Monday, June 3, 2013

A Very Foolish Woman



Here are two similar women married to two very well-known evangelists and their quotes on the way they viewed marriage ~

“It is a foolish woman who expects her husband to be to her that which only Jesus Christ Himself can be: always ready to forgive, totally understanding, unendingly patient, invariably tender and loving, unfailing in every area, anticipating every need, and making more than adequate provision. Such expectations put a man under an impossible strain”
 Ruth Graham Bell

This one I am going to post without a name so as not to degrade her character ~
She said she had experienced "many years of discouraging disappointments and marital conflict. ... ______, in effect, abandoned our marriage. He chose his priorities, and I have not been one of them."

Oh how I wish I could have mentored the second wife.  She tore apart a marriage, a family, and a church because of her foolish decision to divorce her husband.  Many women choose the same path.  They are not getting what they feel they deserve so they destroy many relationships in the process.

One died peacefully with her family all around her.  The other one is being taken care of full-time by a nursing staff.  She is without family surrounding her.

Sure, you may feel that you are not your husband's priority.  I remember feeling that way but now I know that is not important.  What is important is obeying God and He commands for me to love, serve, and please my husband without any conditions.

Life is much simply if we just take God at His commands and obey them.  Don't risk tearing apart your family because your husband may not be giving you what you need.  Set your eyes on the Lord and recieve everything He has already given you.  Then rejoice and be glad for this is the day that the Lord hath made!

A wise woman builds a house
and the foolish woman destroys it with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1

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Oh this is a wise post. I'm going to copy Mrs. Graham's quote and keep it. We do ask more of our husbands than we are able to give ourselves if we ask all of that from them. That's fairy tale living.

Blessings to you from Harvest Lane Cottage
Laura
So true...good reminder that Jesus is our rock!
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Melissa M. · 616 weeks ago

Thank you for this post. God knew I needed to hear this very thing today. It is like you personally wrote this to me today.
Great post and wonderful quote!!
I love the scripture at the end, its my favorite. I love what you have written here, its refreshing and lovely.
This is so true and I learn it more and more. It also makes it a whole lot easier to love and serve your husband and family.
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Susie Boyer · 616 weeks ago

Oh, I love this blog. Thanks Lori :)
From one Lori to another, thank you for sharing this contrast. I had the privilege of interviewing Ruth Graham's daughter, Anne Graham Lotz. One of the things she spoke of was how her mom had been both father and mother to them growing up, thus enabling Billy to do the work of an evangelist. I suspect while he will receive many rewards in heaven, she might very well have more. Not only did she accomplish a powerful work here on earth, but she enabled Billy to do all that he did. Sounds like double honor to me!

I'm visiting today from Hungry for God . . . Starving for Time and glad I did :)
Wonderful post! I love the Ruth Graham Bell quote. I think I need to print it out and stick it on my mirror!

Your words blessed me today!
It's not so important how we start. It's how we finish that counts. Finishing strong. That's what I've always admired about the Grahams. They finish well.
I feel like this was written just for me. Thanks for jolting my perspective back on the right track.
Isn't it interesting that both of these quotes were from wives of evangelists? I shows me that just being the wife of a pastor doesn't make me immune from wrong choices, and especially wrong attitudes!

By God's strength, I desire to walk the higher road!

Lisa Www.thecourageousjourney.com
Want to build up ... my marriage, my family, Thanks for the splash of encouragement today. It is always a joy to be drenched in God's Word.

Delighted to meet you today. I hope you don't mind if I splash around a bit to get to know you. This looks like a refreshing place to dip onto goodness.

Splashin'
Sarah
http://justsarahdawn.blogspot.com/2013/06/on-dadd...
Well said. This is very true!!! So inspiring! I totally agree with this statement: "What is important is obeying God and He commands for me to love, serve, and please my husband without any conditions." God bless...

Visiting you from the Happy Wives Club Link Up.
No one but God can fulfill your innermost needs and desires. But I do believe each spouse should make the other the top priority. Marriage isn't just a fulfillment of heavenly desires, it should be a fulfillment of some earthly ones, as well.
Amen. Excellent post. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in seeing our loved one's mistakes we forget we have faults too. I love the movie Fireproof. And here is a link to a post worth reading... http://unveiledwife.com/finding-the-truth-about-y...

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