Wednesday, February 26, 2014

The World's Vs. God's Design For Women


God has a magnificent and wonderful design for women which will fulfill their creative purpose, maximize their uniqueness, make them a blessing to the world and bring fulfillment to their own lives and glory to the name of God.  His design for them is completely opposite of what women are being taught today.  

Instead of being taught to be sober {to be moderate, self-controlled, thoughtful, and to learn to make wise decisions and judgments}, they are told to "live it up" during their younger years, get drunk, be taught in humanistic institutions devoid of any of God's Truth and wisdom, and just have fun. 

Instead of being taught to love their husbands, they are being taught to love whoever they want.  If they aren't happy in one marriage with one man, try another one.  They are not being taught that if they do not love their husbands, they are being disobedient to God's command and are walking in sin.  {Please women, love your husbands. Become a "husband lover."  Make yourself easy to love, like Jesus.}

Instead of being taught to love their children, they are being taught to farm out their children for somebody else to raise.  Do not take the time to love them, to discipline them, to feed them healthy food, to teach them about self-control, and most importantly, to teach them about Jesus and how much He loves them.

Instead of teaching them to be discreet, now they are taught to be bold, outspoken and independent.  They are encouraged to speak their mind often and loudly and show men that they are just as good as men are and even want to act and look like them.

Instead of being taught to be chaste, they are taught to be immodest, showing off their bodies, turning guys on, being mean girls who dress to entice other women's husbands and boyfriends, forgetting about others, and just thinking about how empowering they can be.  They are taught to focus on fulfilling their physical and lustful desires instead of purity, goodness, and modesty.

Instead of being taught to be keepers at home, they find their fulfillment and satisfaction outside of the home.  Don't ever be dependent upon a man or stuck at home having to take care of children, cooking, and cleaning.  These are demeaning jobs and their worth is much greater than this.

Oh, and never be obedient to their own husbands.  Be obedient instead to their boss.  He knows what is better for them than a husband would.  Never be submissive to a husband, only to a boss for this is Satan's plan and his plan is always better than God's plan.

The aged women...teach the young women to be sober, 
to love their husbands, to love their children, 
to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, 
good, obedient to their own husbands, 
that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5

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Lori- I just did a post about Titus 2 yesterday on my blog. How right you are about how our youth are being led by today's societal examples. God has all but been replaced with the do-whatever mentality... a very sad state of affairs in my opinion.
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Wonderful post, Shannon! Thank you for sharing. I do realize my example, the way I live my life, is even more important than the words I write. I don't live it out perfectly but I sure try to all the time with Christ's power living powerfully through me and the promise that I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.
This is an excellent post! Sadly it is so true that today's young women are not being taught God's way. I am doing my best to train up my daughter according to the Bible, not the world's standards. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Blessings.
1 reply · active 578 weeks ago
Your work will be rewarded, Rashel. It has never been easy since we live in a fallen world but continue hiding God's Word in their hearts with joyfulness and the hopes of raising godly offspring are much more promising.
Excellent post Lori, thank you
Blessings
Helen UK
1 reply · active 578 weeks ago
Thank you, Helen. I always so appreciate your kind, encouraging words and support.
When it seem like all is lost, God still have His faithful people. I know that their are wives and mothers out there who are working daily to live for God first and I pray daily that I am one of them.
Peace to you.
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We are a remnant, Elissa, but a powerful remnant since greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world. Keep seeking and speaking Truth and you will be rewarded!
Oh if I could give you a hug for this post! Women are being taught all the wrong things today. God help us. Stopping by from Wifey Wednesdays!
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Thanks, Yvonne! Hugs back at you. We, older women, must step up to the plate and teach Truth so those young women with teachable, godly hearts will listen to the Truth and then act upon it.
I just need to point out one of the many fallacies in your argument here. I can't argue your point that because I am a woman, I deserve to be subjugated to my husband because while your point seems completely illogical and morally outrageous to me, it is based on your interpretation of the bible and I have no answer to that as I do not believe in God nor do I practice any religion. I do however need to make a point that being obedient to a boss is not an acknowledgement that they know what is best for you personally. It is an acknowledgment that they know what is best for their company. I do not go to my boss for his opinion on how I should dress or what I should do with my finances. Those decisions lie firmly with me and to the matter of finances with my husband and I.

Women working outside the home is not a detriment to their relationship with their husbands and your argument that it is, I believe, belittles the intelligence and emotional security of the men that you are trying to build up.
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I guess that is the point Amanda that you live within a worldview that is not Christian so you do not see things the way Lori does or many other Christians. Her writing is to Christian women who want to be great wives and mothers. Certainly you will live out your worldview, unless you come to the conclusion some day that women everywhere are being robbed of their primary roles and are missing out on the huge benefits that come from being a Stay-at-Home wife and Mom. Some may have no choice but to work, and God will honor them in that, but many choose to work because they believe the extra money outweigh the benefits of being a SaHM.

I think Lori's point on obedience to a boss is that many women have no issue with being subject to and following their boss for money, but when it comes to doing the same for a husband out of love, and God's design, they hate the idea. Yes, the boss has overall oversight for the company, and why shouldn't the husband have overall oversight of the home and family? Especially if God's Word says he is to be such a sacrificial leader?

The idea that leadership of another somehow makes you lesser, or subservient is an absurd proposition as you can see from a boss employee or child parent relationship. A great boss treats his/her employees as just as important or more important than him/herself. What makes you think that a husband cannot do the same, and treat his wife and children as more important than himself?

