In 1 Peter 3:7, we are told that we are heirs together in the grace of life. Marriage is sacred to God. He is the One who created it and it is a model of Christ and His Church. It is not something to take lightly or carelessly. Since God commands you to obey your husband, obey him. You were created to be your husband's help meet, not the other way around. Do everything you can to make his life easier, not more difficult. All men make mistakes. A woman's place is simply to obey for God's sake, not for right's sake. If you wait until you feel that your husband is right before you obey him, then you will seldom obey him, and you will never enjoy the miracles of God.*
Do you do what he asks of you? Do you cook food that he enjoys? Do you keep your home the way he wants you to keep it? Do you wash and take care of his clothing? Do you dress the way he wants you to? Do you give him sex when he wants it? Do you try to keep your husband happy? If you do, you most likely have a very good and strong marriage. If you are married to a difficult husband, continue to do the things He has asked you to do and allow the Lord to do His work on your husband since He does a much better job than you ever could.
Bonding, and becoming heirs together starts with the wife, because she is the weaker vessel and has the greatest need...If she pours her life into pleasing her husband and serving him, he will develop a protective nurturing instinct toward her. As he gains confidence that his heart is safe with her and that she places his welfare first, he will begin to trust her with his innermost being.* The Word tells us that a wise woman builds up her home but a foolish one tears hers down. Women today are told to be strong and independent of men. They are told they don't need a man to take care of them. Therefore, it is difficult to take this mindset, throw it in the trash, and renew your mindset with what God says about you. You are the weaker vessel. You were created to be his help meet. This is God's will for you. Learn what pleases him and do it.
When your children are all grown up and gone, if you have fed your marriage with good things, your marriage will easily withstand the empty nest syndrome. Instead of pouring your whole life into your children while they are young, don't forget your husband since he is who you were created to help. Don't forget his needs. Keep him seeking you out to fulfill his needs. Pray daily for your husband. Love him deeply.
This is the final chapter of Created to Be His Help Meet. It's been a long study but a good one. It was fun to go through the book that changed my marriage for good and I pray it has changed many of yours as well.
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Proverbs 5:18, 19
*Quotes from the book.
*Quotes from the book.