Every Saturday, Ken and I walk along the beach and then eat at our favorite breakfast place with my parents. Then we walk back and Ken runs and walks up and down these stairs five or more times. He loves the exercise and we enjoy this special time together. It's my parent's highlight of the week.
Recently, we took our grandchildren with us and while he was going up and down the stairs, our grandchildren and I played in the sand near the bottom of the stairs. After only a short while, Ken came over to me and told me we had to leave because the view had changed. He told me I would know what he meant in a minute. We packed up to go and I turned around. At the bottom of the stairs, a young woman was laying on her towel on her stomach with a thong on so her entire bottom was showing. Many men come down these stairs every day since it is a surfer beach and surfers like to surf there. They all saw a naked women while coming down the stairs this day. Earlier on the walk when we had to cross a bridge, I glanced down at the sand beneath and about six young women were laying on their stomachs with their heads together in a circle and their entire bottoms were showing.
We have been walking this beach for years and I don't remember seeing a woman in a thong there before. I am thinking that it won't be long before they go topless and we won't be able to go to the beach on warm days anymore. Do these women know that they aren't only causing teenagers and young men to lust but older men and even grandfathers to lust too? Turning men on is an ego thing for them. They feel pride when they know men look at them. However, the boys and men aren't looking at them with love or respect, but with lust. They are looking at them as objects to satisfy their lusts, not as a human beings.
These women have no discretion. They are naked and unashamed when they are only supposed to do this with their husbands. They are defiling their marriage bed and have caused many men to stumble. They are only thinking about themselves and are mean, as Beth Moore has said, since they enjoy turning other women's husbands on. The Bible says they are like pig with a gold ring in its nose. Therefore, the Lord doesn't think too highly of their behavior.
"The desire to be desired in women is part of God's design for women's sexuality, but it has to be channeled in the right direction. A woman is supposed to be desired by her husband, to make him want her, and to revel in his appreciation of her body. But it is not right or appropriate for a woman to desire or get this kind of attention from men who are not her husband." {Lindsay Harold}
"The desire to be desired in women is part of God's design for women's sexuality, but it has to be channeled in the right direction. A woman is supposed to be desired by her husband, to make him want her, and to revel in his appreciation of her body. But it is not right or appropriate for a woman to desire or get this kind of attention from men who are not her husband." {Lindsay Harold}
We, as Christian women, must do much better and teach our daughters to be modest. We must teach them about a man's sexual drive and that they are visual in nature. We want a man to respect us for our inward beauty of a meek and quiet spirit, not for the amount of flesh we show. Our clothing should never cause a man to stumble since we respect our brothers in Christ too much to do this to them. Never be responsible for causing someone else to stumble into sin. These women will be held just as accountable for their actions as the men who stumble. Yes, men are commanded to flee sexual immorality and this is why Ken informed us that we were fleeing. It's too bad that this young women didn't know she was taking the fun away from our grandchildren by making us leave playing in the sand due to her lack of discretion.
As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout,
so is a fair woman which is without discretion.
Proverbs 11:22
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Christine · 464 weeks ago
Although I did eventually come to the truth about God's plan for proper conduct, real love, and respect, I think it is harder than ever for young people growing up today.
Where I live, many young ladies go out and get drunk every weekend and the behaviour surrounding it is horrific to see. We seldom go into town in the evening at weekends because of what is on display.
Not only is their behaviour tragic to see, but their manner of dress is such that I don't even think a prostitute would wear. No one bats an eye, but I feel sad inside that this is now the norm in society.
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pamelambc 33p · 464 weeks ago
But thongs? How is that even comfortable? Ewwww
Peter · 464 weeks ago
I could walk thru a harem and it would not bother me. Perhaps hormone levels
taken care of, not sure. Seems like that's only good for a short time, so,,,But when the hunger level rises then this is a problem, what an odd creation in a way !
Thanks for the article!
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Maria · 464 weeks ago
I have also found that women avoid other women who dress immodestly because they would rather not have these women around their families.
We have a rule that no bikinis in our pool or in our boat. It has saved us from many problems. It is beyond me how a father lets his daughter dress for all the world to see her body. He would never let her run around in her bra and underwear and yet this is exactly how she dresses at the beach.
ACM · 464 weeks ago
in the summer i can never find a bathing suit that looks nice that is not too big or too small. i cant just walk into a store and buy one. generally i wear a tankini with shorts and that seems to work well for my comfort.
but despite my best efforts to cover up, i still get stared at. i dont think i am causing men to sin against themselves, rather i think they are sinning against me. i didn't chose my body and even when wearing clothes that are not too tight or too short, i still feel uncomfortable from the staring.
i love the beach, so i will not stay away to avoid being looked at- but i definitely would rather not have to give dirty looks to men staring at me!
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Anonymous · 464 weeks ago
While I enjoy skirts and dresses, I have always worn pants, as well. If some Christian men admit that jeans are a stumbling block for them, should we only wear skirts? It seems hard to find a healthy balance these days between overly modest/legalistic and not quite modest enough. I appreciate the truth that you share on your blog and I'd love to hear your opinion on this matter. God bless!
Tracy · 464 weeks ago
I also believe that men need to also grow up and not blame women for their lack of self respect and self-discipline too. As your husband did, he took action and moved away from the "issue"! We should pray our boys/men become more self-confident to turn away and not encourage those girls. We as moms need to pray for our children, those who lead and those who follow.
Great post,
God bless
Tracy
anonymous · 464 weeks ago
I couldn't agree with you more and with most of the other comments. I feel uncomfortable and defeated when naked women in the flesh walk by, or are visible on magazines covers or NFL cheerleaders and the list goes on. My husband gets mad because i make comments. He says he's not interested so it doesn't matter. But he still sees and I really don't know what he is thinking. My husband would not have walked away like yours. He always says "what do you want me to do?". I respond walk away, turn the channel and so forth. He thinks I'm ridiculous. I guess it's obvious we do not have a sex life and this upsets me even more.
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