The following list was in 1950s public high school home economics textbooks. No wonder marriages were happier back then and there were fewer divorces! I'm sure this list was removed from the textbooks during the 60s sexual revolution when feminism began in full force and women no longer wanted to serve their husbands nor be at home full time. The sad thing is that women have suffered from feminism just as much as children and husbands. This list is biblical; for it teaches wives how to love their husbands and be their help meets as God intended.
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair, and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little happy and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear away clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up schoolbooks, toys, and papers. Then, run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and face (if they are small). Comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile.
Don't greet with problems or complaints.
Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow, and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home, and relax.
"Do you see what has happened in the last fifty years? Every high school girl was taught a conservative worldview that was more Biblical in perspective than what the churches teach today" (Debi Pearl). No wonder there were fewer divorces back then! Men were made to feel respected and appreciated for their hard work of providing for their families. Few if any churches teach this to women anymore and instead they would probably mock it as ridiculous. It's not ridiculous. It's doing what wives can do in order to be the best help meets to their husbands that they can be. Few know how to do this anymore.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Proverbs 31:27
*List from Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl
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Lyn · 464 weeks ago
I love this, especially the ribbon! Seriously, that part that talks about a place of work being full of weary people is so true. We need to make home a place where he wants to come. A place that's more attractive than work. A place of refuge for him. His kingdom. There are so many women at work these days that we have to make what is at home more relatable, not less. A more enticing place for him to come home to.
Lady Virtue · 464 weeks ago
Thanks for posting this list, Lori!
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girlwithadragonflytattoo 36p · 464 weeks ago
This one covers the responsibility we have to make sure we're pursuing spiritual growth and maturity. I've had a lot of backlash against this series already, even women saying that there is no such thing as a virtuous woman - basically that it isn't possible. Since the verse in Proverbs that the post is unfolding alludes the virtuous woman to a merchant ship, there are a lot of cool facts about what the ancient merchant ships of the Bible were really like, their purpose, their special features that allowed them to weather storms.
I tie it in to Paul's call to us to grow up in our faith - to not be like children tossed on the waves and every wind of deception in our culture (Ephesians 4), and his warnings on avoiding the shipwrecking of our faith by becoming carnal Christians. It also touches on the heart of the virtuous woman - that she is willing to go the distance to make sure her family has the best of the best. https://girlwithadragonflytattoo.com/2016/05/06/s...
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Guest · 464 weeks ago
And I don't need this book. Why? Because I was born with a deep well of empathy, which I have honed since I was a small child and I try to give to men, women and children, both personally and professionally. One of my favorite college professors said to me, "If there is one thing I will remember about you, Jennifer, it is this. You are one of the kindest people I have ever met."
Empathy isn't just feeling for someone; it is feeling with someone.
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