Thursday, May 10, 2012

Lingering With Friends


My mom, Carol, and I went out to lunch recently.  After we finished eating, we lingered for awhile just chatting.  It was wonderful!  I consider Carol as my mentor.  She is an older and wiser woman.  She has the sweet aroma of Jesus wherever she goes.

I was thinking about how seldom friends linger with each other anymore.  Everyone is too busy.  It took me back to my college years.  The couples in the picture are my college friends.  All of us girls met our freshmen year of college and have been best friends ever since.

We were in each other's weddings, went to all the baby showers, grieved when Sandy lost her husband, and now we are all attending each other's children's weddings.  We try and get together at least once a year and catch up on each other's lives.

In college, we knew how to linger.  We would linger in our dorm rooms for hours just talking.  We'd go exploring around the mountains near our college together.  We'd lay on our towels at the beach dreaming together.  We'd go out for chips and salsa and laugh the night away.  We'd escape to each other's homes for the weekends. We loved being together.

Those times built deep roots of friendship.  We all feel a bond together from all that time we lingered together really getting to know what was on each other's heart.  What we each wanted out of life.  We shared disappointments that we experienced in this long journey called life.

I have been blessed with an amazing circle of friends.  Our husbands all enjoy each other and have been growing old together also.  We are all still married to the husbands of our youth, except Sandy who lost her first husband to a brain tumor.  Three of the couples are not in the picture.  This was taken after Alyssa's wedding

We will all be attending Sandy's son's wedding in June.  I can't wait.  There is nothing like lingering for several days with good, old friends!

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

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What a special grandpa you had, Robin! Spending time with people and getting to know them better is so important. I love how you mentioned lingering in the presence of God. Most everyone seems too busy to listen to the still small voice of God.
I agree! People don't tend to linger any more... your post brought back memories of times spent lingering with my family and friends back home and the wonderful house celeidhs we attended in my aunt and uncle's home.
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Society has gotten so fast paced, we have forgotten this wonderful past time. Those are the best memories, however, so we should work on restoring lingering with family and friends!
I have three friends that I linger with - we are meeting soon for lunch and will have plenty of time to chat and catch up on children and grandchildren - we never hurry. On the weekend my son, his wife and her mother and I are off for a mothers day afternoon tea and we certainly will be lingering over our scones having lots to talk about. I don't think the art of lingering is dead and gone, there are still people like you and me that do it. I even pop over to my elderly neighbour (a widow) and enjoy afternoon tea whilst she tells me all about her grand and great grand children.

Even when I am busy, I still check up on my special friends to make sure they are still ok.
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I bet your elderly neighbor loves that special time with you! You sound like a wonderful friend that doesn't mind taking time for people. It is a way to show love towards them. Time is a wonderful gift.
Oh this is beautiful and reminds me I've got to get together to linger with friends more often.

Aloha,
Following ya now from Friendship Friday and I'm just not so very sure I'll ever want to leave. You know I'm glancing at the side bar of your most read posts and already I see 3 more posts I could lose myself in.
I'd love it if you'd join me at localsugarhawaii.com as we ride the wave of life ups, downs, bumps and all. Come as you are, anytime, really...

xoxo,
Nicole
localsugarhawaii.com
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Thanks, Nicole. I will check out your blog. My daughter just got back from hawaii and had the best time of her life lingering with friends!
You're so right, Lori. It's always rush, rush, rush these days. A little more lingering would do us all the world of good.

" The sweet aroma of Jesus" is an interesting fragrance choice!

x
1 reply · active 671 weeks ago
It means love those who God puts into your path!

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