Thursday, February 19, 2015

Is NOT Having Children Selfish?

Think of all the excuses for not having children. I am too tired. I want to travel and have a career. We want to enjoy life as a couple first. We don't make enough money. They take too much work. Did you notice that not one of those excuses included God, the Great Provider and His desires for us?

Kelly Crawford has ten children and is open to any more the Lord may bless her with. She has gone over all the buts....and the reasons to use birth control but she keeps coming back to this ~

All those things are self-centered things that completely disregard the eternal hand of God in my family, in this, my short life. And I am called to not set my mind on the things of the earth so much.

This is unselfishness. Having a lot of children and sacrificing your "me time" and peace and quiet in your home is an act of sacrifice. She has decided that raising godly offspring is more important to her than any earthly riches or pleasures. I sure wish more Christian couples had this eternal view when it comes to children.

Up until birth control was invented, most couples had no choice but to have all the children God blessed them with. Even after it was invented, most preachers and churches preached against it. What happened between now and then? Are we so highly intellectualized that we know more than all of them. Is birth control a good thing? Has it contributed good things to our world?

NO! It has allowed people to think that they should control their fertility instead of trusting the Lord. It has allowed promiscuity to flourish since unmarried couples can have sex without worrying about pregnancy, but if they do get pregnant, they can get an abortion.

Now, I am not saying to never use birth control, as I have stated before. This is an issue that needs to be decided between a husband and his wife. A wife must respect her husband's decision whatever it is since he is the head of the home and will be answerable to God for how he lead his family. {Hopefully, he will take his wife's desires into consideration.} I just want you to ponder your decisions in light of Scripture and how society has perverted what God calls very good. It is so easy to become selfish and think only upon our own needs and desires, instead of seeing the whole picture, eternity, especially in this entitlement mentality society that we live in.

Think carefully about the decisions you make. Study Scripture, pray about it, and read other people's experience of allowing the Lord to bless them with children. Don't just go headlong into what everyone else is doing, even those inside the church. Make your decisions based upon God's deepest desire for you, not society's.

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, 
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Psalm 127:3

***The picture is a young couple Ken and I mentored! 
They are very happily married and enjoying their precious twin daughters.