Monday, September 1, 2014

A Husband can Decide the Family Rules???

 Cabinetman recently had a blog, but closed it down. He use to comment on some of my posts. Women either loved his words or hated them. He wrote a "controversial" post on his blog which wasn't so unusual! His blog was directed at men and many were offended by his words. Just because you don't agree 100% with what someone writes, doesn't mean you have to get offended, for love is not easily offended. I love what he wrote to husbands once ~

It is okay to tell her she is not going to work a job.  That you’re going to home school.  That you are going to find a church that is biblical.  That you're going to spank your kids when they flat out disobey.  That you will not allow credit card debt.  That you will have sex three times a week.  That she is not allowed to hang out with that woman.  It’s okay to tell your woman to put the apple down! {Referring to Adam and Eve}

These words will most undoubtedly make most women's skin crawl. It is very difficult to be in submission to someone and allow them to have control. It is very scary! However, God established families in a certain way. He made the husband the leader and the head of the home. He alone is responsible how he leads his family, not you.

The majority of husbands will ask for their wives' input before making big decisions, especially if they have a wife that honors and respects him. After giving our opinions, we have to allow our husbands to make the final decision. He is accountable to God to lead and we are accountable to God to follow, unless he asks us to sin or causes harm to us or our children.

I think too many men are afraid of their wives. We are so good at using our emotions and feelings to manipulate our husbands. {I am speaking from personal experience!} Our desire is to rule over our husbands {Genesis 3:16} but we must allow them to be the leaders of the family. If they make a mistake in their decision making that isn't one of the above exceptions, they will learn from it. Better to learn from a mistake then tear down your husband's leadership and ultimately, your marriage.

One woman commented on his post with, "Great post! I would take exception with the 'we will have sex 3 times a week' part. I believe there was a good reason God had Paul write that the marriage bed is a place of mutual authority as described in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. But this is such a minor point and probably not worthy of debate."

Cabinetman came back with, "You are right, it should have said 4 times a week! I was trying to be gentle and full of grace by saying 3. But in some homes that will be different & each man needs to lead his wife as needed within scripture."

So if you aren't afraid of your man reading his blog, tell him about it and then let him decide whether or not he wants to read it. {I wrote this before he shut it down and will let you all know if he starts a new one!} Just warning you! It is not for the faint of heart. {And I will say it again, you don't have to agree with everything someone writes! I disagree with a lot of writers but I certainly don't get upset with them and belittle them. Sometimes I will challenge them on their thoughts, but it's their blog and they can write what they want.}

Therefore as the church is subject unto their Christ, 
so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Ephesians 5:25

As the church can't tell Christ how to run the church, we are not 
suppose to tell our husbands how to run our family.