Sunday, May 8, 2016

Receiving a Gift From Your Husband

Written by TheJoyFilledWife
The Lord put something on my heart to share with you, in hopes that you may also inspire other women around you.

As Mother's Day is today, I've loved asking other moms what their family has planned for this special day. Some of them don't know what surprises await, but most of them have discussed it with their husbands and children in advance. As they share with me the plans their family has, I am often caught off-guard by the negative responses I hear:

"Oh, they will probably give me something I don't need or that they already gave me a few years ago."

"My husband never seems to pick out anything I like so I always end up returning it. He's learned to just keep the receipt in the bag."

"They always buy me something THEY want me to wear, but not something I would ever pick out in a million years. Sometimes they take me somewhere or spend a lot of money on a gift and all I can think about is how many other things I actually want that I could have bought with that money."

The above examples are, sadly, ones I am hearing often from women everywhere I go. And when I ask the husbands and children on the other side what they have planned for this special day, most of the time they respond in defeat that they always try and give their wife or mom something special to show how much she is valued, but it is never good enough or she just ends up complaining about it or returning it. Many of them say that they wish that she would give them a glowing response and just used it on occasion, even if it's not exactly what they want, as a sign of appreciation for the thoughtfulness behind the gift.

Ladies, on this Mother's Day, I want to urge you to consider the people and the heart behind the gifts you may receive, rather than the worthiness of the gift itself. If you have a chance to give hints to your husband or children of something specific you'd like, that's great! But if the gift you are given, whether it's a physical gift or the gift of quality time together, is not exactly what you would have chosen, I encourage you to soak it up with a genuine smile and gratitude, knowing that the important part of this whole thing is not about WHAT we are given, but WHO God has given us. No gift can ever compare to that. :-)

Much love to you all on Mother's Day,
TheJoyFilledWife

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men 
should do to you, do ye even so to them.
Matthew 7:12

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Elizabeth K · 464 weeks ago

I would love to get anything from my children and husband on Mother's Day!! Especially their time and affection or even a text from them acknowledging I was their mother! Our children have seen how I have cherished my Mom and grandmother, but will do for me what they see their father do for me. Being obedient to God, staying with my DH and striving to be a help meet to a man who "doesn't love me" after 29 yrs together, without complaining is my biggest challenge my life. I see and know the love of our 21yo handicapped DD and knowing if she could speak she would say she loves me, is what gets me through this. Please Moms - wear the ugly shirt! See it as another sacrifice for your family!!
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TheJoyFilledWife · 463 weeks ago

Great is your reward from the Lord, Elizabeth. Do all that you do for His glory alone and you will always be fulfilled. Your daughter sounds very precious. God has given you a gift in her. <3
I am thankful for my gifts, 6 children from a good husband. We have laughed smiled and cut up with each other while grilling hotdogs and hamburgers! That was what I wanted for Mother's Day. Pretty simple but that is what I enjoy. I also received a journal with pens and a necklace from my family. I am thankful for those gifts but nothing compares to the love and fellowship we have shared today:) and everyday is truly a gift from God!! Forever Greatful!!
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TheJoyFilledWife · 463 weeks ago

Karla,

I love simple things, too. Just getting to see their precious faces each day is the greatest gift to me. <3
What if you get nothing for Mothers Day?
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TheJoyFilledWife · 463 weeks ago

Kathy,

You've already been given the precious gift of motherhood. What other gift could compete with that? :-) Thank the Lord for your precious children and for entrusting you to raise them.
After s 10 year struggle with infertility and 2 failed adoptions. God pretty much dropped 2 of the most beautiful children in my lap back in 2006. After all of the tearful Mother's Dsys, I'm so thankful to be a mother I will take any gift and be grateful, but my husband and children do pretty good.
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TheJoyFilledWife · 463 weeks ago

What a blessing, Michelle. Happy Mother's Day to you. :-)
I don't expect a gift for Mothers Day , nor do I really want anything. I am perfectly happy just spending the day with my husband and children. This year my son was so sweet and bought me a Reese's peanut butter cup because that is my favorite treat. It made my day!
This is great advice for Mother's Day but also for all year round! One of the things I have been working on in my life is being a gracious receiver. So many of us, myself included, say we prefer to give rather than receive. But if we're not gracious when someone blesses us, we take away their opportunity to give and bless!
Wonderful Mother's Day here! I'm fulfilling my mommy job expectations, staying and cuddling with my very sick 5 year old daughter. My husband took our oldest daughter (6) to church and took notes on the Mother's Day message from our pastor's sermon for me. He offered to stay home Sunday night with her so I could go to church, but my daughter just mumbled 'Mommy stay.' Such a wonderful feeling to be needed.

I received some chocolate candy bars from my husband and church for Mother's Day and cards from my girls. With Prayer and Chocolate we'll make it!
I totally agree with this! Who doesn't like getting presents from loved ones? I always think of the gift as "the spirit in which it was given". If your daughter got you gawdy and truly terrible earrings, would it really hurt to wear them for her? Especially if she thought they were beautiful and thought you would look pretty in them? No.. so just wear them! Even if it's only around the house. I know I have received gifts that are "not my style". And i wore them anyway- only changing the item if it truly didn't fit. My daughter once made me a princess piggy bank. She was about 4 when she made it, so you can imagine what it looked like. I used it until it fell off my dresser one day and broke. I was really sad because it was one of the first gifts she picked out for me all on her own. It definitely wasn't what I would choose for myself, but it was so cute how proud she was about it. I will miss my princess piggy bank!

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