alexander 122p · 457 weeks ago
I am going through the Proverbs 31 woman on my Instagram and may publish them on my Facebook soon. She is so different than women today want to make her out to be. I had to look up "spindle" but yes, it's used to make cloth! I will try to read your post later.
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kathibonham 13p · 457 weeks ago
So, no, women are not more depressed because they are working and not staying home. You cannot make this assumption based off of a 5 year-old study, especially when the study did not factor in working women verses stay-at-home women. I'm sure that there are as many depressed stay-at-home mothers as there are working mothers.
Lori Alexander 122p · 457 weeks ago
"The German researchers for the European study blame one factor: modern life. Professor Hans-Ulrich Wittchen, in charge of the research, says the pressure of trying to cope with having a family and pursuing a career is leaving women with a ‘tremendous burden’."
I am not sure how you could have missed these statements, Kathy. Working full-time with children and having to maintain a home on top of it all is way too much for the majority of women. Plus, our materialism and prosperity isn't making women happier because they are chasing after the wrong things. Only God's ways are the right ways for women. Is being home full-time raising children easy? No, nothing worth having in life is easy, but they are good.
kathibonham 13p · 457 weeks ago
"In fact, one of the main reasons behind this astonishing rise in antidepressant use is that women are increasingly being parked on these powerful and potentially dangerous drugs for want of anything else to help them with the emotional distress that led them to visit their doctor."
Doctors need to be open to other alternatives to drugs in order to treat depression. It's not that women are more depressed, it's that they're now, more than ever, willing to talk about it with their doctors. And, doctors are more than willing to prescribe pills. The article talks about how women in the late 40's had to go through so much - the Blitz, working while their husbands were off to war, rationing of food and energy, and sex discrimination. They main difference between how women dealt with life then was that they had family close by to help out when needed. They also had a strong support group of women that they could talk to. Otherwise, that entire generation barely talked about anything that dealt with depression or abuse. Today, we are much more open to talking about it, which is good, but many times women do not live close by family for the extra support.
Lori Alexander 122p · 457 weeks ago
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/our-changing...
"The tougher question is why people seem to be suffering more. I have three theories (I go into these in more depth in Generation Me, which was just published in a revised and updated edition).
1. Our relationships and community ties are weaker.
2. We’re more focused on goals such as money, fame, and image, which Tim Kasser’s work has shown is correlated with anxiety and depression.
3. Our expectations are too high, probably because of the emphasis on “you can be anything you want to be” and highly positive self-views. This was a big theme in the first edition of Generation Me, which came out in 2006, and other observers (I believe independently) came to similar conclusions – for example, Tim Urban (“Why GenY Yuppies are Unhappy”) and Bret Easton Ellis (“Generation Wuss.”)"
kathibonham 13p · 457 weeks ago
Here is a study about the rate of depression among stay-at-home moms:
http://www.gallup.com/poll/154685/stay-home-moms-...
Depression among women, and men, is not dependent upon whether or not she is staying home or working outside the home. Depression happens for many different reasons. A stay-at-home mom can have stressors in her life just like a working mother has stressors in her life.
For the record, I am not against women staying home. I think that families need to make decisions based upon what works for them.
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Guest · 456 weeks ago
Here in New Zealand, right now, there is a huge uproar over a little boy, just 3 years old, killed by his caregivers. They were sentenced today. Various news agencies have reported the story, all blaming the government agencies for not stepping up. Only one reporter has had the guts to speak the truth - had the mother been at home with her children and the father working to provide for the family (the reporter called it "the Christian ideal") this little boy would still be alive. He is dead because his father is a gang member, separated from his mother, with little contact with the family, and the mother was tending to another child in hospital. Studies have shown over and over again that children do best when there are two parents in the house, preferably with mum at home and dad working. The more the world rejects this "Christian ideal" the more our babies are being killed. It is so sad!
Keep teaching truth, Lori. The world needs to hear it!
ACM · 456 weeks ago
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These evil scum beat this little boy so badly he couldn't stand up, his eyes were swollen shut, and his bowel ruptured, which is what killed him. They kicked him so hard in the abdomen he flew into the next room. They stomped on his back. They dropped him on his head. They bit him. When I read the full list of abuse inflicted on this poor little boy, I cried.
It is very un-PC to say, but had the mother and the father both been where they should have been, this little boy would still be alive today. New Zealand has one of the worst levels of child abuse in the world. However, I can't think of a single incident (that I can remember, I haven't actually researched it) where a child was killed or badly abused in a family with two parents married and living together, mum at home and Dad working, as God intended.
ACM · 456 weeks ago
women are more likely to be misdiagnosed with depression/ anxiety (called "womens issues.. like hormones etc), we used to be locked up if we had post-partum depression not supported like we are now.
but we can't get equal pay, equal access to medical care or treatment, equal anything- but now we have to register for the draft?? this doesn't make any sense at all.
i am all for women in the military if they chose to be there. but as much as people like to say women can do everything a man can do, if they can't pick up a comrade and run them out of there to save his life, i'm not sure if war is the right place to be. same thing with firefighting or police work. we can't change the standard. if a woman can do it, go for it! but i don't want safety to be at risk of other people on top of her life. i am too old obviously to register, but my daughter is old enough to have to do that in a few years. i dont want her going to war. she's too sensitive. we already sent a generation of young men who weren't ready to fight into war (WW2) why do we have to do it to our girls?