Sunday, July 1, 2012

Two Powerful Weapons


Many wives do not realize they have two powerful weapons that are far more effective than nagging, whining, or preaching.  The first weapon is a godly life.  The second is prayer.

I don't think many women understand this or believe it.  But the most powerful book on this earth says the same thing ~

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.
I Peter 3:1

The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much
James 5:16

Many of you have tried it your way for many years.  You married thinking, "What will he do for me?"  When he didn't live up to your expectations, you started trying to change him. 

Ken just told me of a study that stated husbands that help out at home are happier than those who don't help.  The reason ~ They got so tired of hearing their wives nag that they started helping around the house to stop the nagging. So maybe nagging does work but it certainly doesn't draw your husband to you in an affectionate and loving way.

I mentor some women who are in very difficult marriages.  What I am counseling them to do is not easy.  However, I continue to give the same advice whether they are in a good or bad marriage {unless they are being physically abused.}

Work on yourself.  Change yourself.  Study God's Word and see what it says about loving others.  Love your husband. Stop criticizing and complaining.  Stop arguing and fighting.  Start serving others.   Start denying yourself.  Let the Holy Spirit work His power in you mightily.

It works.  His ways are good.  Try winning your husband without a word and pray.  Learn to be joyful and smile a lot.  Become thankful for all the blessings you have and you will be amazed at the love the Lord will give you for your husband.  Then guess what will happen?  Your husband will probably start loving you and wanting to please you.  We reap what we sow.

It truly is a miracle. But our God is a God of miracles!

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Amen! I've been growing in this area and it is so true and God is so amazingly good. We just see it better when we are obedient!

Blessings,
April

P.S. Said a prayer for your neck, too.
What you have said is so true. Prayer goes a long way in happiness.
Another right on the money post. Thanks. Serving, praying and word watching are so key, as you state.
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ERDR'swifemomof12 · 664 weeks ago

We nag because we think we have the right. We think we are entitled to something better. Happiness is our due, and husbands better serve it up. Women just know better, how he should behave, think, work and live. Because woman are so much better in all these areas. Wrong, wrong, wrong, and wrong!! What rights do we really have? None. What entitlements? None. Other than to love, serve and fill our homes with the fruits of HIS spirit. We know nothing, nothing at all. God only knows everything, and we must change our thoughts to HIS thoughts! Time to get it right. It's not about here and now, it's about forever, somewhere else!!
Wonderful post. Loving, serving, and praying for my husband and my family.
Hope you're feeling much better today.
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Cynthia Swenson · 664 weeks ago

You put this so simple but powerfully, Lori! God is definitely using you to bless others with your writing! I suspect somehow He uses the painful, lonely times to draw you nearer to Him. That is definitely what He does for me. He is so good! Love & prayers, Cynthia
You are so right. I have been praying in several areas, but still nagging in others. Such a good reminders.
I like praying for my husband, but wish I was more consistent.
"winning your husband over without a word." So hard to do but nagging does drive them away. I have to admit that I am a nag and have to work on it constantly.
Good reminder! My husband does so much for me, but it is easy to point out other things I wish he would do-- nagging shuts him down. Our relationship is better when I recognize and thank him for all he does do.
Sometimes I think it's important to know when to let go....and when to hold on.
I am blessed to have a hubby who helps a lot around the house. He just does it. I didn't nag or coerce him into doing it. In fact
My husband just cleaned the kitchen after our supper without me knowing it. I'm so thankful for all he does to help. Your advice to those who struggle is spot on. I love reading of your work for God.

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