Modesty and Homecoming Court

It is said that the church is ten years behind the culture in accepting its views. It seems to be true. Many "Christians" today don't look nor act any different than those of the culture. Let's take the issue of modesty. I went to a very large public high school in the middle of the 1970s. It was after the sexual revolution of the 1960s so clothes were coming off. However, the picture above is of my Homecoming court. {I am the one on the left.} These dresses would be considered very modest by today's standards. This is how the girls dressed for Homecoming and Prom back then. During the dances, the music was loud and everyone was moving all around. There were slow dances and it would be like hugging the one we were dancing with. No, it wasn't proper since I'm sure it was difficult for the guys but this is the way it was back then.

This picture below is from my son's Homecoming Court. He attended a private Christian High School.

These dresses are very low cut and all made out of slinky material that looks more like lingerie than dresses and this is at a Christian High School! I can't imagine what they look like at public high schools now. Most young women have no idea how to dress modestly today, not even Christian ones. Whatever is in style, they wear, regardless of whether or not it is modest. They tried very hard at this Christian high school to keep the girls modest but it was difficult. If they came to the Homecoming dance or Prom and their dresses were too low cut, they would have to wear napkins in the front of their dress. 

During their dances, the teachers would have to roam the floor of the dance floor since some of the kids wanted to "freak dance" together; a kind of mimicking sexual intercourse and foreplay. The kids who wanted to do this would get in the center of the floor and do this; trying to hide from the teachers. I am sure it has gotten much worse today but when you put immodestly dressed young women, along with high testosterone filled young guys together in the same room swaying all over the place, bad and improper things are bound to happen. We wonder why fornication among "Christian" kids is as high as the world's kids. 

The couple who is the head of premarital counseling at the huge church right near us told Ken and me, when we were some of the counselors, that most engaged couples are living together. He said when he started 30 years ago, none of them were. 

We must train our daughters up to know better than this. They need to dress according to biblical standards, not the standards of our culture. God calls women to be shamefacedness; not drawing attention to ourselves. We are to draw attention to Christ in us with a meek and quiet spirit; completely opposite of what today's Christian women are being taught. We aren't supposed to spend a lot of money on "costly array" for ourselves but be known for our good works instead. Teach them to save themselves sexually for their husbands, so they won't have the scars and guilt of having sexual relations before marriage.

Desire to please the Lord more than anyone else. Obey Him and you will reap His blessings. This all comes down to a heart issue, women. Do you have a heart for the Lord and wanting to honor Him in all you do or do you have a heart for yourself and wanting to please yourself instead?

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But which becometh women professing godliness with good works.

1 TImothy 2:9, 10