Thursday, June 2, 2016

Who is More to Blame for the Destruction of Our Culture?


Are men or women the most to blame for the spiraling downward of our decaying culture? As I was pondering this question, this verse came to mind, "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish pluck it down with her own hands" {Proverbs 14:1}. I thought about the verses in Proverbs about how disobedient women are described as quarrelsome and nagging. A godly women may even win a disobedient husband with her godly behavior.

According to this article nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by women because "it's often the woman who expresses more overt conflict and dissatisfaction about the state of the marriage. On the other hand, the man is more likely to report feeling troubled by his wife's dissatisfaction, but pretty much 'OK' with the way things are; he's content to just lope along as time passes."

Why are women more quarrelsome and nagging? Why are they more dissatisfied with marriage than men? Expectations. Like you have probably heard, men marry women and want them to stay that way and women marry men wanting to fix them. Expectations destroy marriage. Women are more likely to break up marriages which is unfortunate since they are the ones who suffer more financially and physically; they must work outside of the home and aren't protected. 

What else has caused the destruction of our culture? Feminism. Women were told to be dissatisfied at home so they left their homes for careers. Their homes stand empty all day. Children are being raised by others and not being disciplined properly so they are rebellious. Affairs happen now more in the workplace. Little boys aren't being raised by fathers. Wives are too exhausted to care for their husbands and they tear their homes down with their own hands. 

What about the church? Why has it become so lukewarm and ineffective? Feminism and women leading. Preachers are afraid to speak about a woman's role in her home for fear they will lose half of their congregation. They would be run out of the church if they taught wives to love and obey their husbands and be keepers at home. Even older women who try to teach the younger women are sneered at. I know. Instead of teaching these things, women are teaching things they shouldn't be teaching and becoming leaders in the church. As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths {Isaiah 3:12}.

Even Donald Trump gets the value of women in the home. He said these words in 1994, "I think that putting a wife to work is a very dangerous thing. If you're in business for yourself, I really think it's a bad idea. I think that was the single greatest cause of what happened to my marriage with Ivana," Trump said. He said that he disliked hearing her "shouting on the phone" during contentious business deals."A softness disappeared. There was a great softness to Ivana, and she still has that softness, but during this period of time she became an executive not a wife," Trump had said.

Then his comment about his second wife, Marla Maples working outside of the home, "I have days where I think it's great. And I have days where, if I come home -- and I don't want to sound too much like a chauvinist -- but when I come home and dinner's not ready, I go through the roof," he said.*

I am figuring if women can tear down their homes, they can tear down a nation. How should we respond to this? Go home. Raise your children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. Fix your family nutritious food. Love and obey your husband. Find out what pleases him and be happy and satisfied with him. Live within his income. Be content and joyful at home. Find a church that is solely run by men. Listen to male Bible preachers and teachers. In short, obey God's Word. Yes, we are a remnant but let's be a strong remnant for the Lord. He calls us to do this and He gives us the means to do this: His Word, His Holy Spirit, and the ability to come boldly to His throne. Live this way and you will reap blessings; for we reap what we sow.

*Source: This is not an endorsement of Trump in any way,
 but I sure do agree with these words of his.

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Agree!

In pondering this question (who's to blame more, men or women), I have concluded that women hold the key to societal health. Why? Because they are the virtue keepers. When women are virtuous, men pull themselves up to meet that level. When women jettison their virtue, men become swine. Just check out the father's warnings to his son in Proverbs, telling him to stay away from immoral women - because they drag men down to the pits of hell. But when women choose to be virtuous - society can reach its highest level. Men will be only as good and as moral as women set the standard.

Excellent points here.
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You have added some excellent points. Thank you, Diana!
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Lady Virtue · 460 weeks ago

Your point about expectations is spot on. Once upon a time, even non-Christians had a generic respect for the Bible's teachings; men and women entered marriage understanding their respective roles and the duty and commitment involved in executing them. Much more so for genuine Christians.

Now, women (primarily) are guilty of thinking marriage is all about romance, being perpetually wooed, emotional fulfillment, date nights and vacations, and a host of other things that are nowhere to be found in the Bible. This is further exacerbated by fairly tales, romance novels, rom-com movies, etc. When a man (understandably) doesn't live up to these things, the woman is unhappy and seeks divorce, only to marry again thinking that this time she has actually found her "soul mate." If by chance she hasn't, though, she continues this destructive cycle--and children suffer most of all.

