My daughters weren't flirty. They didn't "date" in high school. They dated a bit after that but it was only guys who they thought might be potential marriage material. They didn't need a bunch of guys to give them "self-esteem" and fool around with their emotions. They didn't need guys to build up their confidence and make them feel desirable. They didn't need to dress sexy in order to draw guys to get their attention. They realized their virginity was a precious gift they would someday give to their future husband.
I think their high standards were due to two things. They had a father who loved them very much. They felt secure in his love. They also knew who they were in Christ. They knew they were deeply loved by an Almighty God. They knew their invaluable worth to Him. They didn't need fly-by-the-night relationships to make them feel good about themselves.
Here is a convicting statement from another blog ~
Instead of intimidating all your daughter's potential suitors, raise a daughter who intimidates them just fine on her own. Because, you know what's intimidating? Strength and dignity. Deep faith. Self-assuredness. Wisdom. Kindness. Humility. Industriousness. Those are the bricks that build the wall that withstands the advances of old Slouchy-Pants, whether you ever show up with your Winchester locked and loaded or not. The unsuitable suitor finds nothing more terrifying than a woman who knows her worth to God and to her family.
I believe this to be true 100%. The fact that they are loved by a Heavenly Father and filled with His mighty Spirit are the most important things you need to teach your daughters. I can tell you another thing; it works just as well for sons. My sons weren't flirts, didn't chase girls, or need their attention. They were confident who they were in Christ and allowed the Lord to write their love stories.
Therefore if any man be in Christ,
he is a new creature: old things are passed away;
behold, all things are become new.
2 Corinthians 5:17
***They both sure flirt with their husbands now, however, but they aren't with their husbands in the picture. Those are their brothers before any of them were married! ;)