Many in today's society hate Truth, even Christians. I realize that the very most important Truth is Christ's death and resurrection for a true believer. However, God's Word is a blueprint for living, therefore, if we want lives that are pleasing to Him, we must study His Word and live our lives according to it. We must not hate any of his directions to us on how we are to live. They are for our good, not because He wants to make our lives miserable. On the contrary, His prescriptions for living are the best way to live.
Many think that I dislike working mothers since I teach about being keepers at home so much. I don't dislike working mothers. I love them, therefore, I teach them what is best for them and their families. I also teach them to be keepers at home since God commands me to teach them this no matter what gets thrown at me.
Few women alive are equipped with the super strength necessary at the end of a workday to meet the emotional needs of their children, to train and guide and discipline, to build self-esteem, to teach the true values of life, and beyond all that, to maintain a healthy marital relationship as well. {Dr. James Dobson}
It would appear that the woman willing to lose her life temporarily in the lives of her family stands to gain the most. God's economy seems backward to us - lose in order to gain, give in order to get and die that we might live. But it works. {Marilee Horton}
Few women alive are equipped with the super strength necessary at the end of a workday to meet the emotional needs of their children, to train and guide and discipline, to build self-esteem, to teach the true values of life, and beyond all that, to maintain a healthy marital relationship as well. {Dr. James Dobson}
It would appear that the woman willing to lose her life temporarily in the lives of her family stands to gain the most. God's economy seems backward to us - lose in order to gain, give in order to get and die that we might live. But it works. {Marilee Horton}
Why do so many hate to hear this Truth? It surely must be because they hate Truth since it is clearly spelled out in Scripture. Many hate it when I teach a wife is to submit to her husband. Again, they must hate Truth since God is clear about this also. Many seem to pick and choose what they like and dislike to fit their lifestyle so they won't offend others. I would rather offend others than disobey God.
Women don't like hearing that what they are doing is not in obedience to God's Word. They feel judged and want others to agree with them in their decisions, even if it goes contrary to Scripture. We live in a "feel good" society. Make everyone feel good and comfortable, instead of confronting them with the Truth.
I don't want women to be comfortable doing things that are opposite of what God commands. I know that they will be so much better off as well as their husbands, children and even society if they come home full-time, if at all possible, and joyfully minister to their family, since as C.S. Lewis' words above so aptly say, "The Homemaker's job is one for which ALL others exist!" What can be more important than this?
Older women teach young women...to be keepers at home.
Titus 2:3-5
Older women teach young women...to be keepers at home.
Titus 2:3-5
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Katie · 509 weeks ago
Ken · 509 weeks ago
A stay at home Mom should not have to feel that she is working harder than she would have at work, nor sense if she is not working hard enough she is not doing her part. What so few understand is that God's roles have nothing to do with who works harder, but instead who can help the other spouse be more fulfilled in life and marriage, and most of all who can best raise the children in the Lord.
I used to work a lot harder and longer hours than I do now, and traveled more, but had less success and less pay. Actually, most CEO's often work far less than vp's and other mangers... yet get most of the credit. Why? Because what counts is results, not jut thard work. Less work with more results should be what a stay at home mom is looking for. She discovers ways to keep the home tidy and food on the table, kids happy and well educated and husband happy and pleased. If she is too focused on "work" and not the end results, she may get as many of us do in our jobs, a myopic focus that tires us out with work instead of looking at the big picture.
What is the big picture? Mom can't do her best and most important work if she is tired and worn out. Having down time and being rested is vital to accomplishing the results the family needs... a happy Mom who is laughing and singing and carrying the family with her optimistic and cheerful ways ... not a Mom who is still tired from work.
I know you get this, but for the other Moms out there, you can't be superwoman and be a great Mom. Just a focus on being cheerful and making those around you happy is the biggest and most important part of most Mom's job descriptions if they are focused on the end results of pleasing their husband and raising godly, well adjusted offspring. No husband in his right mind would want the bathroom cleaned twice a week instead of once, or vacuuming twice a week instead of once, if it means a tired wife who cannot please him with fun conversation and intimacy.
