Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Foundation Of A Healthy Society


No, it is not capitalism or socialism.  It is not having a conservative or liberal president.  It is not having a roaring economy with a lot of jobs.  It is having strong, healthy families.  "Marriage is the incubator of children, a healthy cultivation of the next generation." {Dr. David Jeremiah}

Marriage is in sorry shape in our society ~  

In 1960, 68% of those in their 20's were married. 
In 2008, only 52% were married. 

In 1990, 3.2 million couples lived together without being married. 
In 2010, 7.5 million live together. 

In 1969, 68% of Americans believed premarital sex was wrong. 
In 2009, 40% believe it is wrong.

Satan knows all this.  He knows that as marriages falter, so goes the stability of society.  That is why he is so busy trying to destroy the institution of marriage as created by God, our Creator.

While we need to vote for good leaders, we need to be much more concerned with strong, healthy marriages.  They will make a much bigger impact on the stability of our nation than any political party or leader can...

I have been studying I Timothy 5 lately.  I have been pondering the role of women that Timothy describes ~

verse 10 ~ Well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children, if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints' feet, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed every good work.

verse 14 ~ I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

I know lots of men want their wives to work.  I don't see anything in the above verses that encourages women to spend many hours every day outside of the home. When they do work full-time, they come home exhausted and have to take care of the home and children. 

Since they only have 10% of the testosterone that men have, they don't have the energy to work full-time, care for the home, children, and husbands.  The results...Marriages suffer, then families suffer, and ultimately, society suffers.

Husbands need to be a priority in marriage.  If marriages are healthy, families are healthy, as a result, societies will be healthy.  So if you are going to fight for anything, fight for your marriage where it all begins.

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Very true! I've worked outside the home full time and within the home full time during our marriage. In the occasions when I worked outside, the fact staring us in the face each time I stepped into that role was the marriage and home suffered. I simply cannot put forth total energy and heart into an outside career AND caring for my home and marriage. Yet, I know many that do balance it well. For them, I believe God has called them to that field or path and therefore equipped them for that work- all of it. For many many others of us, though, we're called to the home and to ignore that is to continue to choose the destruction of the home and family. I agree that even though leadership and systems/programs are important, nothing will sustain a society like placing value on the family. My husband and I have chosen to live differently in placing our home and marriage (aka "family") as a superior priority to financial or material gain. It isn't easy when you see everyone else "moving up," but then I'm reminded how blessed we are in the simple act of being able to greet him home from a long day. Thanks for the post! Excellent!
I agree. When I worked outside the home, "stress" was the norm. I barely had energy to put the kids in bed, let alone worry about the Mister. Our family is much happier when I am at home!
I am so intrigued about the 10% testosterone - is that really why I can't keep up with the amount of work my husband does? And, I don't need to beat myself up? We are debating me getting a job, though I have worked part -time teaching at a university until a few years ago while homeschooling and non-homeschooling. And, all that wore me out!

If you have an article on that, please forward it to me:)

BTW - I totally agree with your point - and it ties in with the Proverbs 31 woman who buys and sells land - in a part-time way. I am so glad I stopped by:)
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When I was in the hospital with a brain tumor, they couldn't figure out why I was so ill so they ran numerous tests on me. One was for testosterone. When I got the test results, I saw that a man's normal range was 250 to 850. A woman's normal range was 25-75. Wow! I thought...God really did make us different and that explained a whole lot of things!
I usually love your blog posts... but this one makes me sad :( I'm a working, Christian mama. .
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I am sorry this makes you sad, Kelly. I worked full-time until I had my second child and I was always exhausted and it was hard so I am speaking from experience and what the Bible says. I do believe this is a gray area, not a sin issue. If your husband wants you to work full-time or you need to, He will give you the strength to do that.
Kelly, don't be sad! My mama was (is) a hardworking Christian mama! She worked part-time until my brother and I were through high-school, and now she works twelve hours a day (we all keep encouraging her to retire! hehe). She was at all of our games/ track meets/ concerts/ what-have-you and was involved in all of them. She helped us with our homework (I even called her in college for help!) and taught us the value of being Capable to do whatever God calls us to. She was (is) an amazing woman of God who put her family and friends first, even if it meant walking out of meetings. I have always admired that about her. Don't be afraid to be a hard-working mama--just make sure that home and family aren't trampled in your bid to "make it" in the working world. Make sure your priority is to follow God in all things, and everything else in your life will fall into place. :o) Like Lori said, God will give you the strength to do your best wherever God has you in this season--working or not. :o)
Well said Erin! Your mother sounds like quite a lady!
Good for you for encouraging us to make our husbands, and therefore our marriages, a priority. And I've never considered the testosterone perspective before. Great post!

(visiting from Raising Homemakers' Homemaking Link-Up)
I'm so thankful I was able to be full time momma and wife. It does make difference when we put the important people (our family) first. At the same time, I've seen God help those who for some reason or other needed to work. Needed is the key word.
Even men with their higher levels of testosterone, do not have the energy to work full-time, take care of a home, kids, their marriage without help. That is why in homes where both husbands and wives work, both partners must work together to meet the needs of their homes, children, all while nurturing their relationships. Testosterone and estrogen give men and women energy. In fact, women experiencing decreased levels of energy should have their estrogen levels checked. While testosterone gives men energy, estrogen is essential to women’s energy levels. When I hurt my back a few months ago, my husband took a week off from work to take over for me. After three days, he was wiped. He kept saying “I don’t know how you do everything.”

To be continued and next post................
I’m a stay at home mom. Up until six months ago, I worked a few days per week. I stopped working full-time after my children were born. Is managing my home a bit easier, now that I’m home full-time? Yeah. But when I was employed, my husband and I worked together. Our kids were happy and healthy, our house was clean, and we had the same wonderful relationship as we do now. Now that I’m home full-time, I do the majority of the cooking, cleaning, etc. But my husband knows how hard it is to run a busy household. When he is home, he jumps right in. If I tell him to chill, he says “why should you have to do everything.” We are full partners! I plan on staying home for a year or so. I love being a psychotherapist and want to join a private practice. I will probably keep a part time schedule until the kids are grown because I like being there when they return home from school. By the way, let’s not forget the increasing number of fathers, who are stay at home dads. They are just as committed to running their households and raising their children, as we are. They are putting family first!
Love this post!
I agree, Lori. The family is the foundation of society and so many of our families are in trouble. Thank you for sharing this informative post.
Blessings,
Charlotte
I have always worked part-time outside the home but always made sure my husband and children's needs came first. I was always home when my children were home. I didn't lend them out to sitters. As my children grew, I did more volunteer work than job work just to give me something to do. I like the feeling of accomplishment for inside and outside of my home.
this sounds good except so many women were dependent on men b/c they had no money...no income. Many were abused. I know alot of moms who tell their dgts. to never become dependent on any man. The whole thing is sad.

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