Some readers accuse me of deleting comments, not respecting other's views, and NOT learning, completely opposite of the name of my blog. My blog is a teaching blog. My ministry is to teach Christian young women to love and obey their husbands, be keepers at home, love their children, be sober and good. It is not to garner a bunch of opposing ideas and "what ifs."
I am always learning but I am learning from God's Word and from those who preach and teach God's Word. I am very selective in who I listen to. I don't just listen and learn from any one so this accusation against me is baseless. I don't desire to learn from a bunch of people who oppose what I teach and try to poke holes in it.
I am also very selective about the comments I allow on my blog. Yes, I allow opposing views but I try not to allow too many because it distracts from the message I am trying to teach. I have written about this before in my post about red herrings. Those are comments that try to pull the readers off track, whereas the comments I am talking about today, simply oppose my message.
That is fine. I am not trying to run any one's life. I am only teaching God's Word as I interpret it and I try to interpret it very literally. I don't want to spend my days continually defending my teachings. If true and honest questions are asked, I love to answer them but when readers disagree to disagree, it wastes both of our time since I am not going to change my mind.
A godly bible teacher or friend or even my husband can exhort and rebuke me and I listen since I know they are full of wisdom and have my best interest at heart. But some reader who really has no interest in the Truth but just wants to tear apart my message will be allowed no place on my blog. There are many other places you can go to and hear the message you want to hear but few teach the things I teach.
I don't like watered down, lukewarm teaching. I love to challenge people with the Truth and have it infiltrate every area of their lives. I desire more than anything to be a godly, submissive help meet to Ken. Is is easy? Not always but I am learning to take rebuke and correction from him easily because I want to learn so badly. I find that the more submissive I am to him, the better our marriage becomes.
Sure, there are a lot of "what ifs" with every thing I teach. This is where wisdom and each couple seeking godly advice comes to play. I try to touch on many things but I may not touch on every "what if" every time. No, wives don't submit if they are asked to sin, allow harm to themselves or their children, or are being physically abused. This should be common sense but common sense seems to have flown out the window these days.
I teach biblical Truth and each of you get to decide how it relates to your specific situation and how to apply it. Pray about it. Discuss it and then come to conclusions. Every one gets to live their lives the way they want. God gave us free will but I want to use my freedom to live for Him. For now on, I will be moderating ALL comments since I am getting numerous accusations and destructive comments. Only those that can contribute positively to the conversation will be allowed. Thank you for your patience!
For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ:
for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth.
Romans 1:16
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Susan T · 549 weeks ago
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helen · 549 weeks ago
Love this post, you are absolutely right and I support you 100%, well said!
Blessings and God bless you as always
Helen UK
katy010305 45p · 549 weeks ago
Roxy · 549 weeks ago
Blessings, Roxy
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Cheryl · 549 weeks ago
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes." Epehsian 6:10-11
Martha · 549 weeks ago
I read your blog every single day and appreciate your strong approach to teaching Truth. I love learning from you! I am grateful that you will be removing the insincere distracting comments but regret that you will still have to read them. I have just lifted up requests for you as you daily weed out those comments that are meant to divide.
Blessings,
Martha
Lady Virtue · 549 weeks ago
May the Lord give you the strength to press on and keep doing what you do, Lori. It has been of great benefit. God bless you! :-)
Carmine · 549 weeks ago
Siri · 549 weeks ago
The original word 'help' (ezer) is only ever specifically applied to one other person in addition to Eve. That person is God and with its use, he is referred to as our ezer. King David referred to him this way several times: 'I lift up my eyes to the hills, where does my help (ezer) come from? My help (ezer) comes from the Lord...' and '...come quickly to me, O God. You are my help (ezer) and my deliverer; LORD, do not delay.' God specifically gave Eve this trait or strength of his; it wasn't given to Adam. When we think of ourselves as ezers to our spouses, it ought to in some way match the way we consider God to be our our ezer. I wish this idea would be included in discussions of women and the church. It's a very strong, vital, crucial, critical word with a real sense of active urgency to it.
M B · 549 weeks ago
I agree with your new comment policy 100%. As you said, there are many people out there who only comment in order to disagree or tear down what you are saying. They have no interest in learning, but in being "right" or "disproving" you, or some other ulterior motive. Debating with them, really, is just a waste of time.
Keep spreading the Word! I greatly enjoy reading your blog.
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elleberra 15p · 549 weeks ago
You are right. There are plenty of other places out there where people can read whatever tickles them. There are not many places to read the sort of things you write.
