No, this is not the language I typically use. I've never used bad language, actually, except when I tried sewing. {Thus, I gave it up fairly quickly!} After I was done speaking to Dennis Prager, he said these words, "By the way, I do believe that except in the cases of true men that are real jackasses, the woman makes the marriage good or bad more than the men do." I have mentored women married to "real jackasses." They are men who don't work, don't support their families, usually addicted to some type of drug or alcohol, and make their wives miserable. If they have physically abused them in any way, I tell them to call the authorities. However, none of these women have divorced their husbands yet. They pray consistently for their husbands. They are Jesus to their husbands, sanctifying them as they continue to keep their vows to them. God is their strength and comfort.
It is amazing to me what tenacity these women have in the face of such adversity but we must always remember that with God ALL things are possible. These women are holding onto the hope that one day their husbands will be saved clinging to the verse in I Peter 3:1, Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation {lifestyle} of the wives.
However, if you aren't married to a "jackass," you do have the power to make your marriage good or bad as this verse in Proverbs 14:1 states, Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. I have witnessed FAR too many marriages completely turned around, including mine, by the wife learning to love, submit to, respect, obey, please, and serve their husband. The Bible is NEVER wrong! When others say "Happy Wife, Happy Life," they are speaking Truth. When a wife is joyful, thankful and praising the Lord, she makes a home happy! Unfortunately, way too many women are plucking their homes down with their own hands, instead of making a happy life for their husband and children.
Yes, I would be laughed at if I ever spoke at Yale or any other University, as Dennis Prager also said after speaking with me. Students are taught the world's ways that are diametrically opposed to God's ways. Women are taught to be strong, independent, that there is no difference between male and female, and there's way more to life than being "stuck" with a man and being a homemaker. Also, a wife should never have to smile at her husband since it is the husband who should strive to make the wife happy by meeting all of her expectations. Worldly wisdom is backwards from God's marvelous ways.
We should expect nothing less than to be laughed at and suffer through difficulties, women. This is not our home and the Bible repeatedly warns us about this. Staying married to a "jackass" is difficult but God doesn't call us to an easy life. He tells us that our lives will be filled with suffering and trials. It's not always easy to be kind, patient, loving, and submissive to our husbands, even if he is a good husband, but God has a high calling on our lives. He calls us His children and lights to a dark world. Our lives show the world that someone greater than ourselves lives inside of us giving us the power to live for Him. Continue on in this spiritual battle, women of faith. Your labor is NOT in vain! Who better to be rewarded by than the King of Kings?!
