Friday, October 7, 2011

What If He Died?


What if you knew that your husband was going to die tomorrow?

On my post Be His Girlfriend!, several made some very interesting comments. One said that she knew a woman who was always complaining about her husband. When he died, she talked about him as if he were a saint. It was like she was talking about two different men.

Another woman said she was married to a man and wish she would have acted like a girlfriend to him when he was alive. He died two years ago, she regrets being the way she was with him. Wow, regrets.

Don't live with regrets. Think what your marriage would be like if you lived as if your husband was going to die tomorrow ~

You would never say anything negative about him.

You would appreciate all the good things about him.

You would want to make his life as happy as possible.

You would be affectionate and want to make him feel good!

You would tell him what a great husband he is to you...

My Dad has been in the hospital for six weeks now. He suddenly developed a fever of 104 degrees a few days ago. We thought for sure we would lose him. During that time, my sisters and I scratched his back, rubbed his feet, sang to him, cried, and quoted Scripture. 

All we could think of was what a great Dad he has been to us. Sure, he wasn't perfect. He made a lot of mistakes, but when faced with death, none of those things matter. You just think about how much you are going to miss him. My Mom is broken-hearted.

You never know when your last day with your husband is going to be so why not appreciate and love him now.  Dwell on all the good things about him. Let him know. Show him. Tell him.

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, 
even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.  
Ephesians 4:32

The picture above is of my Mom and Dad yesterday.

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Vicki Walton · 703 weeks ago

Lori, you are very perceptive! It's true, we wives can major on the silliest minor negatives about our husbands instead of having the abundant life together that the Lord has for us. It comes down to this: we have to live life ON PUROSE! We can't just let the waves of our feelings toss us to and fro. In reality we have such little time in this life and we squander it as if it were limitless. Great post!
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Vicki Walton · 703 weeks ago

I found your blog awhile ago through Homestead Revival Barn Hop. I so much enjoy what you have to say about marriage relationships. We live out in the country and have had very slow dial up internet service, so I haven't been on the computer much. I went back and got caught up on your older posts. It just keeps getting better! I appreciate the few occaisons when your husband has shared and backed you up. What a guy! You know, years ago Debi Pearl said she really only works with younger women because the women in their late 30's and 40's are set in their ways and don't want to learn anything. I was just so miserable I was willing to listen. I was willing to admit I might be wrong. I was willing to change and trust God - just like you. And He is faithful to His word and yes, a wife doing what the word commands can definitely change her marriage for the better. You keep on keeping on!
Love this!!! Thank you for the wonderful reminders!
Wonderful truth to remember. Also to apply to the rest of our lives! thanks.
Lori This is such a true and touching post made me cry
praying for you and your Family Trusting God
Loved seeing your Mom and Dad their love is evident and beautiful
love
Pam
The example my granny set has caused me to be the way I am...opposite of her! She was that woman; the one who practically hated her husband. He passed away in July, and now, by the way she talks, you'd think she worshipped the ground he walked on. I want my husband to know how much I love him now. It even made me tear up thinking about what life without him would be like. Thank you for these wonderful posts!
That photo really is worth a thousand words :) Thank you for the reminder and I hope that I will learn to show my husband love as purely as your mother can.
Hi Lori! What a lovely post. I don't have a husband, but your words still brought a tear to my eye. You captured the bond as it should be. All the best to your dad and your family. x
Very important post! Although I mean to be a good and loving wife, sometimes I can be, well, a brat! Just a couple of days ago, a mother and wife in our community, only 45 years old, suffered a stroke and is now brain dead, and not expected to live long. They are a Christian family, and will have lots of community support, but how deeply sad! My husband and I are only a few years younger than this, and it really got us thinking of the exact topic you are posting about. I do strive to be like a girlfriend to my husband as well as a good help meet, and now I know I need to work at it much harder! Thanks for this very timely post. ~April
This is so true. Thank you for this great advice. I think it is something just about everybody needs to think about and do something about.
Blessings,
Charlotte
oh wow. this is beautiful and painful. My thoughts and prayers with you and your family. I really appreciate this. Before I got married I was speaking with my sister in law and she was sharing how she would get cross with her husband (my husbands bro) and have a bitch about the stuff that he did that annoyed her but that it wasn't helpful for their relationship. So instead of tearing him down in front of girlfriends she just didn't say anything and speaks to her husband about the issues instead. It was good wisdom for me!
What a great way to heighten our awareness of how we live and love.
:-)
Wonderful post...praying for your father and your family during this time. =)
This is so true and beautiful. Praying for you and your dad.

Blessings to you...
Praying for your family.
Geez, Lori! That's made me cry for you I hope your dad is okay. x
beautiful post Lori
Having my husband undergo open heart surgery nearly two years ago, I came face to face with the chance of losing him. Not that I often took him for granted prior to that, but it sure woke me up! I didn't think we could be any closer than we were, I was wrong.
This has become our family verse.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
This picture captured such a sweet, special moment. And what beautiful words. Hope your dad will soon be well =)
Praying for you and your family, Lori.
A beautiful moment, and couple. I love the verse you chose. May your dad make a speedy recovery.
Such a sweet picture. Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Your message is one we should always remember with everyone in our lives.

Dropping by from BNOTP.

Allison
Atticmag
Hidden Laundry
Beautiful post. I'm sorry your father isn't well, I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
Such a great reminder to us all! Thank you!

I do pray your father is doing better so you can appreciate him for more days-

bee blessed
mary

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