Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Should Wives Be Teaching Their Husbands?

Let a woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression {I Timothy 2:11,12,14}. Many women are deceived easily. {Why do you think the serpent went to Eve and she was perfect!} We believe things easier and trust more. Many cults were started or influenced by women. The majority of women are also very emotional. We have mood swings because of all our hormonal changes going on in our bodies. God made us this way in order to bear and raise children. It is a good thing but something we always need to be aware of when making decisions and in our behavior. Emotions and experiences must NOT dictate our behavior and what we believe. Wisdom and God's Word must dictate it.

Most men are not so emotional or so easily deceived. They are more skeptical. They aren't filled with estrogen like women which makes us emotional. {Although, I wonder with all this soy in everything; is it causing men to be more emotional since they are getting so much estrogen?} God doesn't want wives teaching their husbands. He wants us to learn in silence. He tells us that if we have a question in church to ask our husbands privately at home {I Corinthians 14:35}.

In my Bible under theses verses it states, "The wife ought to be displaying a tranquil spirit in her attempt to learn...Paul wanted to express the idea that in the wife's desire to learn, she should respect her husband's position over her in Christ." If a wife was continuously teaching her husband "the head would be undermined, and would not be in accordance with God's ordained order in creation. A wife should place limitations on her speech...Essentially, a wife's private or public life should be beyond reproach and never undermine the position that her husband has been given by God" {Strong's Dictionaries Concordance}

Simply put, God wants women to seek meek and quiet spirits, especially concerning our husbands. We are not called to teach our husbands, always question their authority or try to control and change them. We are called to be in subjection to them in order to have peace in the home and in accordance with God's ways. Peace is a beautiful thing and we are commanded to seek peace with ALL men, and the most important man to seek peace with is our husband.

Therefore, learn to gently express your opinions and concerns to your husband and then let them go. Allow the Lord to convict and lead him. He is the head of the home, not us! Even if your husband is an unbeliever or disobedient to the Word, God commands wives to win their husbands "without a word." Husbands have a much better chance of being won by a wife's behavior than by her words.

And if they will learn any thing,
 let them ask their husbands at home: 
for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
1 Corinthians 14:35