Monday, June 24, 2013

A Minister's Wise Advice


A minister tells about a wife who left his office full of hatred towards her husband.  "I not only want to get rid of him, I not only want to divorce but I want to hurt him as much as he has hurt me."  

The minister suggested an ingenious plan.  "Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he means to you.  Praise him for every decent trait.  Go out of your way to be as kind, considerate, and as generous as possible.  Spare no effort to please him.  Enjoy him.  Make him believe you love him and after you have convinced him of your undying love and that you cannot live without him then drop the bomb and tell him you are getting a divorce. That will really hurt him and boy, will he be surprised."  

And she did it with enthusiasm.  For two months playing this game, playing this part, acting if she loved him all the while thinking about how much she could hurt him in the end.  She continued to do this.  She never called the minister back.  After two months, he called her and said, "Are you ready now to get the divorce?"  She said, "Divorce? Never!  I've discovered I really do love him!"

Yes, he had been mean to her and she wanted to get back at him.  Instead, she acted the way God told her to act instead of how she felt like acting.  THIS is a spiritual battle, not a human battle.  When marriages are falling apart, Satan is busy at work.

In order to fight this battle, you must put on the full armor of God everyday.  When husbands are mean and angry, they are being controlled by the enemy of their soul.  Wives who are being controlled by the Lover of their souls have a mighty weapon in this battle.

Be in God's Word daily, meditating upon it.  Pray consistently.  Listen to uplifting sermons and music.  Dwell on the lovely and the good.  Be mentored by an older, wiser woman that can help you keep up the battle to win your husband.

Always remember, you can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you! Fight for your marriage.  Be the wife God has called you to be.

 Put on the whole armor of God, 
that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.
Ephesians 6:11 

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Diane · 613 weeks ago

Another great post!! Thank you Lori!!
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Lucy · 613 weeks ago

I needed this today more than you could know. Struggling with a broken, messy marriage that seems to have no hope. The last part really made sense to me. Fight for what Satan so desperately wants to tear apart ---yet another marriage...
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Lea · 613 weeks ago

Right on for sure!!!! Every married woman needs to read this, full of such truth!
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Laura · 613 weeks ago

I first heard a preacher tell this story on the radio. I heard it at a time I really needed it.

It's so true!

A little love and respect goes a long way.

Laura
Harvest Lane Cottage
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Lisa · 613 weeks ago

Great thoughts! The whole armor of God is ESSENTIAL to surviving this day and age!

Lisa www.thecourageousjourney.com
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Lesa · 612 weeks ago

Thank you for this post. My husband and I separated 13 years ago. We've never divorced. Have gotten close to it and a filing is in the progress as I type. I am the one who called it quits. He was not putting God or us first (out late, drinking, being mean, and not paying bills).
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Lesa · 612 weeks ago

I wasn’t supportive and complained about him, called it the way I saw it at the time. I was stressed and angry because I chose him. After separation there was infidelity. I have the children (3). One is on his own (25). The other two (22, 16) are still home. I’ve raised them in the church under the instruction of Lord the best I could. They know and love the Lord. I have grown tremendously in the Lord over the years myself. My church thinks I am divorced. My spouse seems to have moved on with his life. As of now I am working fulltime (out of God's will) and still desire to be a keeper of my home, thoughts of being married again because I get lonely which would mean divorce (God hates), or be reconciled back to husband and not liking or interested in my husband as a man (no respect - sin). I know God is a God of hope and restoration. I want to live for God. I do not want to live in darkness anymore.
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Lesa · 612 weeks ago

I have repented for living this lie. I want to put the past behind. 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins. I should be able to start a new life. I don’t know how to move forward though. I am not around my spouse to do the things the minister suggested to the woman in this post. Thanks for listening.
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Jane · 606 weeks ago

Of course parables have a happy ending. Also, it never said WHY the wife was unhappy with her husband. There might have even been some gender bias in that the pastor was a man and it might have been one of those ultra-conservative churches in which the husband is the head and the wife is practically servant level. Too many holes in this story for me to take it at face value.

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