She'd been to counseling. They even went to a marriage counselor together. Nothing seemed to work. She was worried about her marriage. She has one child and didn't think she wanted any more. She came to me and wanted to be mentored.
I encouraged her to be in God's Word daily. I told her to renew her mind with God's truth. Stop thinking negative thoughts about her husband. Her husband was upset when he heard that she wanted to be a "submissive wife." He didn't want any part of that.
I told her she must be a submissive wife for this is what God commands of her regardless of what her husband wants since God's Word trumps a husband's word. I told her to win him without a word. Let him see what true submission looks like.
The last time I met with her she was glowing. They haven't had any arguments. She got her IUD out and desires to have children. He got mad at her for something and she simply said she was sorry instead of fighting back. She is no longer an adversary of her husband but a source of peace to him. She has waved her white flag of surrender and she is reaping beautiful fruit from it.
He no longer tells her not to be a submissive wife. I think he is enjoying their new relationship and his new wife. She no longer cares if he sleeps in. She wants him to now so he will be well rested. Her whole countenance has changed. She radiates joy and peace.
I never tire of watching the beautiful ways of the Lord and how well they work. Mentoring young women is so rewarding...marriages restored, peace reigning in the home, children becoming well-behaved. If you are an older women, begin mentoring younger women. You will learn so much in the process and young women will be so thankful.
The aged women likewise,
that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness,
not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober,
to love their husbands, to love their children...