Women, today, seem to have a very difficult time keeping their homes clean and tidy. Having a clean home makes a heart cheery. If my home is a mess I feel down and overwhelmed. I stare at the clutter and mess and wonder where to start. A clean home is a welcoming home. People feel at ease when they step into a clean and orderly home. It is a sign that all is well if the home is in order
I have learned to like cleaning from my mother. She is the best cleaner I know. When you are in her home, it just smells clean. It is inviting and restful. Anyone can trust they will not contract a disease by entering her home. You can walk barefoot and not feel a crumb. My mother would teach me how to clean properly just as her mother taught her when she was growing up. And now, I am teaching my children the same. These skills are passed down from generation to generation.
Pigpens...
Pigpens...
I have noticed that a mother that is not concerned about a clean home will produce daughters that are not concerned either. They find it comfortable to be in the dirt, clutter, and filth. In fact, they do not see the dirt. If they do see it, they do not care. The house smells foul and the floors are almost just as bad as a pigpen in the barn. They have animals living in the home that shed and leave messes that are not cleaned up properly, and I either want to breathe out of my mouth to avoid the fumes, or I felt the need to vacate.
When my children were still babies, I would take them to visit others. If the home was a mess, I worried about choking hazards and germs. I did not want to leave the child on the floor because I could see the grime. That grime would coat my children's feet, hands, and knees of their clothing. It was an uneasy feeling that I had. I did not want to make the hostess feel badly, but I was literally grossed out. My children would tire of piling on my lap and I would tire from propping up all their weight.
Toilets...
A home that is rarely cleaned will always have a bathroom that has a very dirty toilet. The smell of urine is so strong. My mother always had a sit down rule. Everyone, including men, had to sit on the toilet to go. She told me it was because of splashing. Urine will always splash out and it can run down the side of the toilet to the floor around the base. The odors get trapped there.
I have learned to check bathrooms in restaurants to see how clean they are. Bathrooms are a reflection on the overall cleanliness of an established business. If the bathroom smells nice and is spotless, you know they care about every detail.
Dirty Happy Homes?
I have heard the argument that a dirty home is a happy home. Some women will tell me that they would feel stressed and be nasty if they had to keep their home clean. My question is WHY? Why would cleaning a home make anyone stressed if they keep it up each day? I am a reformed slob. I know all the excuses. No, rather, I find cleaning to be very satisfying. If I have a dirty or cluttered home, I feel stress like nothing else. I feel unmotivated, lazy, and just plain overwhelmed to look around at the mess. I get nasty and grouchy if my house is unclean.
Men love a clean and orderly home. They work all day and truly enjoy coming home to a fresh environment. It sets the mood for a relaxing evening for him to unwind with his family. { I think some men would say they don't care but order and cleanliness are ALWAYS more pleasant then disorder.}
Some women also argue that they want to spend more quality time with their children. Hey, you can spend a lot of time with your children cleaning with them! That is a part of our family time. As soon as my kids could walk, they were my cleaning buddies. They learned so early that cleaning was just a part of daily living. It was not a mountain to climb, it was just a few short steps each morning. It brings such a feeling of working as a team. We all live her, we all clean here! The more kids a person has, the more cleaning buddies. The older kids can buddy up with the younger children in their chores to pass on their skills. It is a win/win situation. Building relationships while creating a haven of refreshing beauty!
Learning to Clean...
Maybe a person can get used to filth and it just does not affect their well
being but that would be an exception to the rule. Everyone is different, but EVERYONE can learn to be a good cleaner. It is not a gift. It is not even a personality trait. It is just good common sense. It is just a good thing to know. God calls us to be keepers of the home. Not all women have been taught to clean. I get that.
Whatever you do, work heartily,
as for the Lord and not for man.
Colossians 3:23
Colossians 3:23
***If you know there is something in your life that you need to be doing, please go do it. If it will provide you with greater simplicity, more peace, or a better life in some way, get started now. Life is just too short to wait. {Joshua Becker}
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Kelley · 564 weeks ago
I, too, love to learn new, fresh home-blessing skills and tips. I decided several years ago to stop cleaning my home. Yes, that's right. I now BLESS it instead.
There's a blogger whose motto is, "It doesn't have to be perfect to be beautiful." FlyLady teaches that even WRONG cleaning blesses my home. Well, for each of us there IS a right way. Whatever we do to esteem others, honor God and be a good steward of these gifts-- our homes and what we NEED in it-- there absolutely is a right way to do it.
Any lazy slob can reform, change, cultivate a hunger and thirst after God's ways of BEing as unto Him and give Him glory.
The other day it occurred to me that God is my ideal Example of not only a home provider (my husband) but of a home keeper (my husband's wife). God did 'this' on Day One of Creation, 'that' on Day Two, etc. When He got done with all of His work, He saw that it was good and then He rested. Six days I too should work-- not five. Not part-time. Work six days. There is no reason I should have a dirty home if I work on it six days each week. On the rest day, look around at the fruit of your hands. My husband loves it and joins me in deeming it "Good!"
Women's work is never done. Don't I love it, too! I really do! With a heart of gratitude, any job or task can be enjoyed!
And I can't wait to join my co-"Always LearnERS" in your series, Lori-- and Erin's. I shared this link with my married girls, too. :-)
Happy weekend,
Kelley~
Kelley · 564 weeks ago
I've committed to listening to that link every day for five days. Five bags if trash and the sixth one has begun. Shameful on my part. God is not pleased with me. Thankfully I have a heart that yearns for His contentment "and great gain."
Just thought I'd share. Leslie from Goodbye House, Hello Home blog is being interviewed. Great ideas!
Hugs,
Kelley~
RTD · 564 weeks ago
Once I grew up and moved into my own place, I turned from my slovenly habits and developed the motivation to keep things as clean, neat, and tidy as my mother had. I don't think I do as good of a job, (I'm certainly not as organized as she is,) but my house is always the neatest and cleanest out of all of my friends, even with two little boys and a dog that sheds. I don't attribute this to myself; I attribute it to my mother and the values she instilled in me--even, so it seems, in spite of myself! She taught me discipline by example, and I am so thankful that she did.
I'm looking forward to learning some new tricks of the trade! :)
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Kath · 563 weeks ago
Great post, as usual, Lori! I love Erin's site...I have purchased her videos a few years ago, and those are wonderful, too. We have 5 kids and our house is very tidy and clean. I am a neat freak! Many blessings!
Desiree · 563 weeks ago
My four year old son is learning how to help me. He dusted the banisters, puts his clothes away, helps load the dishwashe and unload it. He even helps me in the gardne. Gotta get them and teach them while they still want to help!
Holly · 563 weeks ago
I told my husband about this post and the white glove test that Erin speaks of. He said he does not desire us to have a stark - so clean you can't walk in the door, heaven forbid make a mess in the house.... This was a relief for me.
I do not take this as a license to have a dirty home, but to have a comfortable, livable home and will continue to make inroads to this goal. I want to be sure my home does not become my idol.
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