You are making Lori's point for her that the world does not get what Christianity teaches. Don't be offended by the Christian worldview. It is not offensive to let others think and live their lives as they choose…, is it? Remember context as this post was not written for you, but to give perspective to fellow Christians as to the differences between what we as Believers think and what the world is shouting loudly in the media and every chance it gets.

Remember, some 50 years ago in America, and for many many centuries before this in the US and Europe, the worldview Lori is teaching was the main worldview. It is up to you to decide if it is better now for women or worse off? Better to reap the blessings of a SAHM or better to go to work each day outside the home. Thoughtful people will simply reflect and accept or reject what someone writes. Just think about it if you have stumbled on Lori's blog. It is only her insights, opinions all founded on God's Word.
Is the boss/employee model really the model of a Godly marriage?

Most employees that I know don't do what their bosses say out of any sort of love or respect. They do it because they want to keep their jobs. It doesn't come from the heart. If it looks like the company is in trouble, or if a better offer comes along, they are only too happy to give notice.

I also don't know that many bosses that treat employees as more important than themselves.

The average worker stays at his or her job for only 4.4 years. [Source: http://www.forbes.com/sites/jeannemeister/2012/08... That's not what we want for marriages!
"Don't be offended by the Christian worldview. It is not offensive to let others think and live their lives as they choose…, is it?"

I like this sentiment. I also wish people with different beliefs would try to see where the other side is coming from more often. I understand that we disagree on really fundamental things, but often, some of our goals are the same: strong families, thriving children, a better world for the next generation, less suffering, more kindness…

Although I understand that it's based in scripture and doctrine, there's a lot of Christian rhetoric that I find really frustrating: the strong concept of "us vs them," waging a war against the world, the other side is under satan's influence, etc. Again, I get where it's coming from, I just think it's unfortunate. From my perspective, we're all in this together and we have to work together and stop vilifying each other if we ever want to have a more peaceful world. Sometimes I think that the Christian belief that we're at the end of times is a self-fulfilling prophesy.

I'm not saying that secularists, feminists, liberals, etc are more respectful of conservative Christians or more willing to work together. Lots of us need to work on it :) This is just something I feel strongly about and the "us vs them" nature of this post made me think of it.
I do agree with you Courtney that the rhetoric happens on both sides. Maybe we both can learn to tone things down, but what I think happens is that Christians use the words of Jesus and the Biblical perspectives and when we say "World" we are referring to a "worldview" and not individual people.

We are called to love people, but not love the world:
"Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him." I John 2:15)

"If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you." (John 15:19).

There are an endless list of passages that warn the Christian to live in the world, be at peace with all people so much as it depends on us, but watch out for the world's ways and the world's thinking.

Also remember that for years Christians have been persecuted for their faith, and we can see and feel the world (worldview) tightening down more and more on Christians even here in the America. Gay marriage, abortions, sex all over the media, slanderous things said about Christians and our worldview on most media now a day... have you watched the view lately? It is in your face throwing out sin and gross stuff knowing it is offensive to Christians and enjoying doing it.

So we are looking to bridge the gap between being "darn right" Christians and turning everyone off to the beautiful message of Jesus, yet trying to hold the line when as the flood of filth, filthy talk and filthy thinking comes to America. You admonition is well taken, and perhaps it is people like you who have learned how to explore ideas with other worldviews in a non-offensive way who can best coach us. I know I need to learn some of your skills to be able to hold to the truth of God's Word in a non-offensive manner, so much as it depends on me.:).
Amanda, I appreciate Ken taking the time to make a thoughtful reply to your comments but I am puzzled, why are you reading Lori's blog if you find it so offensive and full of, you believe, 'fallacies'?.

Helen UK
Well, Helen - sometimes I've read blogs which present views with which I don't agree. It's not unusual. Maybe Amanda reads Lori's blog because she wants to expose these things she believes as fallacies. Although I don't share Amanda's atheism, I agree with her on some points, e.g. women working outside the home is not an automatic threat to men.

And where do single working women fit into this paradigm? I'm also from the UK - I'm a single Christian woman and I'm amused that the OP assumes that bosses are always male! My present boss is another single woman, and she's lovely. (I work for a church.) I've been very fortunate when it comes to the people I've worked for - most of them have been Christians! And my non-Christian bosses were also excellent.

As for the 'main worldview' before feminism came along, I'm certainly not against the traditional family (far from it, I thank God for my own wonderful family) but there were also a lot of ugly and ungodly things tied up with the rule of patriarchy - and these awful things persist today in many cultures where women are still regarded as subordinate and inferior to men. That should not be lost sight of. I don't believe that the Bible teaches that women are inferior to men - Jesus affirms and encourages women.

Grace and peace to you all.
Thanks Lori! God's ways are always best.
I so wish someone would have been my "older woman" when I was a younger woman (or maybe someone was and I just didn't notice?). The world and its ways chewed me up and spit me out before I came to God. When I got married and was able to be a homemaker (which my younger, world-oriented self would have just despised), I quickly found out that being a homemaker was what I was striving for all along. Funny how God works. I'm pretty sure He had a good chuckle at my foolishness. ;-)
So much of the world is placed into our daughter's hands at a young age. So many young women fall into the world's trap..... May we never fail to pray for them and to encourage them as they make decisions that will make or break them in life.
Thank you for being brave. Thank you for reminding women who follow Jesus what his design is for us, even it means attracting negative responses. Your boldness is needed in this self driven, sinful world. Every word your wrote gave me so much excitement to know Jesus, be a woman, wife, and mother, and to live out his purpose. I can't even begin to explain how satisfying it is to obey Jesus in these roles.
Thank you :)

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