Friday, December 2, 2011

Response To Pornography


Some of you think that since I encourage women to stick with husbands that are involved with pornography, I think pornography is okay.  You are absolutely wrong.  I detest it and what it has done to our society and families. 

Ken responded to that charge last night on this post so I thought I would make it available for you all to read.  I thought it was very good!

I think some who are commenting here have missed the point of this post. Certainly the man over states his position, but Lori's point is that pornography and other male sins are not grounds for divorce, yet many women use the husband's sins as the excuse to run from a God ordained union of marriage.

Sure sin destroys things, but God can take what was intended as evil and turn it into true bonding and intimacy in a marriage when the godly spouse is willing to live out His Word and His ways. Yes, it is hard to live with a man who is difficult, or into pornography, but that does not absolve the offended and harmed spouse from maintaining the bonds of marriage.

The scriptures are clear that only adultery is grounds for divorce, and it is referring to the actual physical act, not emotional or mental adultery. So yes, a marriage dies because of sin, but it is often the unfaithfulness of both parties that finally kills it.

Is there just one spouse of the two who will stand for God even through difficult times in the marriage and claim God's promises? This is Lori's message to women..., to do God's ways, even in trying times. Because God honors those who honor Him, and a double honor is due to those of you wives who stick with your man not because he deserves it, but because Jesus is honored by your selfless sacrifices to keep the bonds of your God ordained marriage together.

All I have to say to that is "Amen!  Preach it hubby!"  I am sure glad he stuck it out with me for 23 years of manipulation, anger, lack of respect, and trying to control him...

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:  and they shall be one flesh. {Genesis 2:24}  What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.  {Mark 10:9}