I know you keep writing for a long time. It is good for those of us who listen (or sometimes not :p).
Pup · 549 weeks ago
First, I struggle with the gap between my own direct experience of God, and my own interpretation of the Bible on the one hand, and the descriptions and interpretations of others, including you, Dear Lori, who is so diligent in your desire to teach. I have seen Ken comment that one's direct experience of God, personal direction from Him takes precedence over someone else's interpretation. But when I have asked questions of various people to try to bring things into clearer focus in my own mind, it has caused some consternation. If I am to only listen to what God tells me directly, then how am I meant to hear someone else's interpretation that gives a very different result?
I am also confused as to the acceptable way to express confusion or lack of understanding. You say here that you love being challenged in your faith. When someone doesn't "get" something you have said and asks for clarification, is that the good kind of challenge or is that what you meant by a detractor? I would NEVER want to be seen as a detractor! but I am the type who is easily confused and needs to ask about each thing that seems to be a contradiction in my own mind, until it all makes complete sense. But I don't want to be a discouragement to others or to you! Please help me know when it's ok to question.
Ken · 549 weeks ago
It is hard for us to tell who are detractors and who may be truly confused and seeking help. If we leave comments like yours up and not answer the questions you ask in and of themselves can cause confusion to others. If we answer them, and we believe we have a great defense for our faith and what we believe, we are buried in a time consuming process, often off topic and the rest of our life comes to standstill why we chase down one more rabbit trail. Only the commenter knows for sure if your questions are truly from the heart or meant to detract, as Satan is the master of lies and deception. He wants just one little thing to be off and thus in some eyes it disqualifies the whole, which it does not, or it wastes time and energy that should be devoted to those who truly seeking answers.
You should seek an older woman to mentor you personally and ask her your questions and concerns about what we write. We do want everyone to check out our words, and anything they read against both God’s Word and what other godly believers are saying.
Please point me to where I have ever said or intimated that “comment that one's direct experience of God, personal direction from Him takes precedence over someone else's interpretation.”
Neither take precedence unless they are based on the truths of God’s Word which are not difficult to understand when taken at face value. If you cannot listen to what God tells you directly because it could be nothing more than indigestion if it is not greatly supported by His Word. You cannot trust any interpretation that does not follow with God’s Word and his clear teaching. Go to the Bible itself and read what it says. When in doubt, the Internet is loaded with godly answers, but be sure that whatever is said is defended by God’s Word.
I am a long time believer who is trained in God’s Word and I do not trust my own sense from God completely. Checking it out to be sure with the Bible and fellow godly believers is part of a mature Christian walk with Christ, and anyone who does not is susceptible to fall into wrong thinking and lies.
Two believers can have differing interpretations. That is totally acceptable, and often both views are looking at the same truths from differing perspectives. You, believer, are responsible before the Lord to come to your own conclusions as to not just who is right or wrong, but discern which view captures most of what God says He wants from us for life and godliness.
I am curious as to what is so confusing to you. If we are showing “consternation” I apologize, but we are going a hundred miles an hour with so many things to do, blog, work and family that what is appreciated is short questions that truly want a Biblical answer. These were are willing to tackle as best we can, and I like all questions that are asked nicely, but Lori is finding it too hard to manage these confusing comments that contain inaccuracies.
If the comment section were intended to be a forum, or we had some well-trained Bible students to jump in and take some of the questions like Cabinetman, Helen, TJFW, and others have done, it takes some of the burden off of us to try to answer everyone’s concerns. Maybe we are too quick to answer and do not allow other godly readers the chance, but being a teaching blog we do not like to leave up confusing comments with inaccurate statements. I hope you can understand.
Linda · 549 weeks ago
thejoyfilledwife · 549 weeks ago
I know that your children are now grown and that this has freed up your time to sow into the lives of others without detracting from your family. Even though you may have more available time than those who are raising children at home presently, I know that you are still operating a business and working to maintain your household daily. The Lord is doing great work in you here and you know that I wholeheartedly agree with your decision in this. Being able to see things from your behind-the-scenes point of view, I also know that it can be tiring facing the arrows of the enemy day after day. I want to encourage you, dear brother and sister in Christ, that you are making such a difference for the Kingdom. I couldn't be prouder of your selfless service to our Lord and Savior. I can't wait to see the Lord reveal to you one day just how many lives have been touched by your willingness to teach the precious Word of God every day to those who have ears to hear. Blessings to you two! I pray for discernment, peace, and that the Lord will bring two-fold blessings and refreshment as you fight the good fight.
Desiree · 549 weeks ago