Saturday, May 12, 2012

My Mom Loves My Dad


Yes, she truly loves him.  I am going to tell you about their relationship as a lesson to all of you.  They have not had a happy marriage.  My mom was never mentored by an older woman how to love her husband.  I wasn't either.  I kind of blame the church for dropping the ball on that one.  There just aren't many older women out there teaching younger women how to love their husbands.

My dad was a doctor and worked really hard.  He was an only child and she was one of seven.  When I was just born, my dad moved her away from her family to California for his job.  He was hardly ever home.  When he was home, they would argue.

My dad attended church faithfully and read us Bible stories.  He loved Jesus.  They will be celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary in June.  My mom reads my blog every day.  She now says she tries very hard to never be mad at my dad.

She really loves him now.  She only speaks good of him.  She realizes how hard he works, even now at the ripe old age of 81.  He has always been faithful to her.  She tells me how sweet he is and how he scratches her back and cuddles with her every night.

She is so sad it took her this long to realize all the wonderful qualities that he possesses.  She wishes someone had told her long time ago that she shouldn't argue with him or be mad at him all the time.  She regrets ever thinking and speaking negatively about him.

See, it is never too late to have a great marriage.  They love going out to eat together and spending time together.  Don't wait until you are old and gray to love your husband.  Love him now.  My mom is very teachable and has always wanted to please the Lord.  She never realized that her behavior was wrong until she was taught.

She has been an incredible mother. All her grandchildren adore her.  She is fun and generous.  She loves everyone and everyone loves her.  She has always been my best friend.  She has helped me raise my children and been with me through all my health trials.  I love her so much and am so happy that she is enjoying her final years happily married to my dad.

Happy Mother's Day, Mom!

Her children arise up, and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her. 
Proverbs 31:29


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Katherine M · 672 weeks ago

That is a wonderful story! My mother has always loved my Dad and been a perfect example of how a godly woman wins her unbelieving husband without a word. I have no memories of them arguing, she always submitted to his will. They have been married for 66 years and my mom is not in very good health these days, but my dad loves her and takes good care of her. I'm still eagerly waiting and praying for the day when he will come to know Jesus as his Lord and Savior.
Sadly, I have never been mentored by anyone in the church, either. And unfortunately my experience has been that the younger women aren't usually able to receive this word and take their instructions much easier from modern day women, even those who've been married several times, than from someone who tries to live according to the instructions in Titus 2.
I only recently found your blog and am enjoying your posts very much. Thank you!
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Thanks for sharing, Lori. Your mom and dad will always hold a very special place in my heart!!
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Lori, what a wonderful Mother's Day post. Happy Mother's Day to you and your mom! I think it is very important to be mentored. The church that I came to know the Lord in had a mentor day, where they had all women sign up for it and they randomly paired a younger woman with an older woman. I may talk to my Pastor about this at my current church. But I believe I get more indirect mentoring through my blogs (such as yours). It would be nice to see in my church as well.

Blessings,
Nicole
Working Kansas Homemaker
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wow, this has make me think and appreciate my handsome and wonderful, hard working hubby more than ever, although I adore him and appreciate him very much, but one is got to stop and really think about how we love them. Your mother looks like a pretty and happy lady, who gives tons of love, and they look so happy together. Your dad is so handsome! Have a blessed MOTHER'S DAY!
FABBY
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What a beautiful post for Mother's Day and I find it so amazing for couples to be married for so long - my parents just celebrated their 64th anniversary this week. I don't think many in our generation will make it that long which is sad.
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I did not have any mentoring or model for being a good wife. My first husband was abusive and adulterous. I stayed anyway and tried really hard. He finally realized I wasn't leaving and so he did. My second husband is a gem. He let me be bossy and overbearing for many years until I decided to try a different way, God's way. Wow! These are the best years of my life!
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I've seen you recommend Debi Pearl's book, Created to Be His Help Meet, so many times and FINALLY started reading it this weekend. WOW! My husband is amazing, but my natural, sinful inclination has not been to treat him as such. I'm so convicted! Praying for God's grace to make me a better wife!
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I love your post. It is truely amazing that we are always learning how to be better people, wives, mothers, grandmothers, etc. We can always be better and learn more. It is great. Keep it up. Thanks for sharing and inspiring the rest of us too. Happy Mother's Day!
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Thank you for sharing this beautiful story of love. Happy Mother's Day!
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What an inspirational post, I am very happy for both of your parents! We are fortunate to have a church that runs " Life's Lessons" classes on Wednesday evenings and usually one of those classes have been on marriage and relationships and they have been great. I love your blog and I am now following you on Linky
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I think the saying is true "we always hurt the one we love". Have been married 47 yrs and look back at myself and think why couldn't I put expectations aside and just look and love. Mothers have so many demands made upon them and then the husband and his needs. It takes a lifetime for some to come to terms with themselves let alone others. I love my husband so very much and he shows his love everyday. I feel blessed that we came together in this lifetime and have one another. Love!
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My hubby and I have been married for 44 years and he is WONDERFUL. He is VERY hard working and would do anything for me and our 2 children. I am truly blessed and I know it. XO, Pinky
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I like that you said we are never too old to learn. How true. What a great post. And you're right, the church does need to teach those things. I think we need to see what needs to be taught and as women, teach other women, and perhaps have a suggestion with the preacher / elders about the subject.
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My parents didn't show love to each other while I was growing up. My husband thinks I don't show him enough love and affection, but in my mind I think I do. I know God is working in me to be the loving wife my husband needs. So happy for your parents to make it through.
I love and appreciate your picture of real-life love and the lessons learned in it. Thanks for this, Lori.
wow you have no idea how much this post touched me! Im only in my 5th year of marriage but I kind of feel like the same.. I dont know how to explain it! Thats so wonderful for your parents, that just warms my heart :)
What a beautiful post about your mother. It is so warming to think that after all of those years that the love is still finding a way!
What an inspiring story!
Beautiful story and what a lovely tribute to your mom and your parent's relationship. She may have wish that she had realized it sooner but at least she realized it. Congrats to your parents and to you!
This just reminded me of how much I love my husband and how lucky I am to have him.
Love them now. What a wonderful lesson. Thanks for sharing this with us!
What a sweet message. 60 years is amazing! Congrats to them!
Congrats! This post was the #2 most clicked link last week on Mommy Solutions! Thank you so much for sharing it and linking it up. The new linky is live. I can't wait to see what you link up, next!

Crystal http://www.crystalandcomp.com/2012/05/the-mommy-c...
What a wonderful testimony of what God does when a couple stays married even through the bad times. I also think it shows what happens to the children. Yes, you remember how their marriage was but there is great healing when the children (even if they are grown) see their parents repent and change.

God truly does give back the years the locust has eaten!

Jill Farris www.generationalwomanhood.wordpress.com www.jillcampbellfarris.com

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