Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Raising A Happy Family


In order to have a happy family, you must have a happy marriage.  When there is disunity and discord between the parents, it is not a happy home.

I have seen happy homes where the parents are crazy about each other.  There is peace and unity.  It permeates the whole home.  The children are happy since the parents are so happy.

You can have a good home without a happy marriage.  I was raised in a good home and so were my children.  The parents stayed married.  The dad worked hard to provide.  The mother was a stay-at-home mom who took good care of her family.  The family was in church every Sunday.

However, now we have a happy home and my children {all grown up now} can absolutely tell the difference.  When there is conflict between the parents, the whole family feels it and suffers.  They truly don't know what they are missing until the parents become happy with each other and the children then can sense the difference in the atmosphere of the home.

We didn't argue in front of the children so they didn't know we didn't get along.  But you can't hide disunity.  It is felt.  When a husband and wife are smiling a lot at each other, enjoying each other, affectionate with each other, and loving each other, everyone wins.

Working at having a happy marriage benefits everyone, especially your children.  Society benefits also, however, when they are modeled happy marriages which helps produce secure children.  I can hardly remember any happy homes when I was growing up.

Our children deserve happy homes in this very unhappy world.  Do what you can to have a happy marriage, thus creating a happy home.  It is the best gift you can give them.

A merry heart doeth good like medicine.
Proverbs 17:22

 ***My beautiful niece just got married in France.  
She was raised in a very happy family!

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Cheryl · 613 weeks ago

How right you are, Lori! I wish I had the knowledge that you and others so graciously provide when I was first married. It has taken me 28 years to find the truth. I can't change the past, but I can change myself and the future is looking so much brighter.
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Lori Alexander 122p · 613 weeks ago

Thankfully the Lord is very good at making all things new!
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Debbie · 613 weeks ago

So true. I agree. The parent's marriage sets the tone of the home. Thanks for this timely reminder.
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Lea · 613 weeks ago

Great post, and yes, the parent's marriage does set the tone and I was so blessed by my parent's marriage. Hopefully our kiddos would say we got it right most of the time. Blessings to you!
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Joluise · 613 weeks ago

I was very blessed to have grown up with two loving parents who provided us with a wonderful warm home full of love and Christian faith. My parents weren't perfect but they certainly gave us a wonderful foundation for life and I am forever grateful. They are my role model for my own marriage.
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Deb · 610 weeks ago

Definitely have a good home, but pray for my kids to have happy homes someday when they marry. My husband and I are just doing what we can to get thru. It sounds sad, but it's what I'm used to by now. He has adhd and just doesn't seem to have a focus for us. He works to provide for us and I appreciate that. He doesn't do devotions and it has caused stress for me to not feel emotionally and spiritually connected. I've just accepted him for who he is, he accepts me, we went out on a date with another couple in January and went to a funeral together without the kids. I get that you need to water your garden for it to flourish, but it's just to the point now, that I don't even want to go out with just him. I got a job now so that I'm not always indebted to him, and it's as if he wants me to be home. He only complains about what I don't get done and overlooks the 50 things I did complete. I feel like if I open up and try to make things better, I'll just get really hurt again. Does that make sense? If I just go on autopilot and take care of things and look forward to feeling loved in heaven, then I don't feel the hurt. He just doesn't notice me, only the mistakes.

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