Do you think you are in a miserable marriage and you just need to get out? Would you consider your husband a jerk, an addict, or worse? Do you see no redeeming quality in him and you have had enough? Megan felt all of these things and she had every right to feel them. Her husband was a sexual addict, couldn't hold down a job, and was an alcoholic.
Most everyone would counsel her that she had multiple reasons to divorce her husband. After all, many wives divorce their husbands simply because they are unhappy. When she was pregnant with her third child, she decided to abort the baby since her life was such a mess and was manipulated into following through at the abortion clinic.
She could easily have divorced him but she stayed with him for many years. She began to spend a lot of time in God's Word and prayer. She stopped arguing with her husband and began showing Christ's love to him. The Bible says a believing wife sanctifies her husband. It tells us she may win him without a word. After many years of putting up with all of his garbage, she decided she had had enough and told him their marriage was over, but this happened ~
I was heading to church and he asked if he could go. I said if he wanted to go he could get there himself {believing this was manipulation}. I left and on my way home I saw him heading towards church. I couldn’t believe it! He came home from church and I suggested he go into a rehab program. To my surprise he agreed and said he was ready to go into a Christian drug and alcohol restoration program. He was concerned about how we would make it financially while he was in the program since he was the bread winner. I told him not to worry about it, that God would provide {which He did miraculously}. We checked him in and it was there that he surrendered his life to Jesus Christ! It was there that Jesus took his alcohol addiction, sexual addiction and cigarette addiction away! That was in June of 2010. I never left his side as I saw that my husband was being transformed just as Saul had been to Paul!
I was heading to church and he asked if he could go. I said if he wanted to go he could get there himself {believing this was manipulation}. I left and on my way home I saw him heading towards church. I couldn’t believe it! He came home from church and I suggested he go into a rehab program. To my surprise he agreed and said he was ready to go into a Christian drug and alcohol restoration program. He was concerned about how we would make it financially while he was in the program since he was the bread winner. I told him not to worry about it, that God would provide {which He did miraculously}. We checked him in and it was there that he surrendered his life to Jesus Christ! It was there that Jesus took his alcohol addiction, sexual addiction and cigarette addiction away! That was in June of 2010. I never left his side as I saw that my husband was being transformed just as Saul had been to Paul!
I used to pray and ask Jesus to save my husband. I had no idea that he would give me a new amazing husband. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! This is exactly what happened to him. He is so loving, trustworthy and caring now. We had our daughter in October 2010. Since then have had one more girl and I am currently pregnant with our fifth child.
I always loved the song Amazing Grace, but now the words have meaning to my husband and me that resonate throughout our very souls…Amazing grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me. Thank You Jesus for saving these two wretches! All glory and honor to our Savior!
You can read her whole story HERE.
***You are complete in Him! His divine power
has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness.
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jsr · 570 weeks ago
Ken · 570 weeks ago
If they took away from this story that they must "lower the boom" to get results...They would be reading a different story than what was written above. Are their rose colored glasses so dark that they cannot see that she changed herself first?
"She stopped arguing with her husband and began showing Christ's love to him."
Then she lowered the boom??? :): "I suggested he go into a rehab program."
WOW... that was hard hitting :).
It is probably a suggestion she had made many times before but he was unwilling to hear it because he had not yet seen Jesus living in her. When confronted daily by the living, active, loving Jesus of Nazareth in the life of a spouse, something changes as the scriptures promise that she "sanctifies him." We do not know how this power works, or what exact changes it makes, but we have heard and seen many story after story of changed lives because one spouse was faithful to serve Christ in this heroic manner... loving the unlovable,
... but it is the one they chose to be their spouse. So why not try to win them God's ways?
Ken · 570 weeks ago
To "lower the boom" by saying "Every time I see you are acting drunk or high, or acting erratically in any way I will leave until such time you can assure me that the man I married is the one who is at home. If you go straight to bed and sleep it off, I will stay, but if you want to be in the home and act like someone who is high or drunk, I can't deal with that, nor should I have to."
Each situation like this is going to require the spouse who is living the ordeal to seek the wisdom of God through wise godly counselors. Every story is different, and just like one should never counsel that every Christian wife should "always stay" with with her man, no matter what, neither should she be counseled to "always run." It must come down to an individual decision by each spouse who should be in the Word daily and seekings God's will in this difficult situation, but also making sure she has surrounded herself with a support team of counselors who are looking out for her best short and long term interests.
No one will fault a wife in this situation who sets boundaries to protect her and the kids from the addictions, but if a wife believes her husband is difficult, but harmless, should should do all she can to show him Christ love through this difficult situation. What that means will be different to every wife, and to the wife in this story, it meant staying and winning him back. And for this she sees God's amazing grace each and every day in the changed life of her husband. A difficult story, and for each spouse to decide before God, based on God's Word. Whatever they decide, stay or not stay, should be honored by others as the Spirit inside speaking to them.
jsr · 570 weeks ago
"After many years of putting up with all of his garbage, she decided she had had enough and told him their marriage was over, but this happened ~"
Loving been his wife · 570 weeks ago
My Beloved and I had such a hard time having our babies and I just can't imagine not giving our baby life; I mean what did that precious baby do to meet it's end that way? We lost babies and find this kind of thing so hard to understand what kind of Mama could kill their own little baby!
Please don't delete this Lori, for I am just trying to understand; I am not judging. I just can't understand how any Mama could agree to doing it! This is just something I live with, and with really bad sadness as someone who wanted 8 children and more. However, because my silly body just would not work right I never achieve my dreams.
Lori Alexander 122p · 570 weeks ago
Cynthia · 570 weeks ago
I'm not trying to be harsh. I believe in repenting and receive forgiveness - but that doesn't mean being less than fully honest about past actions, or casting blame elsewhere.
I do think her story is valuable, however, because it shows the complicated situations and inner thoughts behind abortion. My sense is that the extremely polarized debate in the United States does nothing to help women in Megan's position. Would Megan, in the state of mind that she had at the time of the abortion, have listened to someone who was screaming that she was a murderer?
There's another alternative. I learned that in Israel, women who are seeking abortions meet first with a public social worker, who asks about her reasons for wanting the referral. At that point, she is asked if she would like a referral to an organization that could provide her with support during the pregnancy. These organizations don't do protests or lobbying - they are just there to support pregnant women, so they have the trust and support of the public social workers. They have a proven track record of preventing abortions and helping women choose to become mothers instead. They describe themselves as being "pro real choice".
https://www.justonelife.org/about.asp?pg=press&am...
Ken · 570 weeks ago
God's desire is that a spouse win a disobedient spouse back by shining the light of Jesus to them, but God never wants us to sin. There are clear boundaries and every wife asked to abort a child should ALWAYS protect the child. There is no gray area in this when it comes to pleasing God.
Jamie · 570 weeks ago
Loving been his wife · 570 weeks ago
I would have done anything to save the life of my unborn child, too. I am so grateful for God's forgiveness; however, I would never have been able to forgive myself if it was me.
I thought it was so sad that I was battling tears when she said that she talked to her unborn baby at MacDonalds; right there I think she should have chosen the baby!
From someone who has lost babies, this is beyond hard to understand.
Loving been his wife · 570 weeks ago
I do believe that God could of reached her husband even with her saving the babies life!
Danielle · 570 weeks ago
Loving been his wife · 570 weeks ago
Loving been his wife · 570 weeks ago
Why is it when a Christian says that they don't understand something and don't just go along with everything; we are then called - sinful and judging? I don't understand!
I am so happy she found away to forgive herself; all I was saying is that I know that I couldn't! How on earth is that judging?
Scott McKinney · 569 weeks ago
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