Saturday, June 7, 2014

Learning To Keep Our Homes Clean


Women, today, seem to have a very difficult time keeping their homes clean and tidy. Having a clean home makes a heart cheery. If my home is a mess I feel down and overwhelmed. I stare at the clutter and mess and wonder where to start. A clean home is a welcoming home. People feel at ease when they step into a clean and orderly home. It is a sign that all is well if the home is in order

I have learned to like cleaning from my mother. She is the best cleaner I know. When you are in her home, it just smells clean. It is inviting and restful. Anyone can trust they will not contract a disease by entering her home. You can walk barefoot and not feel a crumb. My mother would teach me how to clean properly just as her mother taught her when she was growing up. And now, I am teaching my children the same. These skills are passed down from generation to generation.

Pigpens...
I have noticed that a mother that is not concerned about a clean home will produce daughters that are not concerned either. They find it comfortable to be in the dirt, clutter, and filth. In fact, they do not see the dirt. If they do see it, they do not care. The house smells foul and the floors are almost just as bad as a pigpen in the barn. They have animals living in the home that shed and leave messes that are not cleaned up properly, and I either want to breathe out of my mouth to avoid the fumes, or I felt the need to vacate.

When my children were still babies, I would take them to visit others. If the home was a mess, I worried about choking hazards and germs. I did not want to leave the child on the floor because I could see the grime. That grime would coat my children's feet, hands, and knees of their clothing. It was an uneasy feeling that I had. I did not want to make the hostess feel badly, but I was literally grossed out. My children would tire of piling on my lap and I would tire from propping up all their weight.

Toilets...
A home that is rarely cleaned will always have a bathroom that has a very dirty toilet. The smell of urine is so strong. My mother always had a sit down rule. Everyone, including men, had to sit on the toilet to go. She told me it was because of splashing. Urine will always splash out and it can run down the side of the toilet to the floor around the base. The odors get trapped there.

I have learned to check bathrooms in restaurants to see how clean they are. Bathrooms are a reflection on the overall cleanliness of an established business. If the bathroom smells nice and is spotless, you know they care about every detail.

Dirty Happy Homes?
I have heard the argument that a dirty home is a happy home. Some women will tell me that they would feel stressed and be nasty if they had to keep their home clean. My question is WHY? Why would cleaning a home make anyone stressed if they keep it up each day? I am a reformed slob. I know all the excuses. No, rather, I find cleaning to be very satisfying. If I have a dirty or cluttered home, I feel stress like nothing else. I feel unmotivated, lazy, and just plain overwhelmed to look around at the mess. I get nasty and grouchy if my house is unclean.

Men love a clean and orderly home. They work all day and truly enjoy coming home to a fresh environment. It sets the mood for a relaxing evening for him to unwind with his family. { I think some men would say they don't care but order and cleanliness are ALWAYS more pleasant then disorder.}

Some women also argue that they want to spend more quality time with their children. Hey, you can spend a lot of time with your children cleaning with them! That is a part of our family time. As soon as my kids could walk, they were my cleaning buddies. They learned so early that cleaning was just a part of daily living. It was not a mountain to climb, it was just a few short steps each morning. It brings such a feeling of working as a team. We all live her, we all clean here! The more kids a person has, the more cleaning buddies. The older kids can buddy up with the younger children in their chores to pass on their skills. It is a win/win situation. Building relationships while creating a haven of refreshing beauty!

Learning to Clean...
Maybe a person can get used to filth and it just does not affect their well
being but that would be an exception to the rule. Everyone is different, but EVERYONE can learn to be a good cleaner. It is not a gift. It is not even a personality trait. It is just good common sense. It is just a good thing to know. God calls us to be keepers of the home. Not all women have been taught to clean. I get that.

Whatever you do, work heartily, 
as for the Lord and not for man.
Colossians 3:23

***If you know there is something in your life that you need to be doing, please go do it. If it will provide you with greater simplicity, more peace, or a better life in some way, get started now. Life is just too short to wait. {Joshua Becker}

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I have a wonderful mum who set a great example of homemaking. I feel very blessed:) and all I was taught I have passed onto my sons. Thanks mum for teaching me the importance a of a clean home.
1 reply · active 564 weeks ago
Love this! Thanks!
1 reply · active 564 weeks ago
My mother didn't really teach me to clean. I know how to clean but I never had regular chores. I really felt overwhelmed when I first got married and even more so when we started having children. I'm looking forward to this series! Thank you for sharing!
1 reply · active 564 weeks ago
I really enjoyed this post! I found it very motivating. I LOVE a clean house and keep my house as clean as possible (with 3 little ones running around). One thing that helps me is to have a big deep clean once a week where we scrub, dust, disinfect everything, etc. And then all I have to do daily is maintain it - keep things wiped up, swept, picked up, and do a load of laundry every day. It makes it so much more manageable. I'm looking forward to the cleaning posts, I can always use motivation!
2 replies · active 564 weeks ago
I wasn't taught, learned by reading and practicing. Once I stopped "excusing" myself (I can't keep things clean, money straight, exercise), started looking at housecleaning as a training program (you don't rise to the top under pressure, you sink to the level of your training. Want a clean house, train yourself), its easier to keep. The results speak for themselves.
2 replies · active 564 weeks ago
Lori,

I, too, love to learn new, fresh home-blessing skills and tips. I decided several years ago to stop cleaning my home. Yes, that's right. I now BLESS it instead.

There's a blogger whose motto is, "It doesn't have to be perfect to be beautiful." FlyLady teaches that even WRONG cleaning blesses my home. Well, for each of us there IS a right way. Whatever we do to esteem others, honor God and be a good steward of these gifts-- our homes and what we NEED in it-- there absolutely is a right way to do it.