Katie · 509 weeks ago
I'm so glad you mentioned that as moms we cannot do it all. I am still learning this! I used to feel guilty, so to speak, that I stayed home while other moms worked. I would justify our decision by working really hard, keeping everything very neat and tidy, etc. Also since my husband works long, hard hours as well, I really felt the need to prove myself. I know now that while there are days hard work is necessary, if it's done constantly it wears you out and affects how you care for your family, just like my previous job. I'm somewhat of a perfectionist, and love having things very clean and organized. Thankfully my husband reminds me it's okay to not have everything perfect all of the time as that is impossible. He helps me stay balanced while remembering the focus is on serving God and my family with joy and love. This has been a learning curve for me and is something I'm still learning to improve on.
R G · 509 weeks ago
I am not anti - working mom either. It has to happen sometimes. I used to be one. It is true my job, then, was so much easier than 'putting up with' the stress of working through the arguments, continual messes, emotionally charged meltdowns, and just the fact that no, these children are not capable, it is my job to teach them everything so they will become capable, at home with young children. There aren't promotions, bonuses, titles, pats on the back, the esteem of coworkers, upward mobility, paid overtime, and other 'benefits' to be had. It is all future tense at this point. Life consists of seasons, and I love the encouragement here to enjoy each day of each season of my life, no matter how inconsequential it seems at the moment. In God's eyes and my children's lives it is valuable.
Lori Alexander 122p · 509 weeks ago
Dave · 509 weeks ago
I think you should name your upcoming book THE VELVET HAMMER. You have such a way with words and a sincere and loving spirit --- I see it in every topic you discuss. Without taking away from this topic -- which I agree with you and CS on -- I want to highlight your words today about what I think is the principle for your blog....and everything you write. I think it should be the principle for any Christian's blog, not just for women: “Why do so many hate to hear this Truth? It surely must be because they hate Truth since it is clearly spelled out in Scripture. Many hate it when I teach a wife is to submit to her husband. Again, they must hate Truth since God is clear about this also. Many seem to pick and choose what they like and dislike to fit their lifestyle [or] so they won't offend others. I would rather offend others than disobey God. Women don't like hearing that what they are doing is not in obedience to God's Word. They feel judged and want others to agree with them in their decisions, even if it goes contrary to Scripture. We live in a "feel good" society. Make everyone feel good and comfortable, instead of confronting them with the Truth. I don't want women to be comfortable doing things that are opposite of what God commands.”- I believe this "feel good" you talk about applies to all the church and is why the church is having such sketchy results. It is not comforting to us the blasphemy but that is what much of the church is doing.
Keep hammering away in your velvet style!
Lori Alexander 122p · 509 weeks ago
Kendra · 509 weeks ago
What would you advise? would a part time job be a good idea?
Kendra
Lori Alexander 122p · 509 weeks ago
No, I would not advise a part-time job. Being a mother of small children is exhausting. It is part of the job. I LOVE what Elizabeth Elliot wrote about on this topic. She said it much better than I could. "The routines of housework and of mothering may be seen as a kind of death, and it is appropriate that they should be, for they offer the chance, day after day, to lay down one’s life for others. Then they are no longer routines. By being done with love and offered up to God with praise, they are thereby hallowed as the vessels of the tabernacle were hallowed–not because they were different from other vessels in quality or function, but because they were offered to God. A mother’s part in sustaining the life of her children and making it pleasant and comfortable is no triviality. It calls for self-sacrifice and humility, but it is the route, as was the humiliation of Jesus, to glory."
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Lady Virtue · 509 weeks ago
P.S. And if the Lord should bless my husband and me with children, even though we're not young anymore, we would love it! :-)
Lori Alexander 122p · 509 weeks ago
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