Yes, according to most cartoons and television shows. I was reading Berestain Bears to my grandchildren and noticed that Papa Bear is always doing something stupid and Mama Bear, the smart and reasonable one, fixes him and the family. I loved watching The Flintstones when I was growing up. Fred and Barney were buffoons but their wives were the smart and intelligent ones on the show.
The majority of programs when I was growing up were like these shows as they are today. No wonder, we women, think we know it all and we have to set our husbands straight. {As you can see in the above picture, all the family needed to have their manners set straight by Mama Bear, including Papa Bear. Mama Bear set up the manners and consequences, then as soon as Papa Bear blew it, he had to dust the whole house.} Think of these shows compared to Father Knows Best! Oh, how far we have fallen.
As you can see, we were all raised thinking women were better than men if you watched cartoons or television shows growing up. When we get married, we think we need to set them straight since we are smarter. Isn't it amazing that Satan can even use cartoons to set little girls up for having bad marriages? Little boys are raised to think that women are smarter, therefore, they need to allow their wives to lead the home because 'if mama ain't happy, nobody's happy.'
I remember Debi Pearl saying that right after she was married, before they even consummated their marriage, they went shopping for some hamburger meat. Michael picked out an expensive one and she told him she thought it was too expensive. He gave her a look that said something like, "And I married you to tell me what to do?" She said that after that, she never tried to run his life.
I have had many women tell me that they are more "spiritual" than their husbands. They read their Bibles more and go to more Bible studies so in their minds, they are more spiritual. However, who acts more like Jesus? Which spouse is uncritical, loving, generous, and more accepting of others? The fruit of one's life says a lot more about who is more "spiritual" than time spent reading the Word and going to Bible studies. {Although I think it is VERY important to spend time daily in God's Word, as you know!}
We must be very careful about treating our husbands without respect as if we are better than them. Just our critical, manipulating, and especially our prideful thoughts of thinking we are better than them shows us we are definitely NOT! It's so much easier to see other's faults instead of our own. I think it's much safer to not say or think you are better than your husband in anything and simply love, respect, submit to and obey him instead. Let God work out all the kinks.
For through the grace given to me I say to everyone
among you not to think more highly of himself
than he ought to think;
but to think so as to have sound judgment,
as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.
Romans 12:3
For through the grace given to me I say to everyone
among you not to think more highly of himself
than he ought to think;
but to think so as to have sound judgment,
as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.
Romans 12:3
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Lady Virtue · 528 weeks ago
Lori, thank you for posting this. It humbled me to read it, rightfully and deservedly so. I have been guilty of believing myself to be more spiritually mature and all around smarter than my husband. I thank God that he puts up with me; some days aren't so easy!
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pedatebediyah 0p · 528 weeks ago
I love your take on it, Lori. Dalrock wrote about it as well, though in a less charitable way on his "Women are innately good" post from 2012. You are both very much on point. In fact, I think you actually commented on that post.
Lori you are one of a handful of trustworthy women in Christ who seek to restore order to the mess that churchian teaching and counseling has done to Christian couples.
While I truly believe that most Titus 2 women are either dead, have been abducted by aliens, or are being silenced by the F.l...and that there are zero Proverbs 31 women living today, I give you a nod on being faithful to the Titus 2 call.
I was thinking... about the Bill Cosby mess and the first Bill Cosby show. What do you think of his portrayal as a Father? I think that he commanded a great deal of respect from the children and was definitely respected as an authority figure among his peers and his adult friends.
However, as I think back, I would be inclined to say even though he did supplicate to Claire, she, unlike most women (on TV and in real life) didn't usurp or attempt to covertly emasculate him. This was partly due to the fact that he had no issues being self-deprecating as, his humor made him attractive, outside of the physical sense - which I'd have to say he wasn't considered so by most women.
So on one hand, I think it's okay if the kids and moms laugh at Dad, if Dad is laughing along. But when the rubber meets the road, respect had surely better be given unconditionally, or there will (should) be consequence. This is what is lacking in the narrative of western society, and has a stronghold on Christian families and church teaching.
The challenge to assert godly (Biblically ordained) leadership and frame is Sisyphean indeed, because not only aren't the women trying to hear it, their Pastor (if he is of the Driscollean ethic) isn't either.
And no single man, who seeks to be a devout godly leader wants to be accused of "abuse" just because he wants his household to be one that has a mission to be obedient to the Word?
Papa Berenstain (devout godly head of household) bangs on the table, and demands that his family be orderly and respectful according to the word = ABUSE.
Robin · 528 weeks ago
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klajicd 0p · 528 weeks ago
Husband= stupid, unsophisticated. bumbling, crotch-scratching, cretin.
Wife=intelligent, brilliant, wise, morally superior, there to teach the husband and keep him from accidentally killing himself from stupidity.
This is the script of every movie, TV show, and commercial for as long as I can remember. I am trying to teach my sons differently. But with no model, I have to reach WAY back.
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