Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Called To Be Living Sacrifices


After Ryan and Erin had been married only several months, he came to me and quietly said, "Erin is pregnant."  I cried.  I jumped up and hugged him.  I was so excited!  Would I have reacted this way if Ryan had told me they were expecting their fourth, fifth, or even sixth child?

Nancy Campbell questioned the wisdom of mothers counseling their daughters to stop having babies after they have two children.   ~

When parents speak disparagingly when their daughters are pregnant {again}, they often say these things because they love their daughters and don't want them to have extra work or sleepless nights. They speak out of concern and love. But, in doing so, they miss God's heart. They do it because they do not think God's way. They only see things from a human point of view. Therefore, they are an obstacle in God's eternal plans, and they deprive their daughters of many blessings, not only for this life, but for eternity. What a challenge.

Many people counsel young married couples to wait awhile to have children.  Get an education.  Get a career.  Travel and see the world.  Save up money and buy a home.  This is what the world says.  God says the purpose of marriage is to produce godly offspring.  He tells us to be fruitful and multiply.

We must stop thinking and reasoning as the world does and find the heart of God and what He wants.  He tells us children are a gift and a blessing.  He tells us He is our protector and provider for whom shall we fear.  He tells us He will always be with us and never leave us.

Sure childbearing is difficult.  There are a lot of risks, sleepless nights, pain, suffering, heartache, and exhaustion.  But who said life would be easy?  There is also a lot of joy, laughter, and satisfaction in obeying God and living according to His Word instead of the world's wisdom.

We walk the narrow path.  We are called to be living sacrifices.  Erin is a living sacrifice right now.  She is very sick at the beginning of her pregnancies and she isn't that tall so the babies kick her a lot as they are swimming inside of her.  When she brought Emma home, however, after a difficult labor, she looked up at Ryan and exclaimed, "I want more!"

Child raising is hard.  It takes a lot out of a mother but you are storing your treasures in heaven and whatever God asks you to do, He gives you the power to do it. 

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:1,2

The picture is Alyssa, one of my readers, with her husband and son.  
She wants to be a living sacrifice and writes about it HERE.

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Thank-you! Im expecting #3 and I'm already getting looks and comments. You can tell very few family members are excited about it (my mother-in-law was going to get rid if her baby stuff (she has a swing for when we come and visit) because she wasn't expecting us to have a 3rd (my other 2 just turned 3&5, and we lost a pregnancy last year) not sure what made her think that we where done, as we're leaving it to God. Its very sad for me to think that I seem to be a rare women in society these days who truly loves being a mother and help-meet to my husband. The norm seems to be "quick, push 1or2 kids out so I don't feel guilty and then throw them into a day home ASAP so I can get back to my career" (I understand, some moms have to work, and some ladies do enjoy their careers. But many times kids seem to come off as an obligation. What I don't understand is why its forbidden if me to mention someone being selfish over their career and putting it ahead of their children, but society is fine with other people making nasty comments about me choosing to have more than 2 children AND stay home with them.
My mother had 10 of us (I'm third from the top) all homeschooled! By the time they where expecting #5, she was getting the "another one" from my Grandmother. Nothing worse than ruining news that someone found exciting and is really looking forward to with a comment like that.
As soon as my first child was born, I thought, "I can't wait to do that again!" It was such an amazing experience! One I am so thankful for! We're expecting our 3rd child in July and I'm looking forward to it as well. The excitement from our families isn't quite as high, we've received a few strange comments. We don't care, this is God's plan for our family and we're excited about it! Thanks for the encouragement!
We have three children, but for some reason there is SOMETHING about 4 that seems daunting to us. What is it? I always felt wholly excited for my first three, and then after that my husband and I started practicing NFP and we've been doing that for the past 4 years. I'm entering my mid-30s now, so it's now or never. I'm definitely feeling older although not "old", but also not young either.
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According to my mom, who had 7 kids, after you have 3 you might as well have a dozen. She said that having 1 was very different from none. 2 was different, and adding a third was another adjustment. After 3, however, it's not really a big change. Just something to think about.
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Charity Hill · 623 weeks ago

