Monday, May 7, 2012

Keep The Home Fires Burning


We are taught today that each family needs two incomes to survive. Mothers need to leave their homes and make money for a roof over their heads and food. In some cases, this is true. If the husband is disabled, for instance. However, in most cases, I doubt this is true.

God tells us that if we have food and clothing we should be content. He promises to supply all of our needs. I think the problem is that He is not supplying all of our wants.

I read a book entitled Radical Homemaking recently. I will be doing several posts on what I gleaned from this book. It isn't written from a biblical perspective but it has a lot of wisdom in it.

The premise is that we have been lied to. Radical Homemakers are people who want to get back into their homes and make their lives meaningful. 

If there was one unifying belief among them, it was to question all the assumptions in our consumer culture that have us convinced that a family cannot survive without a dual income.  These men and women build security through frugal living, domestic skills and reduced material needs.

Families with two incomes, while they were bringing in 75 percent more money than their single-income counterparts from the precious generation, were financially worse off.  By the time two-income families pay for a home, health insurance, the second car, child care and taxes, there is very little money left over.

As women joined men in the workforce, opportunities to spend the paychecks were plentiful, including professional clothing, labor-saving home appliances, entertainment, exercise equipment, luxury vacations and, most significantly, processed foods.

Agriculture rapidly industrialized and generated highly processed foods that supplanted most home cooking; skills were replaced with products, thrift with income, and time with  convenience.

I just spoke on the phone with a young woman who lives across the country. She has a young child who is in daycare all day while she works full time. Her husband never wanted her to work. I asked her if she made much money and she said no. I encouraged her to quit her job and start living frugally at home taking care of her husband, child, and home. 

A penny saved is a penny earned. Money saved isn't taxed! You don't need everything society tells you that you need. Read Tightwad Gazette if you need to learn how to pinch pennies. Someone needs to be home keeping the home fires burning.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
I Timothy 5:14

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Ronda Ellis · 672 weeks ago

The Lord has never blessed my husband and me with children, and regardless of that I have been a homemaker for many years now♥ I love being home and taking care of my husband and our home. We have had to cut many corners in order for me to do what I believe that the Lord intended for me to begin with, but neither of us regret that decision...things run so much more smoothly with me here♥
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Yes, when we were young and raising our two daughters I spent time at home, caring for them. When they were in kindergarden I started to give English classes at a local HS and started and ended with my girls schedule. We basically lived aout of one income mostly. Later I could work with my husband's decorating china in his former ceramic co., but always cared for home, husband and my dear daughters. I really think God intended it like this, the men were the hunters and the women were the gatherers. Thank you for this wonderful post, I hope women stop going out and be at home more..I really do, for the sake of society.
Have a great week.
FABBY
1 reply · active 672 weeks ago
This topic has been on my heart for a long time. Praise the Lord you decided write this post. 'Extreme' homemaking .. is just a repeat of what our grandmother's/gr. grandmother's did everyday. I have encouraged my youngest daughter to live on one income if/when she gets married ... and if she works before children arrive .. to bank her income.
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I was so blessed to be raised by a mother who stayed home. So was my husband. Luckily we both felt very strongly and agreed before we were married that I would always be home with our children. He works so hard, and would take a second job if he had to, in order to allow me to be home nurturing our little ones. Being a stay at home mom is one of the greatest blessings I've ever experienced!
2 replies · active 672 weeks ago
I am so glad I was able to stay home with my three daughters. I had been a teacher for 10 years before I became a full time mother. One of the benefits to my husband was that he could really concentrate on his career knowing that I was taking care of the home and family. If I had still been teaching and one of the girls were sick we would have had to share taking days off to accommodate them. Being home I was able to cook healthy meals, keep up with household chores, volunteer in their classrooms, have them partake in many activites including sports, and so much more. When my youngest daughter was in 1st grade I started working 2 days a week part time in the Christian school all my girls attended. This schedule was perfect and never interfered with my mothering. My daughters are now grown and I have expanded to working three days at the same school.. I feel it was an honor to witness their childhood fully present and have no regrets. I also think it kept our marriage closer and we are now happy empty nesters.
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I do appreciate that you put ... "however is MOST cases, I doubt this to be true" as a wife of a church planter ... I need to work to support my husband and the church. I do get offended at some who ctitise my role - I see it as God's calling on my life right now.
2 replies · active 672 weeks ago
Thank you for this! I worked up until our first child was born, then I began to stay at home full-time. Both of our children will be in school next fall, and I can't begin to tell you the number of people (godly Christians included!) who assume that it's time for me to get back to work. My husband is a pastor, and while we've never been rich, God has provided more than generously for us these past six years, allowing me to stay home with our girls. The time I have at my disposal because I don't work outside the home has allowed me to come alongside my husband more in his ministry, and I'm so thankful for that. It has been worth "losing" a second income! I wish our culture had a bit more tolerance and a little less venom for those of us who willingly choose to be homemakers. :(
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I show up as shelleyspillthebeans ... lol my url is http://stonesofremembrance2010.blogspot.ca/__Have a GREAT day!
1 reply · active 672 weeks ago
What a timely post! Today I was thinking about what a blessing it has been to stay at home as a mom over the past four years. Sometimes I wonder if my husband would like me to contribute financially, but I continue to trust in the Lord to provide for our needs while I nurture our children.
1 reply · active 672 weeks ago
This is so true. I'm a stay at home Momma to two girlies and I wouldnt have it any other way. We make do-going without cable, video games (not a fan), and eating out as much. We save on a weekly basis and have no debts, but the house. I do not feel deprived, I feel blessed. I participate in a preschool co op with two friends so we avoid costs of preschool, plus I enjoy teaching my daughters. Where there is a will, there is a way. God opens doors. Thank you for writing-I'll be checking out the tight wad gazette-just saw a you tube video about the author the other day.
1 reply · active 672 weeks ago
Hi! I just came over from Titus 2uesday... and now I want to live in that amazing French country home!
1 reply · active 672 weeks ago
Such a great post! As the mother of three little ones, I doubt any job I could get outside the home would do much more than cover the extra cost of daycare and gas.... and it would not only keep me from actively making my home, I wouldn't have time to pursue all the money saving things I do now.

Thanks for linking up at Thrifty Thursday!

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