Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Cleaning The Bathroom



She was raised in a Christian home and went to church all of her growing up years.  A tragedy happened when she was a teenager, so she walked away from the Lord until she was 23 years old.  I mentored her recently, because she has had so many friends get divorced. She doesn't want her marriage to end in divorce.

I brought up the subject of submission.  She replied, "Well, it doesn't mean what I was taught it meant when I was growing up.  Like if your husband told you to clean the bathroom, you had to clean the bathroom."

I told her that was exactly what it meant.  If your boss asked you to clean the bathroom, you would obey.  If you asked your child to clean the bathroom, hopefully, you have trained them to obey. 

We hate anyone telling us what to do.  THAT is the bottom line.  We want to do things our way.  That is why most people don't want to believe in God.  They want to do things their way and not be held accountable to anyone.

God's systems work.  Sure, it isn't fun being told what to do, but we take it from our parents, our bosses, the government, etc. Why should it be any different with our husbands, since they are our head?

If he asks you to clean the bathroom and instead of arguing with him or telling him, "You clean it yourself,"  you should cheerfully say, "Sure."  Then you go clean the bathroom as best as you can, thankful you have a bathroom to clean.

Jesus asks us to be servants of all.  If we can't humbly serve the person that we are one flesh with and whom we are called to love until death through sickness and in health, who can we serve?

So next time your husband asks you to do something, do it willingly, and see how much that simple act of obedience can change your marriage.

"For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord.
 "For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways,
And My thoughts than your thoughts."
Isaiah 55:8,9

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While we should do as our husbands ask, they should not be asking out of malice or from a position of power (therefore bullying their wife). The asking should be part of a loving relationship where saying yes is done because you want to please your husband. However I don't think it is wrong for a wife to ask a husband to do things - for example if my husband is passing a shop I might ask him to pick up milk or at home I might ask him to remove the spider webs or to hang a picture. As two grown adults, there should be the ability to happily ask each other for help when needed. Submission doesn't mean the wife can't do this otherwise the couple can't work in partnership. Couples should be working together anyway.
This is a tricky subject, and I applaud your willingness to breach it. Most people don't :) You are right, God's system works. Hopefully, if you have been treating your husband with respect and kindness, he won't just come up and tell you to "clean the bathroom." Probably he will nicely mention that the bathroom needs a cleaning and ask if you mind doing it. When we treat our husbands with respect, they will react lovingly. Most of the time :)
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Cynthia Swenson · 670 weeks ago

I'm pondering how obedience to the Lord should stem from our love for Him. It is something we should do gladly! Sadly our rebellion & selfish nature begins to rear it's ugly head at a young age. The good news is that through our faith in Jesus, the Holy Spirit begins to change our self centered nature into a willing, loving, serving nature that begins in our hearts! Clean the bathroom because you love your husband & because it's important to him. Do it for Jesus! Love & prayers, Cynthia
Lori, I love your willingness to tackle what others would not, in an honest and loving way. I learn lots from your posts! Blessings friend.

~Nicole, Working Kansas Homemaker
I agreed with you. Love and serve willingly our husband like God its the best way for a strong relationship.
I think part of it is remembering what he said too. Sometimes I don't do things I'm asked to do, not because I don't want to or refused, but because whatever he asked seemed so strange, or trivial, or like something he could very easily do himself, that it slipped right out of my brain! But you don't get to say, "I forgot", to your boss, or your teacher, or the bank.....so you probably shouldn't say it in this situation either!

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