Any lazy slob can reform, change, cultivate a hunger and thirst after God's ways of BEing as unto Him and give Him glory.

The other day it occurred to me that God is my ideal Example of not only a home provider (my husband) but of a home keeper (my husband's wife). God did 'this' on Day One of Creation, 'that' on Day Two, etc. When He got done with all of His work, He saw that it was good and then He rested. Six days I too should work-- not five. Not part-time. Work six days. There is no reason I should have a dirty home if I work on it six days each week. On the rest day, look around at the fruit of your hands. My husband loves it and joins me in deeming it "Good!"

Women's work is never done. Don't I love it, too! I really do! With a heart of gratitude, any job or task can be enjoyed!

And I can't wait to join my co-"Always LearnERS" in your series, Lori-- and Erin's. I shared this link with my married girls, too. :-)

Happy weekend,
Kelley~
2 replies · active 564 weeks ago
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/livingbetter50/2013/...

I've committed to listening to that link every day for five days. Five bags if trash and the sixth one has begun. Shameful on my part. God is not pleased with me. Thankfully I have a heart that yearns for His contentment "and great gain."

Just thought I'd share. Leslie from Goodbye House, Hello Home blog is being interviewed. Great ideas!

Hugs,
Kelley~
1 reply · active 564 weeks ago
Loved this post, Lori! And I'm looking forward to the series. I did not grow up cleaning or doing chores, and I was a horribly messy teenager and young adult; however, my own mother kept an impeccably clean home. She never let a mess build up and she always said that "everything has its place." I knew that every part of the house (except for my own room, of course) would be spotless, clean enough to eat off of, and sanitary. I trusted every item of food that came from the refrigerator because I knew she kept it clean and tidy. I never felt embarrassed bringing friends over because the house was so organized, neat, presentable, and lovely. In fact, my high school boyfriend once came over and said, "Wow. What a NICE place to live!" His own mother never cleaned or did laundry and their house was atrocious.
Once I grew up and moved into my own place, I turned from my slovenly habits and developed the motivation to keep things as clean, neat, and tidy as my mother had. I don't think I do as good of a job, (I'm certainly not as organized as she is,) but my house is always the neatest and cleanest out of all of my friends, even with two little boys and a dog that sheds. I don't attribute this to myself; I attribute it to my mother and the values she instilled in me--even, so it seems, in spite of myself! She taught me discipline by example, and I am so thankful that she did.
I'm looking forward to learning some new tricks of the trade! :)
1 reply · active 564 weeks ago
yes great series. thanks for introducing us to it. I am always looking to learn in this area. I've found that the more I learn proper cleaning techniques, the more I enjoy cleaning because I'm seeing the results of my labor. So many of us have all the ingredients (cleaning supplies) but no know-how (recipe).
1 reply · active 564 weeks ago
I love a clean home but also understand that for young moms with young children; this can be really daunting. My heart goes out to these moms who nourish, feed, wash and look after little ones. It's not easy - I encourage them as much as I can.
Thank you for the wonderful post. I am very grateful that my grandmother felt it very important to keep a very clean and organized home, sew by hand, and cook from scratch because she passed these values down to my mother, who in turn, passed them down to my sister and I. Now, we are teaching our daughters these things. My 16 year old loves to clean and can (and does) help to clean and organize our home on a daily basis. She is well on her way to becoming a great "from scratch" cook, as we do not purchase boxed or convenience food items. It is my prayer for all the young girls out there to realize how important these things are and what blessings they can/should be to their future husbands. Too many teen girls now are focused only on what they can get for themselves and who can do something for them, and not on what they can do for others. It really is sad.
Hi Lori!
Great post, as usual, Lori! I love Erin's site...I have purchased her videos a few years ago, and those are wonderful, too. We have 5 kids and our house is very tidy and clean. I am a neat freak! Many blessings!
I realize that I am a couple days behind on this post....but I agree with the poster above about children just not being taught. I have an 18 year old niece. She just graduated and is off to college. She has never been asked to cook so doesn't know how to prepare a meal and she has never been expected to do any housework. Her bedroom is a mess and my sister in law does everything while working full time. I asked one time a couple years back why she wasn't made to help around the house. The response (which I heard once before from another mother) was that she was keeping her grades good. Okay. I don't know if that means that she is working so hard to keep her grades good that she doesn't have time to clean, or, not cleaning is a reward for good grades. Either way it is setting my niece up for a difficult time in the future.
My four year old son is learning how to help me. He dusted the banisters, puts his clothes away, helps load the dishwashe and unload it. He even helps me in the gardne. Gotta get them and teach them while they still want to help!
1 reply · active 563 weeks ago
I have to say I found this post very discouraging (even with your "don't get discouraged"). I was very fortunate to have a stay at home mom when I was growing up. She taught me how to spring clean, but she kept the house so clean the rest of the time I didn't learn the clean as you go. I am getting better, but it is a daily - no hour-by-hour struggle for me to change my discipline regarding cleaning.
I told my husband about this post and the white glove test that Erin speaks of. He said he does not desire us to have a stark - so clean you can't walk in the door, heaven forbid make a mess in the house.... This was a relief for me.
I do not take this as a license to have a dirty home, but to have a comfortable, livable home and will continue to make inroads to this goal. I want to be sure my home does not become my idol.
Wonderful.
Thanks for the great post Lori. I just moved away from my parents, and am so not used to cleaning the entire house by myself. Shall start learning to clean!

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