After Ryan and Erin had been married only several months, he came to me and quietly said, "Erin is pregnant." I cried. I jumped up and hugged him. I was so excited! Would I have reacted this way if Ryan had told me they were expecting their fourth, fifth, or even sixth child?
Nancy Campbell questioned the wisdom of mothers counseling their daughters to stop having babies after they have two children. ~
When parents speak disparagingly when their daughters are pregnant {again}, they often say these things because they love their daughters and don't want them to have extra work or sleepless nights. They speak out of concern and love. But, in doing so, they miss God's heart. They do it because they do not think God's way. They only see things from a human point of view. Therefore, they are an obstacle in God's eternal plans, and they deprive their daughters of many blessings, not only for this life, but for eternity. What a challenge.
Many people counsel young married couples to wait awhile to have children. Get an education. Get a career. Travel and see the world. Save up money and buy a home. This is what the world says. God says the purpose of marriage is to produce godly offspring. He tells us to be fruitful and multiply.
We must stop thinking and reasoning as the world does and find the heart of God and what He wants. He tells us children are a gift and a blessing. He tells us He is our protector and provider for whom shall we fear. He tells us He will always be with us and never leave us.
Sure childbearing is difficult. There are a lot of risks, sleepless nights, pain, suffering, heartache, and exhaustion. But who said life would be easy? There is also a lot of joy, laughter, and satisfaction in obeying God and living according to His Word instead of the world's wisdom.
We walk the narrow path. We are called to be living sacrifices. Erin is a living sacrifice right now. She is very sick at the beginning of her pregnancies and she isn't that tall so the babies kick her a lot as they are swimming inside of her. When she brought Emma home, however, after a difficult labor, she looked up at Ryan and exclaimed, "I want more!"
Child raising is hard. It takes a lot out of a mother but you are storing your treasures in heaven and whatever God asks you to do, He gives you the power to do it.
I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:1,2
The picture is Alyssa, one of my readers, with her husband and son.
She wants to be a living sacrifice and writes about it HERE.
Kimberly · 623 weeks ago
My mother had 10 of us (I'm third from the top) all homeschooled! By the time they where expecting #5, she was getting the "another one" from my Grandmother. Nothing worse than ruining news that someone found exciting and is really looking forward to with a comment like that.
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Gently Led · 623 weeks ago
My kids are 6 and 4; I had a miscarriage at 42 with #3; now, I have a chronic medical condition requiring me to be on medications that would make it unsafe to get pregnant. At 44 (me) and 50 (my husband), we are coming to terms that we probably will just have these two children. I have peace about that, but I treasure every time I push them in the swings, or carry them, or they crawl into bed with us, knowing that some day soon they won't want that anymore.
I had a career in my 20s and 30s until marriage . . . nothing is as important, challenging, fulfilling and meaningful as raising up young lives! I pray for those of you with 3+ kids -- what a wonderful gift to God and the world you give!
Emily · 623 weeks ago
Ken · 623 weeks ago
God calls us to be fruitful and multiply, and He calls is to live honorably and responsibly. All truth is held in a tension by other truths, and it is our job as reasonable Christians to walk within the balance of God's truths.
Paul says "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Tim 5:8).
Balance that truth out with "Be fruitful and multiply" when you are on welfare. Certainly if the families you speak of are in short term assistance, and desire more kids, they should continue their desires, but responsibly wait until God can meet all of their basic needs by their own work and provision.
Unfortunately, too many Christians are unwilling to go without certain luxuries in order to have more children. Building a 401K account is more important to them than the laughter and joy of a beautiful child who could easily grow up to care for them in their old age. It is to these folks that Lori's words should ring clear and make them think about what is really the greatest treasures of life, our kids.
Two should be minimum, four is better, and I wish I had six. That's how Lori and I feel about children ... and we hope our kids learn from our mistakes :). We believed the world's lies and may have lost out on two more, but also, Lori was probably too sick for any more. God has a say too in how many we have... for those who cannot have many, He knows, He cares, and He loves each one of us just as much.
Emily · 623 weeks ago