Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Do Males Wander?


“Males have a tendency to wander a little bit, and what you want to do is make the home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander,” Pat Robertson said.

Wow!  Mr. Robertson is getting pounded for saying these words.  He was responding to a woman whose husband had cheated and she just can't forgive him.  Mr. Robertson told her to forgive him, dwell on all his positive qualities, and make a wonderful home.

I agree with him.  Many will say that men are not made to be monogamous.  They just weren't built that way.  So I guess women weren't made to not allow their emotions to control them.  We are just made that way!

God commands men to be monogamous.  Therefore, they can be faithful to one wife.  It makes it a whole lot easier for the man, however, if the wife is a godly help meet to him.  The man has to take responsibility for the affair and ask for forgiveness, but then the wife needs to do everything she can to keep her husband happy.

Women do set the tone in the home and most homes have ugly tones.  There is strife and tension.  If you are always mad at your husband, do you expect him to stay just because he is a christian?  Yes, he should but he may not.  You begin to obey God, become the wife He calls you to become, and watch how beautiful your marriage can become.

Yes, God made men with a lot of testosterone which makes them highly attracted to the female body.  Keep him happy and fulfilled at home.  You were created to be his help meet.  Spend your life learning how to be the best help meet to this man God gave you.  Your husband and children will thank you!  NOTHING beats a happy home.

Every wise woman buildeth her house:
but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1

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GREAT post!
I sincerely agree with the fact that it is her God given responsibility to forgive her husband, and to try and understand by talking with him what caused this sin to take place to begin with, and without a doubt the husband did sin!
What troubled me in listening to Mr. Robertson in this interview was his "condoning" tone concerning the sin of infidelity~~you cannot just make the blanket statement that he is a man and basically, "That men are prone to wander" and that it should be the wife's sole responsibility to make that home so happy that he won't want to! A marriage should be 100%, 100% on both parts! That would be like saying that God made women to enjoy caring for and making purchases for her home so it should be her husband's responsibility solely to keep her happy so that she doesn't need to purchase so much~~I for one was offended by his "almost apologetic" tone concerning the husband's sin~~falling back on the old adage, "Well, God made me that way" to me is unacceptable~~not trying to be disagreeable, just did not quite see this the way you did :)
2 replies · active 615 weeks ago
If Pat Robertson is the perfect example of a Christian person, I'm glad my husband and I are Jewish.
1 reply · active 617 weeks ago
I don't believe Pat Robertson ever stated he was perfect. He is a sinner, just like every human being, the Ten Commandments proved that. He is forgiven!

Ephesians 2:8-9 8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9 not by works, so that no one can boast.
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Cynthia Swenson · 617 weeks ago

I just want to point out that Jesus DID say adultery was grounds for divorce. I've never forgotten Pat saying alzheimers (don't know how to spell that!) was grounds for divorce! Of course, the Bible only allows desertion & sexual sin as grounds for divorce. I just think we should use God's Word as our basis for advice, not Pat's! That woman must forgive her husband if she wants God to forgive her sins. However, she does not have to remain married to him. Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
15 replies · active 615 weeks ago
"...most homes have ugly tones?" Please support this extreme statement. You have mentioned that your marriage turned around when you made a conscious decision to stop arguing with your husband. You have such a platform here and the obvious intelligence and 'call' to be a teacher of women. I believe it is possible to get to the hard truth, as you lay it out, but from a gentler approach. Thank you.
1 reply · active 617 weeks ago
Men are not children and need to take responsibility and one of them is remaining faithful once married, it’s part of the marriage contract (can’t they read). We can’t put all the responsibility on women because men can’t control themselves, which of course they can if they chose to. It’s an excuse for bad behaviour – lazy behaviour. I know what is right and wrong, don’t men? If I have to work on my behaviour – the way I treat other people, why can’t men, as I said previously, they aren’t children (spoilt children). And as for a happy home – it takes all members of the household to create a happy home – not just the woman. Everyone is responsible, it’s like working in any team.
1 reply · active 617 weeks ago
Your central premise is flawed. A wife can keep the best house and the husband can still stray for any number of selfish reasons. What would you say to the wife who's broken her back trying to please her husband and he cheated anyway?

The Bible does not ask wives to break their backs in wifely service, certainly not to avoid an affair. I challenge anyone to prove otherwise.
2 replies · active 616 weeks ago
It is a proven fact that men from the most wonderful homes....wander. Blaming the wife who has kept her vow is inexcusable. The violator chose to ignore his/her vows before their spouse and God. The violator chose to lie, sneak, betray his/her home, family, children, character, and spouse. There is no excuse. Would he say because a spouse is bedridden with cancer that the other spouse has the right to cheat? NO! Mr. Robertson neglects the other proven fact... that most cheaters cheated for other reasons. Our society is focusing so much energy on telling our young men that polygamy is natural and monogamy is not our nature. Often we, as Christians, assume that just by being Christian we are safe from the temptation of infidelity and our children will not be tempted either. Left to the whims of the movie industry, false teachings, peer pressure...our children naively are left to the fiercest battles of their lives alone and unarmed.
The notion that it is the wife who is to blame if her husband cheats, is a fallacy perpetrated by society and even our church leaders who are searching for an easy blame. Blaming the victim instead of admitting the truth is much easier. The truth is we do not teach or preach enough about sex and sexuality. When we do we often teach hellfire and brimstone for violators. This results in alienation and lack of tolerance towards the sin and sinner that do not create an environment conducive to learning or learning how to prevent it. Instead we just call the victims sinners and often separate ourselves from them.
The victim of betrayal is hurting. He/she is going through the most painful experience of their life. Telling them it was because they did not create a loving home is wrong. Instead tell the cheater, he should have been honest, if there were problems he/she should have faced them head on or with a professional.

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