Monday, July 30, 2012

Coming Home To An Empty House


Dr. James Dobson, the founder of Focus on the Family, was on CNN.  He is concerned about the state of the family today. He thinks children coming home to empty houses is a very bad thing. I agree with him.

I had friends growing up that had both parents working and came home to empty houses. I liked it. We could eat whatever we wanted and watch as much television as we wanted.  However, there was a coldness about the house.

My mom was always home full-time. There was a warmth about our home. Friends loved coming over to our house. My mom kept watch over our home. I always knew she would be there.

Children need someone at home. Left to their own devices they can get in a lot of trouble.  We are commanded to train up our children. This is addressed to parents, not day-care or babysitters. God knew the importance of parents raising and training their children.

It takes a lot of work and time to train them in the ways of the Lord. It takes diligence to protect them from the arrows of the enemy.  It takes time for them to see godly parents modeled to them, after all, our actions speak a lot louder than our words but many words must be spoken to raise wise children.

Do everything you can to make sure your children don't come home to an empty house.  They need someone to protect them from themselves. They need guidance and loving care.  They need you. Nobody can take the place of parents. Children would much rather come home to a very humble home with a parent in it than a gorgeous, empty large one.

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.
You shall teach them diligently to your children,
and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
and when you walk by the way,
and when you lie down, and when you rise.
Deuteronomy 6:6,7

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That picture is so wonderful, it is really what I would love with more color, a bit more wood look. Just beautiful. I have to say I was one of those kids who came home alone. It was not fun and sometimes even dangerous.
I was alone alot from age 4th grade on...even sooner. I remember so many LONG days... of summer with little to do and little food in the house for snacks and little tv to watch. It is not easy for a child.
The only time I went home to an empty house was the day my dad cut off his finger at work. I was plenty old enough and my sister was two years older, but it was a strange feeling.
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Same for me... My dad had an accident that put him in the hospital for a couple of weeks. Otherwise my mom was always home when I got there.
Some of my warmest memories are of my mom waiting for us (usually with some sort of treat) when we got home from school. It was so comforting knowing she'd be there. She didn't have that as a child and vowed to make sure we had that. I am home with my children as well and am so thankful for that job! Great post, Lori!
I have to agree Lori. I think it is a very difficult thing to balance though. I know one of your recent posts was on allowing God's timing with our families and that it is better to be asset poor and family rich than the other way around.
Unfortunatly the country I live in housing is very expensive and the cost of living is much higher than the USA. My husband and I decided long ago that I would stay at home and raise our children. However we realised in order to do that we needed to be debt free and own our own home, therefore we have both been working full time for the last three years and have almost paid off our home. Whilst we havent been using any form of contraception we have been taking certain measures to minimise the chance of pregnancy up until now.

This is something we both feel is the right thing for us to do. We are hoping to be blessed with a family soon but thanks to our first few years of marriage where we both worked hard this time in our life will be financially a lot easier. I know this isnt something you would probably see as the right thing to do but it was not possible for us to "have our cake and eat it too"

I respect what you have to say but it is not possible for everyone to walk the same narrow walk for lots of different reasons.

I have been praying that you get some relief for your neck, I hope you are feeling better.

God Bless
2 replies · active 660 weeks ago
I have no problem with the way you have chosen to live your life. It sounds like you have very honorable goals and values you have chosen to work towards.
Lori thank you so much that means a lot. You are a woman who I respect and value the opinion of. Thanks again

God Bless
Coming from a Christian home where my father died when I was 4, leaving my mom with 3 children to raise, she managed to go back to work and somehow made it to school everyday to pick me up. We didn't have a lot of money, but we never missed a meal. Fast forward to when I hit 8th grade, her work schedule would not allow for her to get off work in time to be home for me. So, from 8th grade on, I was home alone after school. I didn't like it, but I knew my mom was being faithful, so I needed to be faithful at home and get homework done and help tidy up a bit. Now, as a stay at home mom, I always want to be home for my daughter and will try everything within my power to make sure that happens. Thank you for sharing. Visiting from Cornerstone Confessions. Would love it if you would share this at my Make it Pretty Monday party at The Dedicated House. http://thededicatedhouse.blogspot.com/2012/07/mak... Hope to see you at the bash! Toodles, Kathryn @TheDedicatedHouse
I love this post :)
-blessings
i. LOVE. This. and I agree - there is a warmth to the home when someone is home. just what I want my children to feel. Thank you!!
Patty from www.fanta4two.com
This is a great post. I think it is very important to come home to a house where Mom is there. When my children came home from school I always had a snack for them and we talked about their day. Some of my fondest moments when I was a child was coming home with my Mom waiting for me. How sad for many children today to come home to an empty home, Dr. James Dobson is so right to be concerned!
Great Post. I think people get sucked into thinking they need to earn more and buy more in order for their kids to be happy. Not true. Although I am sure in some people's lives they have to work all hours just to make ends meet - literally. A really tough question to tackle and I'm not totally sure on the answer.

Visiting via the Welcome Wednesday Hop :)

Sarah http://acatlikecuriosity.blogspot.co.uk/
Some of the best conversations I've had with my children happened when they were transitioning from one activity to another. That's why, as often as I could, I'd volunteer to pick them up from an event, trip, or weekend away. When they'd first arrive home or get into the car, they'd talk and talk and talk. Somehow, if I waited until later to ask them how it went, I'd get the stock answer, "Fine," without many details. I truly believe it's NOT quality time, it's QUANTITY because the quantity made an open door for the quality. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'm visiting today from Be Not Weary (www.lorihatcher.com)
Love your honesty in this post. It is so true!! Remember when they called us latch key kids... It is challenging for the family in today's society. Having one parent at home means huge sacrifices. In a perfect world mommy is home to raise the babies and daddy is working an 8-5 job and home for dinner. I wish I lived in that perfect world! All in all, God's grace covers our babies!! I am not in anyway suggesting that we should leave our children to raise themselves while we work for a lavish lifestyle. I have been a stay at home mommy off and on most of my children's life. The times that I have worked God has allowed me to work at their schools. I am returning to work in the fall at my youngest daughters school, and luckily my children are involved in after school activities at their private schools. God has made a way for my family and I am ever so grateful! Thank you again for the bold post! I love your blog!! and that white room... oh my.... I believe I just made a decision for my front room! Blessings! Your newest member....

Denise @ www.buttonsandwhimsy.com
I love all your comments,I live in country where men are known to run away from their responsibilities,thats why you will find many working mothers otherwise many kids wouldnt have food on the table.

LILLIAN
So very true! Love your perspective, Lori!

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