How much simpler the Scriptures are to follow and obey instead of all of the humanistic, psychological, man-made expectations. Good post.
1 reply · active 460 weeks ago
Hollywood lies to women causing them to believe if they share a bed with a man, he will fall madly in love with them; only to have their dreams crash when he walks away. So many lies are being perpetuated on women today and it has left them empty, lost, and confused. We must speak Truth to whoever will listen, Lady Virtue, since everyone needs the Truth of God's Word since He is our Creator.
i have to take everything said by Trump with the biggest grain of salt i can possibly find. sure he may have some decent ideas for our country, but other ways he belittles and speaks about women takes everything "good" away from him. his comments about his own daughter are simply outrageous.

that being said, i think both men and women go into marriage with very high expectations (men maybe intimacy every night, homemade meals every night, clean house, fun vacations) - women (constant romance, etc etc) and don't realize that marriage is sometimes going to bed angry, being frustrated over who is taking the trash out, picking up other peoples dirty socks, and compromise compromise compromise. it's the biggest job we have besides being parents- is being someones lifelong partner.
5 replies · active 460 weeks ago
I want to address your thoughts on Trump and his speech. I think that there are two reasons why some people are shocked/unhappy with Trump's 'outrageous' speech. Firstly, our society has become used to the uber politically correct speech by politicians nowadays, and hearing plain speech from someone who isn't PC is unsettling for some people. Second, sound bites that you hear on the news from Donald Trump are highly, highly edited. The media wants to portray him in the most negative light possible, so IMO, it is wise to take what we hear on the news (including Fox, CNN, and all other networks) with a huge grain of salt. The media is attempting to drive the narrative. Their narrative is that Trump is the big, bad, evil boogy-man. I do believe that Trump needs to filter his speech better, but I do not believe he is evil. I cannot say the same for the other candidates.

Thanks and I really enjoy the blog....
His own words have betrayed him, Rebecca. I have watched the debates and his interviews. He is not a kind man. He is a bully and mean. It is tragic that we have no decent men running for the highest position in our land. I pray weekly for our country. I know prayer is powerful and I trust the Lord.
With respect, I don't believe that a kind man could be elected now. The country has turned too far from God. I read a quote the other day, the gist was that what is evil is promoted while what is good is now condemned. That is a very simple statement that really sums up the state this country is in. We need someone who is willing to fight for traditional American values, even if we don't think he is necessarily someone that we want our kids to emulate. I don't agree with many, many things Trump has said in the past, but a Clinton or Sanders presidency would be too horrible for words. Things have been turning so far left here lately that I am scared for the future of our children. The actions of Obama recently are absolutely beyond the pale. It is unbelievable to realize how far off from traditional values the mainstream has become in this country. God is truly our only hope.
I agree with you, Rebecca. It's tragic.
We should be teaching women to NOT go to bed angry with their husbands but to respect and obey them. If their husband doesn't take the trash out, they should take the trash out! Same goes for picking up his dirty socks, for the greatest of all is the servant of all in God's kingdom. There doesn't have to be "compromise, compromise, compromise" if the husband and wife understand their God-ordained roles clearly and obeys them.
i'm trying to be polite here Rebecca, but he said he unnerving things even when he wasn't running for President that i would repeat off this blog- but I can't here. Maybe he's not a terrible guy. But he certainly doesn't regard women any higher than you would a "maid".
I do not believe that political debate is appropriate here, especially as I don't know if this comment will even be posted; but saying "I'm trying to be polite here" comes off as slightly rude, as if there would be some reason not to be polite when someone points out a slightly differing point of view.
Trump isn't perfect by a long stretch, but do you honestly think Hillary cares about women?? I don't, not for a second. Given her public crimes can you even imagine what she says that is inappropriate? The difference is that the media shields her and other liberals so that their worst/most questionable statements are either not heard or are excused. I'm sure the woman in the link below whose family home was saved by the kind actions of Trump would disagree with you.... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3449920/T...
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I will absolutely not vote for Hillary, Rebecca, since she believes in murdering a baby in the womb even when the baby is being birthed. She is for murder of innocent lives. She is not fit to be President, along with most everything about her.
The last paragraph of this blog needs to be shouted from every rooftop. Thank you for being bold!

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