She bragged about giving her husband sex once a week, after work on Thursdays, for five minutes. That is only 20 minutes a month, ladies. It takes longer to buy a candle for your living room. She thought she was being a great wife to sacrifice those 20 minutes a month for her husband.
Another young women works a full-time job and has another business on the side that takes many hours a week. Her health isn't great. Her husband isn't very ambitious and they haven't been married for very long. He wants sex everyday. Are you kidding me? I work so hard and don't feel that great!
A very good friend of mine gives her husband sex every day because she told me he enjoys it and it makes him very happy. She loves pleasing her man.
Which husband do you think is happiest???
You must come to terms with the fact that most men like sex a lot more often than women do. God made them that way. He gave them a lot of testosterone to fight wars {defeating Hitler}, exploring new lands, building skyscrapers and bridges, and having the burden of providing for their families until the day they die.
If a burglar is in your home, who gets up to confront him? Your husband, of course! God made them to be the providers and protectors and having lots of testosterone makes them to want to fulfill that role. {A feminine, godly wife helps him want to fulfill that role even more.}
My advice...once a week is way too seldom for most men. Most men would love it every day or at least every other day. {Yes, there will be times of sickness and child birth, etc. that will prevent that but most of the time, you can fulfill that need.}
If you work too many hours and are too tired, you need to slow down and live on less. Your husband is your first priority. You were created to be his help meet regardless of what kind of a husband he is. The more you live to please him and keep him happy, the more he will do the same for you. We absolutely reap what we sow.
Change your thinking. Appreciate your man for the way God created Him. Find pleasure in making him happy. Know that this is your ministry in life and learn to enjoy the journey.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time,
Another young women works a full-time job and has another business on the side that takes many hours a week. Her health isn't great. Her husband isn't very ambitious and they haven't been married for very long. He wants sex everyday. Are you kidding me? I work so hard and don't feel that great!
A very good friend of mine gives her husband sex every day because she told me he enjoys it and it makes him very happy. She loves pleasing her man.
Which husband do you think is happiest???
You must come to terms with the fact that most men like sex a lot more often than women do. God made them that way. He gave them a lot of testosterone to fight wars {defeating Hitler}, exploring new lands, building skyscrapers and bridges, and having the burden of providing for their families until the day they die.
If a burglar is in your home, who gets up to confront him? Your husband, of course! God made them to be the providers and protectors and having lots of testosterone makes them to want to fulfill that role. {A feminine, godly wife helps him want to fulfill that role even more.}
My advice...once a week is way too seldom for most men. Most men would love it every day or at least every other day. {Yes, there will be times of sickness and child birth, etc. that will prevent that but most of the time, you can fulfill that need.}
If you work too many hours and are too tired, you need to slow down and live on less. Your husband is your first priority. You were created to be his help meet regardless of what kind of a husband he is. The more you live to please him and keep him happy, the more he will do the same for you. We absolutely reap what we sow.
Change your thinking. Appreciate your man for the way God created Him. Find pleasure in making him happy. Know that this is your ministry in life and learn to enjoy the journey.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time,
that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer;
and come together again,
that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
I Corinthians 7:5
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mvstephenson 44p · 618 weeks ago
Lindsay Harold · 618 weeks ago
The thing is, sex isn't just for men. Both men and women are created to have sex within marriage. It's meant to be mutually satisfying. And the goal isn't just to get release. It's to bring both husband and wife together and make them closer and more bonded to each other. That's why they call it sexual INTIMACY. It's about the relationship. Sex is supposed to merge a husband and wife into one - physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It makes them a better team in the rest of life to connect that way. And, of course, it is also designed to meet a very real need for sexual connection in both spouses.
waywardson23 25p · 617 weeks ago
Men: Give her a reason to make it more than once a week!
@waywardson23 · 618 weeks ago
Different couples have different sex drives. For us, every day and we'd both be exhausted. Talking about sex every day may give some couples unrealistic expectations about what they can do.
If either spouse's sex drive is unusually low, this may be a sign of a hormonal problem or other issue. Get help!
Couples should have sex often, but spouses shouldn't expect sex so often that it is unhealthy for the other spouse or it makes them feel used. For example, if a wife needs a few days off for her period, the husband should respect that and not whine, complain, beg, or pester her for some attention. But when the red tide recedes, it is time to be generous.
That's a good general rule: Have sex frequently when you can, but don't think you are entitled to it when you can't. We use fertility awareness for family planning, so a lot of that is built into the method. "A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing." Ecclesiastes 3:5.
Oh, and 1 Corinthians 7:4 shows that this goes BOTH WAYS. Yes, there are husbands who are depriving their wives. That isn't right either.
Brit · 618 weeks ago
We made a commitment to do that once, and after about 8 days my husband wanted a break. It became routine, and he felt like he wasn't enjoying it as much. He said that he prefers a few times a week.
Sometimes I feel like maybe he doesn't want it everyday because something is wrong with me or I'm not attractive enough, although he assures me that is not true. It was nice to hear from another guy that everyday can be exhausting, even for men.
waywardson23 25p · 617 weeks ago
Nor are men only about sex. Intimacy is not just for women, either.
mrsrooster 16p · 618 weeks ago
I think it is also a sign of how your relationship is at the time. Even with all the mess of life for us right now, we still make the most of our marriage.
Jaimie · 618 weeks ago
Also, I sometimes forget how good sex makes ME feel. Like a commenter above said, it's not just for the men. :) Plus, the more often we're close physically, the more we grow close in other ways as well! It's a win-win deal!
Joluise · 618 weeks ago
Lisa in Vermont · 618 weeks ago
I long for more intimacy, not just the physical intimacy of sex, but the emotional intimacy that comes with it. Do you or Ken have any suggestions?
Lisa · 617 weeks ago
queenofscrapbookin 37p · 617 weeks ago
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