Men shouldn't hit women. Women shouldn't hit men. Men should love their wives as Christ loved the church. Wives should submit to and respect their husbands as the church submits to Christ. Neither party is more guilty of destroying marriages. Neither side is fulfilling their role more perfectly than the other.
We live in a fallen world. Men and women hit each other. Men and women get drunk and do many foolish things. Men and women use each other. All of God's beauty is corrupted by man. Should we be surprised? No.
My sons honor me. They treat me with love, care for me, would protect me in a moment's notice, defend me, and respect me. They would NEVER dream of hurting me in any way. They are treating their wives in the same way. They were taught from the time they were little to love and respect others. They were taught to treat others better than they treat themselves. They are men of God who walk in His ways and love their wives, their mother, and their daughter {Steven doesn't have one yet, but Ryan does and I am SURE Steven will love his daughter when and if God blesses him with one.}.
Too many little boys are growing up without fathers. Too many are not being taught the value of human life and how to love others. {After all, they are taught they come from monkeys.} They are not being taught to love and serve the Lord. They are being taught that it is okay to objectify women and look at them naked doing all sorts of abominable things {pornography} and use them to satisfy their own needs, not treasure as a human being.
Too many little girls are growing up feeling unloved by their fathers. They deeply desire a man's affection so they try to win it in all the wrong ways. They become flirtatious and chase after men giving themselves sexually to men without any commitment or love. It all leads to heart break and destruction.
Ray Rice is a symptom of a much bigger problem. The problem is a society that has completely thrown out God and His ways; the fact that we are all created in His image and have value, that the true meaning of love is sacrifice and commitment, and that each sex fulfills different roles in society and each role has value in a healthy and vibrant society. We are a broken society with broken families and broken people desperately in need of a Savior and that Savior's name is Jesus. It won't be fixed with a Band aid {Congress making more laws, the NFL commissioner being fired, etc.}. This is not the answer. Jesus is the answer.
He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
He counts the number of the stars;
He gives names to all of them.
Great is our Lord and abundant in strength;
His understanding is infinite.
Psalm 147:3-6
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MrsMike · 550 weeks ago
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Ken · 550 weeks ago
Beyond this, who in their right mind would go flailing at a 280 pound hunk of steel and expect that it is going to turn out with any decent ending. No 180 pound man would take on such stupidity, but a 135 pound women is going to go whack her man? That either means she trust him enough to control himself, or she is drunk as a skunk. I guess her rage might propel her to do it, but please be advised that none of us should do anything more than walk away from someone who is slapping us, and seek help from the authorities.
I think alcohol may be playing a big role in this case, for both parties. Any mind altering drugs make people do stupid things that often ruins their lives. This is a sad case, for at least all that I knew about Rice was that he was an OK guy and giving back to society. Maybe there was much more hidden with him, but I sure hope not, and I hope he and his wife use this difficult time to find their answers in Christ Jesus.
Ashley · 549 weeks ago
Ken · 549 weeks ago
One must be able to analyze a situation from both sides of a story with a view to offering advice so such an event never occurs again. We must caution others to always protect themselves, and unfortunately in doing so we are far too often dealing with real life situations when the topic comes up. It is not meant to bash anyone, but the fact is that the vast majority of date rape and physical abuse is preventable if women are educated as to how they can protect themselves, and what they should look for in the men they find themselves with. It is so sad for any victim whether it is preventable or not, and the victim is not responsible for what her attacker does. That is on him 100%. But with a look to the future, women must take responsibility for what they do before the event happens. This is an ugly and sinful world where women and men need to protect themselves by making wise decisions in advance of finding themselves in an irretraceable situation.
No going to bars and night clubs, at least not sleazy ones for certain. Keep your alcohol at a low level and avoid all drugs while watching how much the person you are with is drinking. Do not get into a car with a stranger, ever. Do not go home with a stranger on any first date or bring him to your place. Always insist on a third date minimum before kissing, and ideally only kiss in a serious relationship, engagement or wait until marriage. This keeps any guy looking for the wrong things at bay. The list is endless what a Christian and non-Christian person can do to protect themselves. I am not throwing victims under the bus, but instead appealing to people to think before they find themselves in a bad situation that is often preventable with common sense and awareness.
It should now be known by all women and men never to hit another, or to hit back if he/she hits you. Instead, go get help. The idea that somehow people are not capable of following through on this advice no matter what circumstances is beyond reasonable. Never depend on someone else’s ability to control their own emotions when making any retaliation. I have known of men who have misjudged other men and women, escalated an situation only to have a wine bottle broken over their head, or be stabbed. Assume all people will try to repay you double what you have given to them, and that that may temper one’s response.
This is a teaching blog and at the risk of some hurt feelings, we will speak the truth, especially for young people who want to play with fire, yet feel they will never get burned. I hope you understand. No one here wants to blame any victim.
Ashley · 549 weeks ago
Desiree · 550 weeks ago