Tuesday, June 17, 2014

My Persistence Paid Off!


All I wanted to do when I was growing up was to dance. I began tap and ballet when I was young but only got to do it for a short time, because my dad was afraid I would end up as a showgirl in Las Vegas! I was heartbroken. I loved dancing so much.

He must have changed his mind when I grew up, because when I was in eighth grade, I tried out to be cheerleader for ninth grade. I had to go out in front of the whole school and do a cheer myself. I was very quiet and shy when I was growing up so this was terrifying to me yet I wanted it so badly. I went to a very large, public junior high school also. I didn't make it...

In ninth grade, I tried out again for cheerleader for tenth grade. Many girls tried out. We only had to go in front of a very large board this time and do a cheer for them. Once again, I didn't make it. My number wasn't called. I remember hoping for many days afterwards that they had made a mistake and I really was chosen, but a call never came.

I tried out again in tenth grade for my junior year. This was a division one high school, so it was very large. Another board to try out for. As they finally decided who was going to make it, they slowly called out the numbers. They called out my number! I was so happy, I cried tears of joy!

Up until I was a cheerleader, I was very shy like I said. Cheerleading is what got me out of my shyness and helped me become more outgoing and talkative. I had never even been asked out before this time. However, the fall of my junior year, ten different guys asked me to go to the Winter Formal. Nothing about me had changed except that I was a cheerleader. I guess I was one of the "popular" kids. I hopefully never used it to act better then others, because I knew I wasn't. I was the same person, only I had the label of "cheerleader" now. {God always used trials to keep me in my place. He is good at that!}

I made it easily my senior year. The picture above is of Stephanie and me. We were friends in high school. I LOVED cheerleading. I loved the summer camps and the competitions. I especially loved the football games. {This is why I love football today!} After the games, I would go to the school dances and dance until I could hardly walk. The next day, I could barely get out of bed! {Keep in mind, I was NOT raised like the Duggars!}

My persistence paid off! We won't always get what we want and work hard for, but we should at least try and encourage our children to do the same. Find out what your children enjoy and seem to be good at, then allow them to pursue it. Whether they succeed or fail, they will learn from both experiences. We all have different gifts and talents. We enjoy what we are good at and what comes easy for us. {I took 17 years of piano even through college, but NEVER play anymore. It is not my gift or my talent. I was pretty good but never really enjoyed it much.} Therefore, don't try to fit your children into your mold, but find out what their mold is and where God may be leading them. You never know how He may use them in their gifts and talents!

Train up a child in the way he should go: 
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6

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Thank you Lori. I will start my kids on piano (5 and 2) as soon as we can. Would you recommend waiting until they ask or starting them anyway? I took piano from 8-14 and never practiced, now I regret it. What are your thoughts?
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Dennis Prager, a radio talk show host, is an orchestra director in his free time. One time he asked all 100 of the people in the orchestra {not exactly sure it was 100, but it was a lot} if their parents made them begin learning to play the instrument they played and made them practice. Not ONE hand went up! They all took up the instruments on their own and had the desire to play them. If a child shows a big interest in playing something, let them try it out to see if they like it. Both of my sons bought a guitar and wanted to play it. Only one plays today and he only began a year ago and LOVES it!
We started my son a few years ago. He never practiced and wasn't crazy about the lessons, so we stopped. This year, he started to learn some piano at school, liked it and asked for lessons. We got a recommendation for a different teacher, and for the past few months he has loved the lessons and practices all the time.
It sounds like he has found his talent!
Great advice!
I wish the Duggar girls had had a chance to have some of the high school fun you did! I'm sure they would've been fine, as you were, since they had godly parents.
8 replies · active 562 weeks ago
Cheerleading is the ONLY thing I liked about it. I hated hearing and seeing some of the drinking, smoking {Yes, they had a section designated to smoking}, the drugs, the bad language, the immodesty plus the classes were boring, the girls gossiped a ton, watching couples make out on campus, hearing about couples having sex, etc. It was difficult seeing so many people living their lives completely contrary to God's ways and having to be exposed to it. There wasn't much "fun" about it. I would have much preferred being raised like the Duggars.
Sounds like the Christian University I attended.
Sadly, you are right, Kim. Denise Prager {he talks a ton about education} thinks there are only a small handful of truly Christian colleges now. I went to Westmont College and back then, it was a night and day different experience than high school had been. My children went to Biola University {one in the small handful} and they loved it. They had to minor in Bible and the majority of professors are still biblically conservative. No drinking, drugs, etc. is allowed on campus so they didn't have it shoved into their faces like it happens in public universities.
Why did you choose to send your kids to public high school then? Just curious
Alyssa went to a gigantic public high school for one semester and didn't like it at all and was then home schooled until her senior year when she went to a Christian high school. The rest of our children were home schooled and/or attended the same Christian high school that was fabulous! {I would typically delete your comments, Gerry, since I know you don't really care about me or my ministry and make up lies about me, but I think it is good for my readers to know some of the answers to your questions and what we did about our children's schooling.}
You deleted my earlier post, so I will tone it down. I went to a private Christian university, and the things you mentioned above happening at public universities happened at the private Christian university. I'm sorry to burst your bubble that private Christian universities have the same problems that public university have, but it is true. Your children had a wonderful time. Good. I didn't. I'm glad to be out, will never return, and will not send my kids there. I went to the private Christian university to build my faith, as I had little support in high school. Big mistake. While there, I threw the Bible away.
Thank you for toning it down, Kim. The reason I deleted it is because you made very critical comments about home schooling and someone responded under you to further tear it apart. Sure, home schooling, Christian universities, etc. are not perfect but I don't want them torn down on my blog. I see a ton of fault with the public school system. We, as believers, are not to be equally yoked with unbelievers. We are called to "come out" and "separate" from them. 2 Cor. 6:15-18 It doesn't mean that we can't be with them and even have unbelieving friends but we are not suppose to participate in the deeds of darkness in anyway and it is almost unavoidable in public schools these days. I don't see how putting our children into government run institutions all day and being trained in ways that completely exclude God can be pleasing to Him in any way.
I am curious as to which "Christian University" you went to. We were quite selective as to which Christian University we sent our kids to. Almost all Christian Universities eventually become secular. Duke, Yale, Harvard, Princeton, tough to find many that did not start out Christian just to exult the mind over God's Word. "Claiming to be wise, they became fools" Romans 1:22. It's all about history repeating itself as God builds a family of God with those who will walk by faith.

It is probably harder to go to a luke warm Christian University on a Christian young person than a secular university. Regardless, true Believers believe unto the end and hold onto Jesus always. It is the one great mark of a true believer and if you threw your Bible away one of two things will be proven. You either never knew the Lord Jesus and took Him as your personal Savior, or you did, and you will return to Him after sensing His love and discipline in your life. I hope you will some day soon look to Jesus again and throw away whatever has made you angry and frustrated with the faith. Jesus did not do that to you.

One cannot ultimately blame the university. Christianity is a personal faith and not one based on what others teach or believe, but on what each one of us will hold onto by faith. I chose Jesus, and to hold onto Him not matter what.

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