Sunday, October 30, 2011

Inner Serenity and Goodness

The fifth secret of winning the love of your husband from The Secrets Of Fascinating Womanhood is to develop inner serenity and goodness.

The author states that she has seen many marriages restored even after years of being divorced when these principles are lived out, especially the first four.

The next six secrets teach women how to become more lovable...

Men expect women to be better than them.  They want their wives to be more cheerful, more kind, more forgiving, more caring, and more spiritual than them.  It is what attracts them to the feminine race!

No man can deeply love a sullen, resentful woman.  Nor a promiscuous one. Nor a noisy, argumentative one who is always yelling at the children. 

He needs a wife to create a peaceful and feminine home atmosphere so necessary to renew his spirits.

We lose our serenity by doing things that our conscience {or Holy Spirit} tells us are wrong, especially during the teenage years.

When we love people unconditionally, even at the expense of our own comfort, we are on the path to inner security.  {Sounds like obedience to God to me!}  It is the way to find real joy.

She explains that we do wrong things, because we allow our emotions to rule our will power.  I have said many times that where men struggle with their sexual nature, women struggle with their emotional nature.

Learning to tame that monster is something you can do.  If you are a believer in Jesus, you have Him living inside of you.  A fruit of the Spirit is self-control so you have self-control available to you.  Believe it!  Practice it!

She then encourages women to stop blaming other people or circumstances for their problems and start really forgiving others.  Leave others in God's hands for justice and start living your life in the freedom that Christ came to give you.

Start being women of prayer, meditating on God's Word, filling your mind with good things, and renewing your mind with God's truths and His promises.  This is the best way to inner serenity and goodness if you ask me!

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.   
Colossians 3:16

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 
Philippians 4:6,7