Friday, June 27, 2014

Pulling Out The Red Herring


There are many people out there who would love to destroy a Christian's message. I have those who would love to destroy my ministry. Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves. {Mathew 10:16} We must ask the Lord continually for wisdom so we can clearly recognize the wolves among us.

For instance, I published a beautiful post yesterday about a young woman who willingly loves her husband and blesses him with frequent love making. I received a few very encouraging comments then out of the blue, I got a long comment about rape, as if we were promoting rape. Then others commented on this and the whole conversation turned around to a discussion about rape. This one person was able to turn around a beautiful post into an ugly one.

I told Ken I was getting a knot in my stomach as I tried to respond to all the rape comments and asked him if I could just delete all of the comments about rape. He wanted me to. I don't want my posts destroyed in the comment section by wolves who want to twist my words and pull out something that stinks.

I don't mind healthy discussions and questions but when it veers so off track, I will be deleting the comments. The main purpose of my blog is a teaching blog. I love teaching women how to love and obey their husbands, raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, be keepers at home, modest, etc. I have to be very careful in discerning whether or not a reader has good or evil intent when posting a comment.

Thank you very much all of you who support me in my ministry. I love mentoring women and teaching them the ways of God. I am so thankful the Lord has given me the privilege of having this ministry and I thank all of you for listening and learning from me. {I also learn a lot from you!}

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Lori, I believe you are absolutely right here. You have always promoted healthy discussion around the topic but some people come on here purely to lob a written 'hand grenade' in to deliberately discredit your words. I believe that yesterday's writer of what you are talking about here chose to wilfully misunderstand the topic and try and destroy a very important discussion. This is your blog and if respondents are trying to discredit you, their comments should be deleted.
Sadly, there will always be bitter people trying to stir up trouble. We are warned to have nothing to do with pointless arguments.
Bless you for your solid bible based teaching for Christian women, long may it continue!.
Helen UK
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Hi Lori - I didn't read yesterday's post until today. I agree with you. A healthy sex life makes for a happy marriage.
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Bless you! I have learned over the years that unbelievers sometimes get a kick out f just pushing buttons. I have an atheist friend who I met while straying. I unwisely had to delete her from Facebook because she tended to poke fun of the area we are from and it's popular Christian beliefs. We got into it and finally I unearthed that none of the posts she posted ever really desired answers. I quote her: "...I just push buttons. It's what I do..." Maybe fun for her but very detrimental to someone who spends time praying for her and trying wholeheartedly to answer her genuine questions that who knows if they were genuine? I was so confused and decided I didn't know if I could trust any thig about our supposed friendship. They are not convicted to act out of love for others, protecting others feelings. They act out of personal gain if it is funny o them. If it is a cheap thrill. And oh they love creating an argument. You have to remember it is as if dealing with someone who doesn't think as clearly as you on many levels. You are right. Have to weed through the wolves. Their end result desired is unknown. They are playing it by ear every second f every day. Our end desire is one of love, fellowship with God, and gaining one more soul in heaven. Very specific. So sometimes you have to distance yourself and pray for them. They don't even know what they're doing. Or rather realize what they're doing.
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Don't ever quit doing what you are doing. The truth always brings division amongst some.
I am dealing with it right now at our church. Not pleasant at all. Stick to your purpose & God always blesses truth:)
Becky
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Susan Taft · 561 weeks ago

Yes - Lori please don't let anyone stop you from your ministry. I know it is difficult to hear bad comments - BUT there are many more of us out there who appreciate your words of wisdom from the Lord. There will always be people out there who don't understand - people who always look for a negative - people who try to destroy good. Hang in there!! God bless you!
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You've been deleting a lot of comments lately. It's kind of a bummer. People really enjoy reading the comments! As a reader the comments don't ever detract from the message of the main post. The Keeper of the Homestead did a post about all the negative comments she received regarding her cleaning post. http://www.keeperofthehomestead.com/blog/the-clea.... It is strange how a simple post about cleaning can get people so defensive!! Likewise, it is strange how a simple post about loving your husband can have them going all the way to the extremes of rape. It's a bizarre thing!!
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Lori,
It is because of your writing that has made me into a better wife and mother. Please feel free to erase any negativity, it is your right to guide your beautiful words and lessons to help other women. I have always appreciated every post you have thoughtfully written (there are many times I feel you have peeked in my windows and saw I needed a little help and wrote the lesson just for me).
I understand that some women have been taught to question everything and actually believe they are totally innocent in their questions. I have found that those women have not yet softened their heart to the words of the Lord.
Perhaps they forget the general rule on your blog :
"Mark them which cause divisions and offenses contrary to the doctrine which you have learned and avoid them" Romans 16:17
Again, thank you for all the wonderful guidance and love.
~Anne
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I'm totally with Anne on this. I don't like it at all when it veers off. I even quit clicking to follow anything but a reply from you because I didn't want to get trapped into reading the veering off stuff. I trust that your discernment will be led by God and that's all that matters. Blessings as always.
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Gently Led · 561 weeks ago

What a pity that some people are writing such comments as those you deleted, but I agree that you did the right thing -- you don't need to waste your energy on that stuff -- and here you give us another example of how you turn to Ken for guidance. What a relief to know (as you model for us) that we can trust our husbands to lead us! Really takes the burden off (and gives us more energy to meet his needs, right? Loved yesterday's post!). I'm very grateful for your teaching.
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Kathy in Illinois · 561 weeks ago