I agree with your mom, Lindsay. I have 7 kids. I couldn't tell the difference between having 3 or 7. I can't imagine not having one of my kids. It can be chaos at times, but that can come with only one child.
Shared this on my facebook wall. SOOO true. I've had so many people calling me crazy when I tell them I want lots of children. Many say that once I have my first and taste what it's like having children, I'll change my mind. Guess what? My daughter turns 4 months today and I can't wait for my body to recover to get pregnant again. If I hadn't had a need for a c-section and this takes longer to close, I'd be trying to get pregnant already! I feel like time is running out for me and I'm 27 years old. I have friends who are older and feel they have all the time in the world. Thank you for sharing this. Thank you for sharing it's God's will and reaffirming us that are constantly bombarded by other's opinions. Much love and much prayer in your upcoming surgery.
I wrote this post that sums my thoughts on your post: http://youknowwhatineed.blogspot.com/2012/10/the-...
Wow- how timely! I am 7 1/2 weeks along with our fourth. I get so very sick for the first trimester-first half of pregnancy and I really needed this encouragement today. Thank you!
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Gently Led · 623 weeks ago

Oh, I love this. And the Gabrielle Reese post. and all you write :)

My kids are 6 and 4; I had a miscarriage at 42 with #3; now, I have a chronic medical condition requiring me to be on medications that would make it unsafe to get pregnant. At 44 (me) and 50 (my husband), we are coming to terms that we probably will just have these two children. I have peace about that, but I treasure every time I push them in the swings, or carry them, or they crawl into bed with us, knowing that some day soon they won't want that anymore.

I had a career in my 20s and 30s until marriage . . . nothing is as important, challenging, fulfilling and meaningful as raising up young lives! I pray for those of you with 3+ kids -- what a wonderful gift to God and the world you give!
I do agree 100% with everything you say in this post, BUT I would like to point out that I, myself, am struggling with having a 3rd baby and the reason is this........There are SEVERAL families that I know that have bigger families (3,4,5 kids) and they are on governmental assistance. They also plan on having more. I, personally, have an issue with this logic. Yes, he wants us to be fruitful and multiply, BUT we are also called to be good stewards of our money. The bible talks about money more than anything else, right?!?! I feel like I can't responsibly have more kids because I have to help pay and raise everyone else's. Then, those families make me feel like I don't love being a mom as much as them or that I don't trust God enough, but that's not the case at all! I LOVE being a mom, but I don't think it's fair for these families to have as many kids as they want and not have to take responsibility for them. One of them even referenced the Duggars once, but they are self-sufficient. I just don't feel that God is calling EVERYONE to have large families. Just like God doesn't call EVERYONE to be a teacher, or a preacher, or a doctor, or a missionary. I know I'm opening a whole other can of worms, but I would be very curious what your thoughts are on this topic. I hope I didn't offend anyone with my comment - those weren't my intentions AT ALL!
Hi Emily,

God calls us to be fruitful and multiply, and He calls is to live honorably and responsibly. All truth is held in a tension by other truths, and it is our job as reasonable Christians to walk within the balance of God's truths.

Paul says "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Tim 5:8).

Balance that truth out with "Be fruitful and multiply" when you are on welfare. Certainly if the families you speak of are in short term assistance, and desire more kids, they should continue their desires, but responsibly wait until God can meet all of their basic needs by their own work and provision.

Unfortunately, too many Christians are unwilling to go without certain luxuries in order to have more children. Building a 401K account is more important to them than the laughter and joy of a beautiful child who could easily grow up to care for them in their old age. It is to these folks that Lori's words should ring clear and make them think about what is really the greatest treasures of life, our kids.

Two should be minimum, four is better, and I wish I had six. That's how Lori and I feel about children ... and we hope our kids learn from our mistakes :). We believed the world's lies and may have lost out on two more, but also, Lori was probably too sick for any more. God has a say too in how many we have... for those who cannot have many, He knows, He cares, and He loves each one of us just as much.
Thanks so much for your thoughts...I completely agree. Just to clarify, these families are not on short-term assistance. They feel that by qualifying for the assistance, that is God providing for them. I really enjoy this blog and always look forward to the next post! Thanks again!

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