I always give one piece of advice to couples who are about to be married, another piece of advice to couples who are married, and a third piece of advice to couples who are breaking up.
1} To couples about to be married:
'Don't worry. You can always get divorced'
This seems to lift their spirits because it removes the pressure;
2} To couples who are married:
'Just do what works, and don't do what doesn't work.'
It never fails to clear the fog;
3} To couples who are getting divorced:
'Next time remember: The only reason to get married is to have fun.'
This gives them a happy goal!
{E. Jean Carroll, advice columnist for ELLE magazine}
If this is the advice couples are following today, no wonder marriage is in so much trouble. When Ken and I got married, we decided the word divorce would not ever be in our vocabulary and we would never threaten each other with divorce. We were in it for the long haul, for better or for worse.
There is comfort in deciding this in a marriage. Marriage should be about commitment, a commitment until death do you part. There should be pressure when looking for a spouse knowing that it will last a lifetime. Find a godly spouse with deep roots in Jesus...an oak tree! With Jesus as your foundation, you have a much better chance of your marriage lasting for a life time.
The only reason to get married is to have fun??? What about when your spouse gets sick for many years? What about the time your husband has to work three jobs just to make ends meet? What about when all of your children are sick? To go into marriage thinking its only purpose is to have fun is ridiculous.
There will be many hard time in marriages. Hello! That is what is called life. Life will always have ups and downs and the key is to weather those times together. Be there for each other in thick and thin. Laugh and cry with each other. Hold onto each other.
Don't listen to the pop psychology of today unless you want to walk down the path to destruction. God hates divorce for a reason. Ask people who have been divorced or have been affected by it. It hurts badly. Do everything you can to prevent divorce. Remember, being joyful is a choice. It is not based on circumstances or other people. Choose to be joyful and love your husband all the days of your life.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother
and hold fast to his wife,
and they shall become one flesh.
Genesis 2:24
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother
and hold fast to his wife,
and they shall become one flesh.
Genesis 2:24