I always enjoy your posts. I'm sorry you and other bloggers get bad comments. If someone doesn't like your post then they should just stop reading and go to a blog they like.
God bless, Kathy in Illinois
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Keep the faith sister. There is a difference between constructive comments in which someone is trying to learn, and comments that are meant to stir dissension. It's not always easy to know the difference, but moderating non-constructive comments can be wise.
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Lori, Thank you for your wonderful exhortation of God's word. You are truly following the Lord in your spiritual gifts. I applaud you for stepping up to the plate where many will not go because they know there will be those "baby' Christians who will mis-interpret what you are trying to say. It is because they are really convicted in those areas of their lives and would rather lash out instead of realizing that it is because you love us and what God has called you to do that some will not be able to handle. I have been convicted many times while reading your blog but am so happy that you are there for me. You are either going forward in your spiritual walk or backwards, we do not stay the same. As for me, I want to grow as a Christian wife and mom and grandma. So please delete the posts that are offensive and not on topic...
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So sorry to hear that. I love your posts and the tremendous encouragement I get from them. Our second oldest daughter is getting married in two months and I have shared a number of posts with her. As a mom of six children from 23 down to 6, three by birth and three by adoption, I am dealing with older children as well as continuing to homeschool the two youngest! Keep up the good work and encouragement to all of us out there "on the web" to think Biblically and to be discerning. Have a blessed day!
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There is an interesting Word in Jude verse 10..." But these men revile the things which they do not understand & the things which they know by instinct, like unreasoning animals, by these things they are destroyed." One of my goals is to read my Bible more, chapter by chapter. It's so EASY to just focus on the pleasant verses, & I believe we tend to get complacent & let down our spiritual guard, as we want to believe the world is a nice place to live. Enemies remind us that there is a spiritual battle to be fought & they keep us "on our toes!" I had no idea what a "red herring" is! Satan tries to lead us off the true path all the time...thankfully "greater is He Who is in us, than he that is in the world.." Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
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Teaching, you did!
Let's pray that those who didn't understand will learn from you, again. I know I did!
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Lori, I know I rarely comment on posts. I find your posts SO encouraging and scripture based! I am sorry to know that there are those out there that feel it's ok to try to destroy someone else. I wholeheartedly agree that women are created for our husbands help meets, and that also includes intimacy! When a women serves her husband wholeheartedly, she receives a blessing. Do not be afraid to delete comments that take away from your intent for your posts. God Bless!
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By the time I had read yesterday's post the only reference to rape was Ken's comment that mentioned that comments on the topic had been deleted. As someone who does often disagree with you, I must say that I respect the way that you respond to differing opinions and I get annoyed with the bad name that the commenters only interested in tearing you down give to those of us who try to express contrary opinions respectfully.
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Lori, I can only imagine how it feels to have your posts twisted in such a horrific way. I think the author makes herself pretty clear:

"It's really not rocket science. I just made the decision to never say 'no' when we got married."

I can't quite understand how the clear inclusion of the word "choice" gets misconstrued as something the opposite, but that seems to be the case with truth these days.
I can relate, in a way--I never felt this misunderstood until I became a Bible-believing Christian.

Keep defending the truth, Lori. You are so blessed to have Ken as your support in this! I along with many women have the improved lives and marriages to stand as evidence of your God-given wisdom.
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Lori, you don’t have to let comments through that upset you. It’s your blog and you have a right to keep the discussion on topic and edit out what doesn’t need to be said. I enjoy reading here and have felt encouraged and reminded that what I do as a wife and mother is important. Thanks!
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Lori! Keep up the great work. You are an encouragement to so many. Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy. Don't allow him to destroy you teaching wisdom through this blog. I pray a blessing on the woman who had enough courage to write TRUTH to your readers yesterday. (By the way, I am the Kath who is in Wisconsin. I noticed there was another Kath who is a little mean- spirited out there in cyber world. That's not me.)
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I have loved every post since I first discovered your blog and I agree with you about handling comments. There seems to always be someone. Others have said it and I will to, you encourage me to be a better wife and mother. Always such good food for thought.
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Lori, Please dont let the destructive comments stop you from your ministry. Ken is right you are teaching a class (my husband thinks I am your star pupil, I am always talking about what you have written on that day!)
I just wanted to share how you have helped my marriage especially over the last 2 months. My husband has had a series of operations over the last 6 weeks and has been very unwell. Through your teachings I have found ways to serve my husband and keep our marriage strong. Making him a nice meal on the days he has been to nauseas to eat much, sitting by his bedside with a cup of tea and a chat/bible study etc. Once he has recovered which we pray will be in the next few months I am sure our sex life will resume (at the moment it would be impossible for any sexual activity.) We have both commented on how nice it has been to have this quality time together and it has brought us to a deeper level in our marriage. I have you to thank for this Lori, you have taught me how important it is to be my husbands help meet even when not during the good easy days our marriage had been up until this point! At many points over the last 6 weeks I have felt overwhelmed and frustrated but I have taken my concerns to the Lord instead of my husband so he can focus purely on his recovery. Your blog is something I look forward to reading each morning with a cup of tea before I start my day. Please keep the teaching coming!
Kind Regards Miriam
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They love the red herrings, don't they?

Keep up the great work Lori! Stay encouraged.
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I have a fortune cookie saying on my refrigerator: Its better to light a candle than curse the darkness. When we light a candle, those who unknowingly live in the dark become aware of the dark, and those who love the dark will try to put out the source of light. To steal from The Matrix: they will die to defend a lie. When discussions become character attacks, I know I've hit the nerve. I think of how I'm in good company: Moses, Elijah, all the prophets, apostles, early Christians, and Jesus himself. Remember the good company you've joined when those knots show up.

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