Friday, May 3, 2013

Training Character In Your Children


Have you ever noticed that some people are really neat and others are not?  Some are easily angered and others are not?  Some are always on time and others are not?  Some work very hard and others are lazy?  So much of our character is a result of good or bad parenting.
Training a child in the way he should go involves taking a child by the hand and allowing him to be a part of your productive life.  When you train a child to enjoy cooking, she will always enjoy cooking.  When you train up a child to work, he will always enjoy the accomplishment of a job well done.  When you train up a child to notice what needs to be done, to be on time, to be respectful, to work as a team, to use time wisely, and to put his shoulder to the plow, he will always be responsible and productive.
It is not a strange turn of events that one boy grows up to be lazy and another is a worker;  that one woman is bitter and the other is full of joy;  that one person is productive and the other expects others to pay his way;  that one man is lustful and the other is self-disciplined; that one woman is emotionally crippled, and the other is wise and thoughtful.  {Debi Pearl}
Raising children is a monumental task.  You need to be daily seeking wisdom from the Lord.  The Bible commands that we train our children diligently in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and teach them all throughout the day.
This takes a keeper at home.  This take time and effort.  It's responsibility cannot be placed on the school, babysitter, grandparents, or church.  It must be your responsibility.  One you must take seriously and recognize as a command from God.
Be diligent in forming good habits and character in your children from a very young age.  You will reap wonderful fruit in your old age when all your children are walking in Truth.
Train up a child in the way he should go: 
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6

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Please help me learn some ways to do this. I have been working on their character for years but it just doesnt seem to be sinking in.
I agree with this post but I also used to be under the mistaken notion that kids turned out the way they did b/c of their upbringing and their parents' good advice. My son was taught about God, to do housework and laundry, respect woman, work hard, manage money, read his Bible and pray daily. He has an awesome Dad who loved to do things with him and is a great spiritual example. He has turned his back on almost everything he was taught, not just spiritually but on being a good citizen and paying his bills. He does not want a relationship with his family, etc. This has opened my eyes that not every kid who turns out bad was not raised with character and values and has given me more empathy for others. I DO believe the promises in the Bible that he will come back to the Lord.
The way parents bring up their children does determine how they turn out as adults - however "This takes a keeper at home." is so NOT true. I know many wonderful young adults (I also included my own sons in this) that are as you describe and they had both parents working. My parents both worked and my brothers and I are all of good character, hard working individuals with strong Christian ethics. Bringing up children does involve the parents, but it also includes the interaction with grandparents, aunts, uncles, close friends plus their involvement in the community. And whilst mine went to school - it is what I taught them at home still rings true. Having mum at home does not guarantee a child turning out well at all - nor the amount of love and dedication that parents pour into their children as Anonymous points out above.
Dear Mrs. Alexander and Commenters,

Yes, training our littles takes many years of gentle, near-daily efforts. Yes, training our littles sometimes appears to have no effect. The training is in their minds and hearts, though. Ideally, yes, mothers would be full-time keepers at home, but for many mothers that is not an option. In my own case, I humbly beg for your prayers and good thoughts as I do my best as a widowed mom who can no longer devote herself to family full-time.

Agape always,
Cynthia

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