Friday, December 9, 2011

Your Standard Of Beauty

Your spouse, the one you married, should be your standard of beauty. {Mark Driscoll}. If he is bald, you like bald. If he slouches, you like men that slouch. If he has a beard, you like beards. If he is short, you like short men.  When he is old and wrinkled, you like old and wrinkled men!

The same should be for you, men. If your wife has wide hips, you like wide hips. If she is chubby, you like chubby women. If she has frizzy hair, you like frizzy hair. When she starts getting age spots and gray hair, you like age spots and gray hair.  Don't let what television and pornography define your standard of beauty.

This is why pornography, sex before marriage, and even television have hurt marriages. They all set up impossible standards of beauty, comparison shopping, and discontentment with who you have married. The Bible commands men to flee the evil desires of youth {II Timothy 2:22}, because they will hurt your future marriage.

Romance novels and television also set up unrealistic expectations for women towards future husbands. Real men can't live up to them. Your only expectation of your future husband should be that he walk with Jesus. You want a man who will be a spiritual leader and that you worship Jesus together. If you have that, the chances of having a happy marriage are very high.

Proverbs says that men should rejoice with the wife of your youth {Proverbs 5:18}. Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun.  Have only eyes for each other.  Let them be your ONLY standard of beauty.