She'd been to counseling. They even went to a marriage counselor together. Nothing seemed to work. She was worried about her marriage. She has one child and didn't think she wanted any more. She came to me and wanted to be mentored.
I encouraged her to be in God's Word daily. I told her to renew her mind with God's truth. Stop thinking negative thoughts about her husband. Her husband was upset when he heard that she wanted to be a "submissive wife." He didn't want any part of that.
I told her she must be a submissive wife for this is what God commands of her regardless of what her husband wants since God's Word trumps a husband's word. I told her to win him without a word. Let him see what true submission looks like.
The last time I met with her she was glowing. They haven't had any arguments. She got her IUD out and desires to have children. He got mad at her for something and she simply said she was sorry instead of fighting back. She is no longer an adversary of her husband but a source of peace to him. She has waved her white flag of surrender and she is reaping beautiful fruit from it.
He no longer tells her not to be a submissive wife. I think he is enjoying their new relationship and his new wife. She no longer cares if he sleeps in. She wants him to now so he will be well rested. Her whole countenance has changed. She radiates joy and peace.
I never tire of watching the beautiful ways of the Lord and how well they work. Mentoring young women is so rewarding...marriages restored, peace reigning in the home, children becoming well-behaved. If you are an older women, begin mentoring younger women. You will learn so much in the process and young women will be so thankful.
The aged women likewise,
that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness,
not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober,
to love their husbands, to love their children...
Titus 2:3,4
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Lori Alexander 122p · 620 weeks ago
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Lori Alexander 122p · 620 weeks ago
Annie · 619 weeks ago
I've been reading your blog for a while, and I turn to you for advice because I don't know what to do. I've been with my fiance for years, we are engaged to be married next year, and we're both established in our careers (I'm 28, he's 39). I found out a week ago that I am 8 weeks pregnant, and my future husband is shocked/panicked and he doesn't want us to keep the baby because it's not the right time, we are not married and people will talk.
Personally, I was very shocked when I found out (considering I was on the pill), but I became excited about it. I don't know how to convince him that we should keep it, that it's our child and that abortion is murder (he believes that it's just a bunch of cells). I couldn't go through with an abortion but I also know that I cannot raise this baby by myself and he's also against adoption.
I hope you and your readers have some insight on how I can convince him to make the right decision.
Lori Alexander 122p · 619 weeks ago
This is why it is so important not to have sex with a man until you have a ring on your finger and said your "I do's" to each other. Since you didn't, however, you should absolutely not get an abortion. You would regret that decision the rest of your life and it may jeopardize having future children. My advice would be to go get married right away. Do the right thing for the baby. He/She needs a mother and a father. Hopefully, you are engaged to a good man and he will want to marry you now.